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JULY 5, 2008 5:34AM

Size Matters

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About 5 years ago, I found the ultimate diet and some very interesting things about clothes, sizes, and what about them matters.

I got really sick about 4.5 years ago.  I lost about 7 pounds a week for about 3 months before it was brought under control, another post. 

It was a pancreatic wasting disease and it was really bad.  I couldn't eat starch, fat, or protein without severe pain, as my pancreas was digesting itself because it would spray the enzymes that digest those foods into itself rather than tranferrring them to my stomach, which doesn't dissolve like regular flesh (made of fats, starches and protein !).  That isn't the complete explanation, but it will do and prevent anyone from "trying this at home".  I could only drink liquid nutrition in very small quantities because solid food set it off. My doctor called it a home gastric by-pass.  He's a laugh riot.

But that isn't the fun part.

I was the same size from the time I was 18 until this happened at 36 years old, give or take 1 size.  I went from a size XX or 20 up top and about a 16 pants to a Medium up top and a size 8 below.  From a 46 DD to a 38 DDD.  (no, the breasts did not go, first or any other time)  In 3 months. 

I had to replace my wardrobe 5 times over by shopping at goodwills and such because it happened that fast, I was swimming in my cothes, and clothes are expensive.  I looked like Barbie when it was finally over.

             beginning 2      k sept 2

 I found out some very interesting things about sizes and clothes. 

Really rich people give their clothes to goodwill every season because they will shop for more.  So the clothes at these stores are very high dollar clothes once you get into the smaller sizes.  The big stuff is cheap and worn out, because larger clothes are harder to find and they don't get tossed as often.  I didn't give mine up until I was down into single digit sizes.  I was told I would never be big again, bad news to me, having been big for my entire adult life and having grown to enjoy being "me".

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I was told that I would never be able to eat much of anything anymore and so I tossed all my really big clothes, anything over a 10, because I had hit hip and collar bone by the time I was a twelve.  I am 5'8".  Yeah, I looked like a fashion model by the time it ended.  Thin and kinda gaunt in the face.  I looked like I was dying to me.

But about the clothes.

As the cost of the clothes increased, the smaller the size, the larger the clothes.  So a Liz Claiborne pair of slacks in a size 6 fit me, but an off the rack Sears house brand did not.  Think about that.  Hilfiger jeans in a size 6 fit, but Wrangler size 8 did not.

That means that the clothes consumed by wealthy people are larger than clothes bought in cheaper stores.  So people who pay high dollar for clothes are also paying to have their tag size seem smaller.  I wondered if this could be true. 

So I tested it.  I went to very expensive stores and tried on expensive brands and some couture:  size 6-8.

Walmart, Sears, Belk:  size 8-12.

On the same day with the same body and the same undergarments.  I wasn't having periods anymore, so no bloat factor, either.

Sometimes you get things you don't even know you are paying for!

Oh, and the reason I finally gained weight, see "The Deal".  I was certain that something was really wrong because I had gained 5 pounds.

porch pregnant

After I delivered the baby, 75 pounds later, we discovered that swimming in his growth hormone for 8 months healed my pancreas.   Or a miracle occurred and I was meant to live, however you want to look at it.

So I had to buy all new clothes another 4 times on the way back up during the pregnancy and one final non-pregnancy set once I had lost the baby weight. 
Guess my size!  18.

 

             me then me now 0ct 7 bay and baby 1 month bw

And now I have worn the same size for another 3 years straight.  I am a natural size 16-18, barring wasting disease and pregnancy. 

So don't worry about what size the industries say you need to be.  Just keep track of the size you feel like you ought to be and stay there.

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happily and thankfully, size doesn't mean beauty or lack of it. Being Petite or Rubenesque, as I've said before, doesn't determine the source of beauty. You are beautiful Elizabeth. I especially like the photograph at the end, not just for the beautiful smile and the loveliness of the natural light coming from the side, but because of the inside and the outside.

Amazing the gymnastics you had to go through just to find some clothes that worked regardless of what size the company used to label them.

Brave post, not sure I could be as honestly revealing about myself.
Yes, E., you are right about the clothing sizes. Part of it has to do with where the clothes are manufactured, the rest with how they are marketed. For whatever reason, designer level clothing is more generous in fit.

For Doug and others: There is also the issue of junior vs. misses sizing. That is clothes cut and sized on the odd numbers 3-13 (think teenagers) vs clothes on the even numbers, usually 4-16 in department stores, 4-20 in catalogues, and 0-12 (or some variation of the same ) for couture. And then their is Chico's, with their own sizing 0-3 with 3 being about a 14/16 but cut more generously for mature women.

It is really hard to truly label ourselves with a proper "size". I just do it to mark increments in my weight. I have a whole box labeled "Dream 18's" because I haven't been that size for about seven years. Stress and menopause are rough on some women's size labeling...Thanks for sharing E.!
I used to think that I was ugly because I was fat. That was what I got from everything I read or saw. I thought this when I was a child in my heart.

I got really tired of it and eventually got over it. It was real work and it is still hard to see the picture in the yellow dress. I was in a big even for me phase, but it is just what it was. And when I see that picture in the size 8 shorts, I cringe because I know how I felt when that is how I looked. I paired those on purpose.

On sharing...I hope somebody reads it and stops judging how good a person they are today by which box of clothes they have to choose from.

I didn't change on the inside during the whole process. It convinced me that what beauty I have or don't have is going to come from inside. I can still be quite ugly when my temper is bad, but at least I know it can and does change.

