Have you and your partner noticed that your sex life has lost the initial zing, that exciting zest- the romance and passion is gone? Naturally as the years go by most couples, the passion that was abundant in the beginning and the desire that was prevalent back then begins to fade noticeably. What happened? The answer is simple it is the lack of foreplay, which can spice up your sex life.
We all look for ways to make sex more adventurous and more exciting then just the normal routine. Here is a few lists of somethings to make your sex life more extremely exciting, bringing out the creative side of sexual foreplay.
Foreplay is an extremely important in the lovemaking act. It is foreplay that gets us stimulated and aroused to the point of ecstasy. Many of the lucky ones who do reach orgasms will tell us that the most of their time spent in bed was spent in foreplay.
It is important to be aroused before the actual act of intercourse begins. Foreplay leaves us willing, ready, and excited.
First off the sex doesn’t have to be in the bedroom. There are so many places in your house or other places that you can use and make for more fun. So I have come up with some suggestions to spice up you sex life. Feel free to add your own suggestions in your comments, the more ideas the more fun.
Places:
Living room- floor or couch
Kitchen-counters or table
Bathroom-shower or counter and even the stool
Laundry room- dirty sex is more fun and not just for dirty clothes.
Car or truck- go parking and act like teenager again there is so many places you can park and not get caught. I can name a lot of places out in the country.
Out in nature- find a perfectly good tree or skinny dip in the river and have heated sex on the riverbank
Elevators- push the emergency stop button and have fun.
Take the stair well to a busy building-you have all the time in the world because no one uses the stair well anymore.
On a boat- let him take you literally on the boat and then go fishing.
Dark hall of a busy pub or bar that on one goes into.
Bathroom stall in any restaurant, bar
Dressing rooms- at a clothing store.
Garage in the car when it is park in there or on a workbench
In an office- on the desk doing it on faxes it sometimes so exciting.
Dark alley way- this is better when it is rainy
On your front porch
On your back deck or front deck
In your back yard after dark around midnight is the best time.
In a chair with you straddle over him
In a barn nothing like doing it in the hay
On the dock of a lake after dark- now this is really exciting.
Back of a pick up truck under the stars.
Hot tub
Bath tub
In the car or truck going down the highway-road head is very exciting and adventurous
Doing it in the rain during a thunder storms outside
Go to a park or rest area along the highway and do it on the pinic table.
Fun things to use and do:
Experimenting with different things and food can make your sex life so heated with passion you will not ever forget it.
Creamy peanut butter (make sure it isn’t chunky your man will be too sore)
Saran wrap and baby oil
Whip Cream
Chocolate syrup
Butter Scotch Schnapps
Hot Damn Schnapps even adds more heat
Pop cycles
Ice cubes
Feathers
Hum the "Star Spangle Banner"- he will shoot off like rockets. It also works for her too.
Blindfolds
Ribbons to tie each other up
Body lotion
Toothpaste
Enticing the skin with the gentle touches of your fingertips
Go down the back slowly barely touching the skin with your lips so only your breath in felt
Paint – painting each other bodies
Lobster dinner with the garlic butter (at home is the best)- is a sensual pleasure you will never forget
Erogenous zones: (There are so many hot buttons on the body that can get a person very aroused.)
If your lover touches you with their hands, or their tongue, you automatically feel your heart beating faster and pleasure shooting through your body. Men and Women have many erogenous zones and some are the same.
Wrist- The inner part of the wrist is very sensitive to touch. If you barely graze this area with your fingertips or your lips, you’ll have your partner melt.
Neck- The lower part of the neck is also a sweet spot that can be stimulated erogenous zone. Let your lips do the touching of the neck starting from behind the ear. Keep kissing gentle and light between your lips and your partners neck.
Ears- You may be surprised that the ear could be a significant erogenous zone. Run your fingers over the edge of the ear, lightly blowing or whispering in the ear while you’re making out could make you partner extremely hot. Avoid using the tongue too much though it can be a real turn off to have a wet ear.
