Yesterday I witnessed the robbery of my neighbor's house. I took my dog for a walk, passed the bend of the graveled road, and saw a car in front of his house, with a man standing next to it. I knew instantly: something is wrong.
When the man saw me coming, he gave a shout, he walked around the car, and opened the trunk lid completely. From the house came two other men. They jumped in the car and went away. The purpose of opening the trunk lid is clear I suppose: I couldn't see the license number.
There were still some 50 meters to go, but I was sure what to find - I have had the same experience some time ago. Indeed, an open door, a lot of things on the floor, clothes, bags and so on. A laptop on the stairs outside, probably forgotten when they hurried away.
It's the usual hit and run. You have a holiday house, most of the time the windows shuttered, the main door provided with an iron grating. But then you are there. They notice. And, when you go for a visit to one of those delightful hilltop towns, they come.
I left the place as it was, securing his laptop in my house and went to the village where his odd job man lives. When I came back with the man, the owner of the house, a German, had just returned, and tried to warn the police with "his" Italian - it didn't work. So, I took over and informed the carabinieri. They promised to come - which in Italy can work out to be a long term promise.
I had done my job - an easy job. I restored the computer, gave the owner a pat on the back, promised him to return when the police was there, trying to comfort him with the fact that I had had the same experience, which was no comfort at all.
The man was outraged. Knowing the man had suffered a heart attack lately, I prayed another neighbor, who is very good in handling all kind of people, to go to the man:
» che posso fare, Leonardo, non parlo Tedesco (what can I do)
» da’ un abbraccio (put an arm around his shoulder)
It didn’t' work either.
In its essence it's just two things: it's about money - sometimes a thing of personal value - which will be compensated for by the insurance company.
And then there's something which comes later: you know yourself intruded in your intimacy, which sometimes turns out to be traumatic ... I felt it again, the moment I saw the door opened, the clothes at the floor.
In the evening he and his wife came along to thank me, while I was having dinner with my German friend - which helped them to relax a bit, because now they could share it with a fellow countryman. I offered them a glass of wine, uttering the usual phrases: it was nothing, I did my duty ... that kind of stuff.
This morning they left early to return to Germany. When I went out with my dog I found at my garden gate a basket with bottles of wine, homemade. I wondered: who could have done that?
There was a note. It read: Grazie ancora una volta per la tua aiuto. Danke und bis bald.
Sometimes it is impossible to fathom the real impact of what you do.


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I am so glad you were there for the neighbor, and see that he appreciated what you did.
Your story was very well written. I was able to visualize...particularly since I saw the photos of your villa on your web site.
I learned that professionals will open the bottom drawers first. I never thought about the trunk.
That said, you were supportive and caring. This neighbor...who may not have understood your language, clearly understood your intention and was grateful.
Losing one's earthly possessions through theft is a big blow, but the knowledge that one's life and private space have been intruded upon so haphazardly by total strangers has a much longer lasting and traumatizing effect.
R♥
I fully believe in this world that this is the main event for we humans: do we secure the neighbor's belongings for them when they've been robbed, offer an arm or a wave hello -- or do we close off ourselves and feel nothing for our fellow man.
This also happens here a lot, where there are many vacation homes, cabins by a lake -- except here folks leave all their belongings in the vacation home then leave for months at a time, having other belongings in the next home, I guess.
Thieves can hardly believe how easy it is, and there is no human around to notice, or to console, for they are gone too. I don't think that is how communities thrive...
Just curious.
God may be out there, waiting for our refined brains to understand.
But if there is a god, then he doesn’t only want us to figure him out, as we will, but also help our fellow creatures, which you did, and will be rewarded for, somehow.
Karma runs the universe,alongside evolution. They are intimately connected. To evolve is to “develop something gradually into something more advanced….”
Evolution is currently not making many changes in our physical being ..but in our mental and emotional being it is rumbling along….
it was nothing! you did do your duty
but to whom,what, where?
You did good; real good.
I appreciate that.
I didn't tell this to display my "heroic" behavior - there was nothing heroic.
I didn't tell this story to complain burglary, or to call for neighborhood watch groups.
I don't like complaining, and I don't like the real effects of watch groups.
Normally I don't like telling personal stories in public space.
But here two questions raised:
- do burglars really not understand what they are doing - we know of the vendetta's between feuding criminal groups, because of honor, or something like that.
- how about my emotional involvement - I noticed that I was very upset, because of my own experiences
That's what I wanted to tell.
I'm, as I say in my bio, really fascinated.
Most of your people I know are so Okay. And the picture you're constant building up to destroy that image, with your collateral damage - and for sure hey, we don't build that image ourselves.
How about?
I don't know.
Do you?
As for your deed, it was a good one. Heroic or not, it was the right thing to do and had more of an impact than you might have predicted. Good deeds, even simple ones, often do.
Nice piece.
rated with love
People who take from others always leave a ripple of negative energy. It's physical from the tangible losses. It's emotional and psychological from the invasion -- a terrible looming truth that we daily push back from our perceptive awareness -- security is an illusion. Nothing and no-place is truly safe.
If we focus on that, it can drive a sane person mad. We have to erect these barriers to reality so that we can continue to go to sleep, eat in relative peace, and reduce our overall stress. IN so doing, however, the more we engage in this negation of the reality of our true situations, the more inclined we become to inattentiveness. We lose touch with our senses and knowings that belie everyday awareness.
I personally take stock of my situation, knowing the illusory content of this reality -- self created from years of social and genetic programming -- and allow myself to keep the curtains in place as long as they are required, in order to get rest, destress and relax.
Like all other species, I do my best to stay attuned to my surroundings and only really worry about the things I might be able to do something about. It isn't that much, really.
So glad you posted this and don't forget -- your ripples brought you, ultimately more goodwill and a basket of handmade wine.
--r--