SEPTEMBER 27, 2011 10:41AM

Open Call: Interview With My Bully

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Over at big Salon, we're kicking off a new series called "Interview with my Bully."  (The first entry from Steve Almond ran last night).  As part of an effort to broaden the conversation about the bullying epidemic in our schools, we'll be running a number of these Q&As between people and their childhood bullies -- and we'd love to hear your stories, too.

Remember someone who made your life miserable as a kid? Why not try to get back in touch (thanks, Facebook!) and see if they'll answer the questions you've always wanted to ask? The answers might surprise you.

Be sure to tag your Q&As "Interview with my Bully." We'll feature our favorites on the cover of Open Salon and we're hoping to cross-post a few on Salon as well.

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"Why not try to get back in touch (thanks, Facebook!) and see if they'll answer the questions you've always wanted to ask? The answers might surprise you."

HAHAHAHAHAHA!! What? You're serious!!??? Oh no,the questions I would ask would get me arrested. Can't I befriend the girl I had a crush on in high school and ask her questions? Does it have to be Butch?

He was and still is an asshole but he's now like 600 lbs and bald!! Lost all his teeth too!!! Hahaha. Revenge!!

~wanders off~
It is much more interesting to write about adults who bully other adults online, and provide examples. HAHA! HAHA!!
Epidemic my ass! Why not examine exactly what purpose our public schools serve - now that educated masses are no longer needed by the elite to defend thier wealth from the reds or produce goods to dump on the global market?
We certainly do not want to repeat the 60s by creating another generation of educated people to challenge the white right. Forcing this outdated system on children is more like sending them to prison than to "giving" them an education. Sure there will be kids who do well - and there will also be kids who bully, but the very act of taking your kid to a public school borders on child abuse. If your kid had a choice would she/he go to public school? Are you the bully that puts her/him on the bus?
Ihave updated my original comment (and posted it but I guess it does not fit what you were willing to post on open call:

Epidemic is right - but who is the bully? Why not examine exactly what purpose our public schools serve - now that educated masses are no longer needed by the elite to defend their wealth from the reds or produce goods to dump on the global market?
We certainly do not want to repeat the 60s by creating another generation of educated people to challenge the white right. Forcing this outdated system on children is more like sending them to prison than "giving" them an education. Sure there will be kids who do well - and there will also be kids who bully, but the very act of taking your kid to a public school borders on child abuse. If your kid had a choice would she/he go to public school? Are you the bully that puts her/him on the bus?

In institutions (where the inmates are not drugged beyond the ability to think) like public schools and prisons - you are told when and how to sit, speak, even eat. Teachers and prison guards enforce the regulations that students and inmates must obey. It is only natural for students and inmates to resist regulations - and create alternative power structures to those forced upon them. Hence we have bullies - in, out, around and in charge of our education system.

Public Schools and Prisons serve the needs of those who run them first, and those who are forced to be in them last. Perhaps the best thing public schools have done since the 60s is provide the largest prison population the world has ever known - while providing our educators a fine pension system for doing so.

From cannon fodder and corporate fodder we have decended into this hell we call public education. We need to storm the walls and turn them all into community gardens and craft shops.
Here's the URL.
http://open.salon.com/blog/trudge164/2011/09/29/wooly_bully_why_does_open_salon_hate_this_song
Awkward. That would be really awkward, since I'm still young enough that my bully probably doesn't realize that they had been bullying me yet.

They'd probably think I was bullying them!
This is a great area but what I would find most interesting is how people deal with adult bullies. I have encountered this issue and I still have not figured out how to resolve it. One of my jobs is a team environment and an adult bully can have a real detrimental effect. There are bully bosses, bully colleagues, administrative personnel who are bullies and in an office environment it is a very hard thing to deal with and resolve if quitting immediately is just not in the cards. I would LOVE to hear people's experiences.
The responses to the open call have been interesting to me. It's clear that many of us (including me) still have a very, very strong reaction to our bullies.
Why a bully gotta be a kiddie thing? I see bullies all the time and I ain't no child.