The video above was posted on Youtube December 17th, 2010, and received over 4 million hits and over 108,000 comments. There were over 107,000 anonymous remarks on this 12 year-old girl's video; one of many similar videos by children as young as 10 that are asking the same question.

"Am I pretty or ugly?"

"Deep down inside, all girls know that other people's opinions don't matter," the young teen said. "But we still go to other people for help because we don't believe what people say."

Am I just brain dead or does that statement seem to contradict itself?  It's not the Internet posting that's the issue, it's the low self-esteem and insecurity - this just has parental failure written all over it. The video has over 4 million views - why haven't the parents pulled it, and started monitoring her internet use? 

"I crawled out of my mother’s womb into darkness so deep it could not be measured and some days it feels like it is still suffocating me. Days of trying to fend for myself and do the right thing have not always resulted in a positive experience or outcome. I say balderdash to those that think keeping a positive outlook will eventually give the results you are looking for. Sometimes the mire is so deep anything positive cannot find its way into your life no matter how hard it tries."

All 300-1000 of these Youtube videos by kids ask the world to decide if they are acceptable and of course the viewers do quickly and often with many hateful comments. Some commentators call the young video creators "fugly", "attention whores" and some even have the audacity to ask for sex. It just amazes me how obnoxious and mean-spirited people are on the internet and many can be just plain cruel. What makes people think it's okay to talk maliciously to someone; especially a child? Is it because they are protected by the ever-dividing internet with a screen and not dealing with a real-live human being?

If I have read correctly; Youtube's posting policy prohibits videos and comments "containing harassment, threats or hate speech" and encourages users to flag such material for review." What a joke, a policy in which the users do the work, and they deny any fault.

"Self help books crowd the bookshelves with titles that profess to make you a stronger better person. I have always been a firm believer that only you can help yourself until you wake up one morning and find yourself sinking into the quicksand. Immediately you must quickly find some sort of invisible shovel to start digging your exit as you will not find any extended helping hands around you most times."

These particular videos remind me of these communities they had on "Livejournal" a long time ago where people would post their pictures for others to vote on them being ugly or pretty. Once they had enough "uglies" or "prettys", you were inducted into the club and could go on to judge other people the same way.

Of course it has come full circle in a sense. Facebook was originally created by Mark Zuckerberg, after he spent a night using "Hot or Not" as an inspiration for drunken shenanigans, which ultimately became a precursor to his social networking endeavors. 

"Maybe some of us are just asking for too much and are doomed to walk this fascinating journey full of non delicious surprises in a original theatrical cut for the rest of our lives."

Kids today have their own computers, smartphones, and they can easily access school or library computers or those of friends. Sadly the day of "parental" controls are gone as no parent can be an "overseer" 100% of the time.

We have created a world where being beautiful or handsome is the ultimate acceptance goal. Kim Kardashian is an example of a person who would be nowhere were it not for her looks, as being on television has become the measure of how you rank in the world. You can be famous now for being pregnant or acting like a drunken idiot as on MTV Shows such "Teen Mom" and "Jersey Shore". If you are not pretty, rich or famous; you are judged and bullied by your peers and kids today feel that they might never stand a chance of being loved.

The internet isn't the problem, we ourselves are the problem and social media should not be for kids. "Phineas and Ferb" on the Disney Channel have cartoon characters singing songs about surfing safely on the internet and one might think that an 8 year old might be too young to be reminded of this. After watching a lot of these videos today I now think that is the right age to be driving home that anything you post on the internet might not go away.

So many young girls with makeup asking us if they are pretty makes me sad as we live in a world where we are judged by our looks and possessions. In the end it really doesn't matter as you need to love yourself the way you are and if people don't like it-well you know.

" The love you seek is seeking you at this moment.” (Deepak Chopra)

Linda Seccaspina 2012

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Ask Kirstie Whittaker how she feels in the video below as she just wants someone to love her for who she is.