Lips- Kissing isn’t just important is establishing an intimate connection before hitting the sheets; it’s also a way to turn up the heat. Both men and women have loads of nerves in ending in their lips, so they are highly sensitive. When kissing always start off gently so your lips barely touch, then gradually move up to more intense kissing.
Feet- Not everyone feels comfortable with their feet, But the feet is full of receptors that will send pleasure coursing through their bodies if you touch them just right. A gentle massage works well, or, if you don’t mind, you could work your mouth in the game to really make things hot.
Back- The back is covered in erogenous zones. Some parts are going to be generating a stronger reaction then others. When you are just starting to learn these hot buttons, take a feather and the very fingertips. Use the feather or very tips of your figure tips to move slowly and softly across, and up and down, your partners back. When your partner reacts, then you’ve just hit an erogenous hot spot. Take note of those hot spots and give them lots of attention.
You should focus on these erogenous hot spots. As things progress- and you’ll know when they do- you can begin paying attention to more intimate erogenous zones, such as the inner thighs, the butt, the chest, the penis or the clitoris. The main point is to enjoy each other through intimate touching to get you both aroused.
Making physical contact through touch, signals increased intimacy between lovers. Anytime you get a chance to make physical contact you are extending foreplay between you and your partner. By keeping the sexual touching light and gentle enough to sends goose bumps up and down your partner’s spins, you’ll be one step closer to making your partner excited and HOT!!
Sharing sexual fantasies and erotic dreams with each other can only lead to a more satisfying and steamy sex life. Experimenting with your creativity and imagination is the only way to find absolute and constant sexual bliss. So whether you’re posing as a dominatrix or your rubbing ice up and down each other’s body, experimenting and exploring with fetishes can be absolutely fulfilling and orgasmic. Adequate and loving physical contact, sexual or non-sexual, is a prerequisite for a healthy, fulfilling, and mature relationship. Human bodies require touch for various reasons. Touching is a natural therapy. It relieves stress, making us happier.


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My wife and I use to lye on the bed nude and use the sharp end of wooden skewers to trace outlines on eachother. The person being "drawn on" would try to determine what was being drawn using only our sense of feel. The sensation of the sharp point was nothing less than orgasmic. In short time we were exploring each other's bodies with things far more fun than wooden skewers :-).
Thank you glad you liked it.
Jimenace-Oh yes you have to love for the living always. When you love and care about someone it makes sex all the better. Thank you
BoomerBob- Whatever works to get each other going. The more fun the better. Thank you
Good work, FE.
Thank you
every sperm is great,
if a sperm is wasted,
God gets quite irate."
Amen.
Rated for humor by the Lord of Hosts.
Ronp1-HMM HMM Good- That is a great response.. Thank you
It's like the dream of sex on the beach. That would be great without the sand.
I tried it when I was younger (not 46) and it ended in laughter and a shower. Sand is not conducive to good sex, neither is chucky or chunky peanut butter.
Since this site is so damn liberal: It would be more healthy if you substituted almond butter (omega 3's) or apple butter for peanut butter... Sorry, I just like apple butter.
Again, sorry, I made myself laugh. I'm not a health nut, but I play one on OS.
You could use apple butter or even almond butter it would work but it would not the same effect as the peanut butter does. See with the peanut butter it makes you mouth dry and you well suck harder...LMAO!! I have no other way to explain it then that..LMAO!You could use just about any kind of food if you wanted too. It is okay if you make yourself laugh. I make myself laugh all the time..SMILES!!
Nana-Marmalade you could use also. But read the explanation I gave Jay as to why the peanut butter works. LMAO!! But yes you can use anything.. to spice it up and make it fun..
It is? What the hell does golf have to do with lovemaking?
Sheesh.
All I need is some rough sandpaper, a bottle of super hot sauce and two or three Asian hookers willing to use it on my wood. And I ain't talking about golf or trees!!! I'm talking about my penis.
Oh god yes!!!
What?
