When I was in Grade 2 my teacher's name was Miss Spicer. Even though my mother was terminally ill I had the life of a child most times. I saw the sun come up and there were smiles during the day.
My friends were only interested in playing inside tree houses and buying penny candy. We rode bikes and played dolls. My favourite show was Razzle Dazzle and Captain Kangaroo. Mr. Green Jeans was not a child predator and everyone slept in twin beds on TV.
Life was pretty innocent.
Life now is not so innocent.
Kids in my neighbourhood watch people die and take drugs. There are some screwed up young children where I live and I fear for their future.
Just when you think things cannot get worse this happens.
How can two seven year old children be naked, have oral sex and not be noticed by the teacher? I was not going to write about it and then I asked myself.
If I can get one person to realize how exposing their children to things they should never see or hear has casualties then so be it. This just breaks my heart.
Read it and weep. To those that are guilty please wake up and look after your children.
You only get once chance at this!
Linda Seccaspina 2011
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what I found terribly disturbing was this statement from the school admin:
""Obviously it's a horrible situation for the kids, and it's a huge embarrassment for the school and for the district,"..."
It's more than a horrible "situation" and a "huge embarrassment". Its something that will haunt those children for the rest of their lives.
In this situation everyone needs to be fired. Just for that idiotic statement, fire the fucking lot of them!
And how do second graders even know about oral sex????????????
That they seem to- and know how to do it to is equally shocking and appalling...
Michelle.. someone asked me why I was not writing about it. I just cannot because it is heartbreaking. How do you do a blog about it without crying?
Flowerchild.. It was a 7 yr who went to an aid and turned the teacher in.
Michelle.. So was I.
Enemy... exactly.. these poor kids are exposed to so much.
Triology.. day 2 of the news coverage.
I know.. it is just too awful and something has to be done with these school systems.. they should all be fired.
There's some major failure in the schoolroom here and there's incredible failure at home and in society in general when this kind of thing can occur. How did these kids learn of these acts at age 7 in the first place? What were they doing? Where were the parents?
Good Lord, this is just about the most "wrong" thing I've ever heard.
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People have to know out there that some things they are doing i n the home is NOT right. Kids are way smarter than we were as a child
Torman - it is time someone stood up.. like the school and fired everyone.
The saddest part of all is what must have been going on in those childrens' homes. Kids mimic what they see, either online or in real life. While the teacher is certainly negligent, kids wouldn't think to do this kind of thing if they hadn't seen it, heard about, probably watched it on TV, or (dreadful but probable) seen it happen. Maybe it's been done to them.
Dreadful all around.
I thought long and hard about posting this but I have had enough to see these kids coming into harms way. It is killing me.
Scanner.. I know I saw a program on that once. It just boggled my mind
I was blown away.
But I think it's pretty misguided for anyone to feel that the teacher is at fault for this incident. Children who are acting out sexually at that age need to have their home situation evaluated.
Jeanette.. "their home situation evaluated" Exactly..
Rugrat.. I know I feel the same way.
But howinell is a teacher not going to NOTICE?????? Even if they're numbed by trying to teach way too many kids every day during the school year... you'd think they'd pick up on that!
I agree, fire every adult at that school. There are so many things wrong with this situation, you couldn't explain it all in a week.
AARGH!
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Little children who act out like those in the news story you mention are likely to be victims of sexual abuse. How the teacher could let something like that happen is anybody's guess.
Lezlie
The teacher may very well be fired because of this. The parents or guardians? Meh, probably not so much.
Shiral.. this is why I did the blog.. I was so upset and outraged.
Jali.. To me this while thing is not being handled right.
Lunchlady I agree.. these poor kids..
Bellwether.. one parent said "they learn this at home not at school."
Jonathan.. I so agree
Jeanette.. I bet the parents do not even miss a beat and retain custody.:(
In the picture you are doing what children that age should be doing -- having fun.
HUGGGGGGGG
The lack of supervision.. there are GOOD mums on OS.. I wish they would go visit these people
Ash.. HUGGG yes we do.
Jane.. I felt the same you did for the past 24 hours.. then I got mad. Parents need to know whats going on.
I say crap all the time. You jane did NOT fail.
What a sad world we live in.:(
No joke. I heard somebody call into talk radio to say this.
If there are libs out there who think this way, this will only play into the hands of right-wingers. Liberals need to be sensible on sexuality issues. I draw the line at children. Always have. I am quite conservative when it comes to protecting the very young and defenseless.
By a year or two younger than 7, I and my little mates (both sexes) had been playing with oral sex on a regular basis. And you did too! Nobody had to "see it at home" or "on TV" or the "Internet". We all thought we had invented 69. I remember being very surprised a few years later when I learned that "big people" knew all about it.