I am not ashamed of much. I am not really sure how much this revealed. It's just a shell.
Clothes manufacturers have a name for it, vanity sizing.
France recently did a resizing system. They measured tens of thousands of people in random places. It was a very large undertaking, they needed the resizing for all kinds of manufacturers.
Truly, your son is a miracles baby.

And you are living proof of the benefit of human growth hormone. Maybe that has something to do with how well many women feel during the middle of a pregnancy.

Wonderful photos! I cringed, though, when I read about your rapid weight loss. I can only imagine how exhausted and ill you must have felt then.
Now *that's* a story!

And your reporting from the other side is pretty darn fascinating.
Yes, beautiful post, Priddy. You shine through in every word. I agree with what Barry said about the final pic, but honestly, my favorite is the one in the yellow dress. Something about the way you are sitting and holding your hair, I just find it very elegant and attractive.
Personally, I've found that the opposite tends to be true with Men's clothes, or at least men's shirts. A Ralph Laura or Tommy Hilfinger knitted shirt is more *fitted* than something from Wal-Mart. (The designer brands often fit better, too, even if I have to go up a size.) I have a pretty good mix of generic and name-brand shirts, and on average, the name brands feel smaller.

Weird, huh?
Lovely post.

Hey, you need to get over your hangup about that pic in the yellow dress - it was immediately my favorite. There is something very artistic in the unstudied pose; you look both girl and woman, innocent and womanly. It's very classic looking, that pic. Like a painting.

And you have beautiful, beautiful skin!
I almost called this "There and Back Again", but I think someone else already claimed that.

That picture in the yellow dress was taken as a model for the hands as I braided my hair. I wanted to do a painting of a woman braiding her hair and the only way I coud get the fingers right was to take pictures of actually doing it. I look just like my grandmother in it, she was a big woman, too.

You all are very kind. It is hard to show pictures of yourself when things were weird. It flashes back to the strangest time of my life, and that is really saying something.

You would think I would love the picture in the shorts, but by then I hadn't eaten solid food in two months and had no hope that I ever would be able to do it again. And that, friends, is a drag. I relish eating now and will get mean with people who are inclined to give me grief about it. I have starved, actually starved, until my hair started falling out. So, I will decide what I eat now that I can.

So this explains one reason I am quite content to be fat. The alternative for me is bizarre.
That kind of thing is scary. I once went into clinical depression after being dumped by a girlfriend, and lost 17 pounds in 2 months. I was pretty young--only 19--and weighed 160 pounds at the beginning, 143 at the end. Given that I'm 5'9" tall and have a pretty prominent chin and dark circles under my eyes (they're congenital, like Nixon's), I looked like the Death from "Bill and Ted's Bogus Journey," only not as healthy.

Rapid weight loss tanks.
What Sandra said. I thought the yellow sun dress or whatever was totally hot.
"So don't worry about what size the industries say you need to be. Just keep track of the size you feel like you ought to be and stay there."

Bingo. I am so sorry you learned this mighty lesson the hard way, but awfully glad you gained health and a son in the process.

And bravo. Your pictures and your words compete for descriptive clarity. Not to mention bravery, honesty and a welcome view of both inner and outer beauty.

It's such a pleasure getting to know you better and better through your unique and beautiful posts.
Elizabeth...I went through a similar situation (different disease) where I lost a great deal of weight over a relatively short period of time. I can so empathize with your beautiful post. I, too, have gained most of it back, partly due to medication I take.

Thanks for opening up...you have inspired me to maybe do the same.

Marsha
Being honest and direct about your life frees you from the fear of people finding out about the "real" you.

I am certain that there are plenty of folks who don't care for me. I am too direct, kind of harsh about some things. But that weeds the people out for me. It makes it easier to decide who to talk to. I like people who like me. I spent a lot of youth chasing after people who didn't really like me, but I wanted them to. Wasted time and energy. Not everybody is going to or should like you.

Once you stop that, you are suddenly surrounded by people that you like and that like you. And isn't that what we all really want?

Letting go of secrets frees you up for life.
Shriners, Know Fat Chicks, and this post were hard to let out there. But they have made me feel free and light as a feather.

And I found that a lot of people have common experiences with me and that makes for people who understand me and that I understand. And that makes for friends.

So it is worth it to let the fear of rejection go.
"So it is worth it to let the fear of rejection go."

Absolutely! Thanks, again!!
You're inspiring. Truly. Between your honesty and your art you're making me want to be bolder.
Go for it, Sister!

The people around here are good company and appreciate a good weirdness.
You are pretty amazing, Elizabeth. I love the last piccie because you look so beautiful and your skin is positively wondrous. I've bounced up and down the weight spectrum myself, though not so radically, and I understand exactly what you mean. What's under the skin is pretty wondrous too.
"I am too direct, kind of harsh about some things.I spent a lot of youth chasing after people who didn't really like me, but I wanted them to. Wasted time and energy. Once you stop that, you are suddenly surrounded by people that you like and that like you."

It's official. We are twins. Come over for some mimosas and huevos some weekend.
I wonder how many people reading this based on the cover caption thought there would be diet tips...

There is only one to be taken from my story. Don't eat anything, ever. And you will be dramatically thinner in no time at all !
I think I was gone for this post, I appreciate your honesty and yes, you are beautiful -- I agree with Barry about the light and your skin!
"That means that the clothes consumed by wealthy people are larger than clothes bought in cheaper stores. So people who pay high dollar for clothes are also paying to have their tag size seem smaller. I wondered if this could be true. "

No need to wonder. It is true. I'm a former fashion design student, and that's one of the things they taught us.

No real reason other than rich ladies want to believe they're a 6 when they might really be a 10.