Tomorrow morning, or I should say in few hours from now, I am going to my first job interview... well, ever, and as I toss and turn in my bed unable to sleep due to anticipation and anxiety, one thought fills my head:
Why do male celebrities not receive the same level of ridicule, derision, scorn, shame, criticism, and defamation of character when they pose topless or totally nude that women receive when they posed topless or nude?
What do Sylvester Stallone, Denzel Washington, Samuel L Jackson, Jackie Chan, Bruce Willis, Brad Pitt, James Garner, Clint Eastwood, Leonardo DiCaprio, Mark Wahlberg, and Arnold Schwarzenegger, all have in common?
They have all posed nude in either magazines or movies.
In fact I challenge anyone to pick an actor and see if they can't find any nude photos or clips of them. As I watch the show Lost, which was full of hunks, I noticed every male actor in the show had at least one shirtless scene, and a lot had scenes in which there was a lot of hint that they were completely nude.
Topless men are in every TV show or movie, even the G rated ones, and they are as common place as commercial product placements are.
Women often write about how much they drool over Jon Hamm, the star of the feminist show Mad Men, and he often prances about the show topless, in only shorts, or completely naked.
Does anyone question the integrity, qualifications, decency, shame, intelligence, or career of Jon Hamm?
Of course not, but Olivia Munn is deemed unfit for the Daily Show because she posed non-nude for Playboy, and Miley Cyrus is labeled a tart because she gave racy, non-nude, poses to a major non-porn magazine.
Why the double standard?
It is easy to find pictures of Arnold Schwarzenegger exposing his dick to a crowd, but the man was elected governor of the most populated state in America twice (and elected as a Republican no less).
If Barbara Boxer had exposed her vulva to a crowd and a camera, does anyone believe she would ever have had a chance of getting elected to state-wide public office?
Of course not, and again; why the double standard?
Because men jack-off to pictures and videos of nude women, and... hell, I'll probably jack-off to a picture of a nude woman to relieve tension and stress after I finish this blog post (the wife is asleep, so I'm not going to wake her up for sex).
And society is programmed to believe that every woman who poses nude or topless is doing so intentionally to provide men with jack-off material.
Why do we hold it against women because they - supposedly - pose nude to provide jack-off material?
What's wrong with jacking-off to pictures of nude women? I admit I do it, and I'm sure 99% of straight men (including your father and the president of the United States) also jack-off to pictures of nude women.
Men feel ashamed that they jack-off to pictures of nude women, and women resent men for jacking-off to pictures of other nude women.
Masturbation is completely safe, totally free, a great cure for headaches and insomnia, and the best stress relief.
But most importantly, not all women are posing nude, or semi-nude, to provide jack-off material; they are posing nude for the same reason men pose nude:
They got the goods.
If you have the goods - the goods god, hard work, discipline, good eating habits, and a hell of a lot exercise, gave you - why not flaunt them and make a lot of money?
And why would we ridicule, deride, scorn, shame, criticize and defame anyone for making money off of the goods god, hard work, discipline, good eating habits, and a hell of a lot exercise, gave them?
We certainly don't ridicule, deride, scorn, shame, criticize and defame men for flaunting their goods.
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Men have non-functioning decorative nipples. Women have the real deal. The real deal is so powerful it "must" be hidden, or only displayed on occasions of great importance, reflecting their power.
BTW, I've clocked thousands of hours drawing nekkid people -- five years in art school. I've seen naked men & women, young and old, fat and thin, black and white and yellow and brown and red, pretty and ugly.
After a while, the "nakedness" 'disappears to you, and all you see is the splendor of the human body. I think doctors get to this stage too, but not many other people. After that, it's nearly impossible to see anything human as "dirty" or foreign or strange.
One problem in our culture that produces the issues you detail above is that we ONLY EVER see the bodies of very young, fit, beautiful people -- mostly young women. The result is that bodies that do not conform to this ideal (or that of the taut Swedish male model) strike us as "wrong", ugly, humiliating. But that is entirely wrong. Every human body has it's own dignity and beauty, even it's own erotic component.
So, yeah, we have these odd hangups and one is that men can expose their chest and (non functional) nipples and women over the age of 3 cannot.
It's pretty stupid. A good cure would be five solid years of life drawing, with a huge variety of models, plus a course or two in human anatomy. But that's not gonna happen, so we'll just have to wait for the human species to evolve a bit more.
Good to hear from you.
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I don't think the functionality of women's nipples is the reason why women are shamed for showing their nipples.
Rather women are shamed for showing their nipples because of the reaction it evokes from men.
I don't know why it turns me to see women's nipples, but I am not going to deny that I get hard when I see women's nipples, especially when they are exposed right in front of me.
As a general rule, I never compliment a woman's breasts unless she has exposed them to me (Seinfeld made that joke).
However, a woman can compliment a man's chest anytime she wants to.
Obviously because the male form doesn't evoke the same reaction in women that the female form evokes in men.
Or does it?
Laurel, have you ever masturbated (in the privacy of your home) while you had the imagine of a nude male in your mind?
Trust me, even though men are embarassed to admit it, probably 99.9% of straight or bi men have masturbated while either looking at pictures of nude women or forming images of nude women in their minds.
I think it is wrong that we shame women because men form dirty thoughts about them, and equality wrong that we shame women for profitting off of the goods god, hard work, exercise, and good dieting gave them.
Also the double standard set upon male and female celebrities who pose nude is disappointing.
Nobody ever calls a male celebrity a slut.
Its stupid.
Among the many gender double standards, the majority of which adversely affect women and girls, the difference in treatment male and female celebrities receive is most glaring and less addressed.
Hollywood, the music industry, professional athletics, and the political world all have long lists of bad-boys, and they all receive huge cult like praise and god like worship.
Wilt Chamberlain was still treated like a hero after he claimed he had slept with tens of thousands of women, but can you imagine how Tara Lipinski would be treated were she to claim that she had slept with more than 10 men?
Warren Beatty's sexual exploits are legendary, but do you think Julia Roberts would still be pulling down huge acting contracts were she known to have sexually entertained a lot of men?
If Amy Klobuchar had been publicly revealed to have a diaper fetish and a patron of a male prostitute while married, does anyone think she would have any chance of getting re-elected?
Imagine if Alanis Morissette was in an open marriage and still had hundreds of sexual partners like Gene Simmons does?
Does anyone think the literary and media world will ever have a female equivalent of Hunter S. Thompson?
Personally I am waiting for the day that a woman can be an unabashed gun freak, alcoholic, drug addict, sexual exploiter of men, and criminal destroyer of hotels rooms, and have a huge cult following.
Lindsay Lohan seems rather tame when compared to celebrity bad-boys, and Lady Gaga isn't a bad girl at all.
Have you considered becoming the female equivalent of Hunter S Thompson?
I would suggest going easy on the drugs and alcohol, but why not?
Just remember to give warning before you drop the TV and used condoms out of the hotel window.