If you insist on believing that young people, long before pubescence, are "totally innocent" of sex, you'll only kid yourself. Kids younger than 1 year old have been observed to fondle themselves and it's no great leap for them to fondle each other as they become socialized a few years later.
I suppose you all have to act "horrified" as part of your cultural heritage of religious belief in the "pure innocence" of children. I call bullshit. YOU weren't THAT innocent and neither are your kids. Ask an child psychologist who payed attention in child psychology classes on this subject.
The way in which teachers are forbidden to maintain any class discipline these days means that there is a LOT going on that they don't know about in the chaos that is the result of our indoctrination by the idiot ideas of Dr. Spock.
Kids are human animals. Without outside discipline and not yet having developed self-discipline they will act on their feelings and impulses - some of which are sexual in nature. Get over it. It's been going on for tens of thousands of years. It is part of children's learning curve.
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RW5009. I am VERY liberal but you can count me as a conservative when something like this happens.
Diary.. Paid leave and union is protecting him.
Of course I am honest and will tell you a lot of us played doctor. But this is completely different in my mind.
I am not horrified because of religious beliefs but simply that of being a loving human being.
A lot of these kids have been abused by adults like Lezlie says and are mimicking what they have seen at home.
Yes, we had our faults but nothing like this in a classroom at a public school and not hiding. Just in plain site of other kids.
A walrond.. sadly they lose it an early age around here
I say again, this is not the teacher's 'fault'. I have never been a teacher, nor has anyone in my family. When a teacher does wrong, I'll jump on their ass as quickly as anyone.
Some of you are honest enough to acknowledge that you "played doctor" as kids. Did you learn that from watching your parents? I doubt it. Human children learn these things all by themselves. Maybe ASSISTED by parental insistence that they be "ashamed" of their bodies and keep them covered at all times.
If you would let go of your notions of "innocence" and realize that "true innocence" does NOT consist of lack of knowledge or lack of curiosity, but of exploring and experimenting with no motive to exploit each other as adults do.
That those children did this in a public place indicates that they simply accepted it as nothing unusual or to be "hidden away" in the manner of adults who are ashamed of their "sexy moments" and hide behind closed doors. That teacher, like you, is probably horrified that this happened in the classroom.
You, and others like you, adopted the Dr. Spock ideas or your parents did (alas, my generation) and you consider anything to do with "Your Little Angels" to ALWAYS be "someone else's " fault. Why can't you understand that "fault" is not always present when children act on their interests and urges? It is part of their growing up and learning about life and about others and themselves.
I may be wrong, but I'll bet that most of the desire to blame that teacher is caused by your own need to avoid personal guilt or to assign guilt to others so as to appear supportive of the children. You'll devastate a teacher and some parents by the time you get done with your witch hunt for a "guilty party". And that will be WRONG!!
You'll end up traumatizing those children and all the others in that class, not to mention a number of innocent parents. I've seen this kind of witch hunt take place here in Canada. A whole town had stupid charges laid by the police who are ever happy to haul people off to court.
Please give this sober second thought. There is nothing here, in all likelihood, to cause you to come charging out ready to make war on someone - anyone just so you can proudly say that you are "protecting children". You're going off half-cocked and the harm you will do is immeasurable.
I beg you to think twice.......
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Maryway..:(
Skypixie.. I was one of the very few mums that when my kids did something wrong I said 'it is their fault" punishment please.. I am not making war on anyone. I am just saying that things are very very wrong and this should never have happened but it did.
Time to fix things to make it all right again. IF that is possible.
Leon.. I si agree..
Cartouche.. It sure is
May I ask, sir, just what computer screen you and I "saw something on" when we were kids? I can't speak for you, but we didn't have even a TV until I was 13 years old. Computers hadn't been invented. Your attempt to blame "somebody - something" for a perfectly natural behaviour of the kids doesn't hold water.
What is this sick need so many people have to totally disassociate themselves from the childhood "social" games that we all played and that these children now play in their turn? In most of the civilized parts of the world this behaviour would have been smiled at, by all the adults, and ignored. The parents might have spoken to their children about the classroom being an inappropriate venue for such explorations but no one would be having a fit over this.
Jeeze folks, get the heck off the pulpit, will ya? Next thing you'll be blathering on about is that it is "proper" to punish little boys for getting an erection and little girls for "rubbing one out" as they discover the pleasure in doing so. What world do you live in? It sure doesn't seem to resemble the one I call home.
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Rosycheeks.. so was I
And a child being yanked off the street, used and killed every week, just as last week's child's body is being found.
Sorry to be so late. It's been a hectic week.
Mimetalker. I so agree. I used to volonteer when my kids were in school and one teacher cannot do everything.
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