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Erica K

Erica K
New Jersey, USA
September 26
I have a new blog: Grew up in Jackson Heights, New York, but now live in Jersey. Married and the proud owner (servant?) of 4 cats, including a little blind guy named Quincy. Jobs have included: English teacher in U.S. and abroad, cabaret performer and member of a NYC sketch comedy troupe; now a legal secretary and freelance writer. Other jobs: canvasser for NYPIRG/cannery worker in Naknek, Alaska (a fisherman told me it was "the ugliest part of Alaska")/dog kennel cleaner/member of the swine and poultry crew on a California farm. "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better." Samuel Beckett


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JUNE 3, 2011 6:43AM

Survivor's Guilt

We went through it all together, or so it seems.  The doctors’ appointments, the diagnosis, the challenges of everyday living, the aides, Easter weekend, Mother’s Day, movies and poems.  Only difference is that mom’s institutionalized, and I’m not.  My husband L… Read full post »

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MAY 29, 2011 9:57AM

My Kingdom for a Fridge

“The people united will never be defeated.
El pueblo unida jam
ás será vencido.”

            --Frederic Rzewski

In 1985 I was a rojita, or so I was called.  My boyfriend, let’s call him “Doug,” and IRead full post »

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MAY 18, 2011 12:32AM

Alzheimer's Isn't Just for the Old

The last time I rallied for a cause was in 2003, marching with fellow New Yorkers against the impending Iraq War.  Before that I’d done nothing of significance in the political arena since the 80s, when I was a vibrant 20-something full of hopes and dreams, not to say I haven’tRead full post »

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MAY 10, 2011 5:15PM

Breaking Bad Makes Me Feel Good

My husband and I started watching AMC’s Breaking Bad in 2009, so we missed the first season and had to order it on Netflix.  I was immediately hooked, rather, obsessed with the show.  The main character, Walter White, is an anti-hero, recently diagnosed with incurable, stage three lun/… Read full post »

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MAY 1, 2011 5:46PM

We Have All Been Here Before

“If I had ever been here before I would probably know just what to do
Don’t you?
 . . . And I feel
Like I've been here before,
feel like I’ve been here before.”
            David Crosby

Another call this morning fromRead full post »

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APRIL 27, 2011 9:10PM

The Guitar Lesson

“But Jesus called for the children and said,
‘Let the children come to me;
do not try to stop them;
for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.’ ”
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APRIL 26, 2011 12:21AM

The Wheelchair

Sunday, April 24

I hate my mother.  It’s Easter Sunday evening and I should be loving Jesus and hopping down the bunny trail or returning from it.  It’s hard not to hate your abuser even if that abuser is your parent, sick or not.

Mom has had trouble raisingRead full post »

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APRIL 21, 2011 12:16PM

The Whispering Wall

After support group last night, some of us went to Zocalo, a Mexican restaurant in the Grand Central Station concourse, for margaritas.  To protect the innocent, I will refer to the ladies as "S", "L", "D","A" and "E." 


There is always a victory to celebrate, large or small.  S/… Read full post »

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APRIL 17, 2011 5:50PM

Gimme Shelter

“We belong together, we’re happy together,
and life is a song.
When we are together, we know
we are where we belong.”

                        Oscar Hammerstein & JRead full post »

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APRIL 12, 2011 8:52PM

The Fair Hearing

Welcome to the Office of Temporary and Disability Assistance (OTDA), 16th Floor, 14 Boerum Place, Brooklyn, New York.

Signs that greet you:

“No Fumar
Por Favor
Audencias en Progreso

Quiet Please!
No Cell Phones Permitted
Surveillance by Closed Circuit TV in Use”

Welcome to paleRead full post »

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APRIL 2, 2011 10:15AM

You'll Never Walk Alone

“When you walk through the storm
Hold your head up high
And don’t be afraid of the dark.”

                        Rodgers & Hammerstein, Carousel

On Tuesday evening… Read full post »

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MARCH 22, 2011 5:43PM

The Edge

“We’re all put to the test, but it never comes in the form or at the point we would prefer, does it?”

– David Mamet, The Edge

This morning at 6:00 a.m I found mom sitting on the floor of the bathroom unable to get up.  I askedRead full post »

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MARCH 10, 2011 3:28PM

I'm Still Here

“Flush velvet sometimes,
Sometimes just pretzels and beer,

But I’m here.”

--Stephen Sondheim


On the way to mom’s, I stopped at CVS for the blood pressure medication, a box of her favorite oatmeal cookies and something new, Anna’s Ginger Thins in a burgundy box… Read full post »

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MARCH 8, 2011 8:42AM


Is it seasonal affective disorder or is it me?  I woke up happy on Sunday, today I woke up sad.  Usually I wake up manic, fists figuratively clenched, battle-ready for the next crisis. 

Dad stayed with us Sunday night and I drove him to Grand Central Station Monday toRead full post »

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FEBRUARY 1, 2011 5:33PM

Slow Down, You're Moving Too Fast

Last Friday I diapered my mother for the first time.  She has been "wetting" as she calls it so much that a maxi pad isn't sufficient.  I thought she'd fight me over it, since she has always been vain, but when I explained that they were "panties with a pad inside" she had… Read full post »