;)
Funny thing about women, what worked yesterday and sent her into orbit, won't get her off the launching pad the following day. Guys are much simpler to figure. Pretty easy to tell when they are aroused. It's the woman that makes sex not only such a fantastic mystery for men, but also the need to experiment and explore foreplay to find out the "hot button" of the day. Of course that takes a bit of an adventurist attitude on both parties.
a few weeks ago the 2 cnn harpies were chatting up some guy about ice molds in the shape of a fist. they were wondering aloud what that was all about. Funny stuff. Thanks for the ideas.
~packing his back~
Cocoal- No when you use ice cubes you want to make sure you are not going to go to bed for a long time.. You are welcome for the ideas. Thank you
Hey, Michael (and all you other men)--one word of note. More time doing simple little things (like brushing your hand along her hand or waist, nuzzling her neck without warning, or doing the dishes) make a woman so hot for later that not much of that foreplay will even be tolerated by her, much less wanted.
Ah, it's nice to remember.
I have a very fertile imagination.
Just kidding, you've covered many bases with this!
I would not be typing right now...
JustPamela-I didn't know a foot massage would make you all hot and bothered either, I guess because I hate my feet messed with. But it might be worth a try.. Yep you never know what will work until you try it.. Thank you
Bryn- You are not a lone in that area. I have to find a man also. The good ones are hard to find.. lol Thank you
Lifehalflived- Yes candle wax-I forgot that one, thank you. The imagination when put into work while enticing your partner can do wonders. Thank you
Buffy-That is why you remember them before hand so you don't have to bring out the list. LOL Glad you liked them.. Thank you
Rated, anyway.
Thank you
Dynomyte- Yes the only thing missing on my end is the handsome, sensual, lovable man. Because trust me if I had him I wouldn't be doing this list I would be putting it all into action.. So don't feel bad there are a few on here that are without partners including me, so you are not alone. Thank you
Deepclever- Oh yes watching a man do housework is a huge turn on, some don't even realize it..Try the creamy peanutbutter with that BJ and he will be cleaning house all the time. You go Girl!! Thank you
And for real memorable hot sex try: intimacy. Try knowing someone so well that it's only the connection that matters...sure, there's fun stuff, hot stuff, new environments...but all the more intense when you deeply know who you're rolling around in the back of an abandoned 50's Chevy with.
Had that once a little bit ago, and it was a feeling I had never felt with anyone before. To bad things had to not work out, guess shit happens. I do know he will hold a huge place in my heart, mind and soul.
Hey but there is always the fun, discovering, and the exploring of each other that can help out in other relationships. Thank you for your great comment.
an old boyfriend once told me that I eat like I am making love to my food. I prefer to make love to my food in the dining room and my sex...well locations are pretty open. With 20 acres of treed privacy, I've had some fun.
I like Robin's answer. Knowing someone well enough to relax and explore is probably the best.
I guess whatever rocks your boat though FE. just don't get the peanut butter in your hair. ::gah::
These are just suggestions for other people and a fun post to do. Something out of my normal of posting. Not that I have done any of them. I for one go for the intimacy between two people that take none of these things, like Robin said in her comment, see my reply back to her.. So no none of these rock my boat. But if I do try some of them I will make sure the peanut butter doesn't get into my hair. LOL
The Scotsman probably would start laughing if you start humming, but hey it could be interesting.. SMILES!!
Thank you for your great comment.
;-)
another ex once gave me before work oral right after brushing his teeth- after a minute I'm wondering why things are so tingly...
chewing on the back of the neck always works
What is the sexiest thing any one has ever said to you during sex?
The sexiest thing anyone has said to me during sex. Hum? Great question..
Oh boy!! I could get myself in trouble for answering this..
I will go with when myex (recent one) looked me into my eyes and told me "you are so beautiful and I like you being my baby." I never dreamed in a million years that I would love to be called someone's baby. But now I find myself missing it so much.
Now see how I did that I went with the nice clean sexiest thing anyone has told me. LOL
Now your turn..
Thank you for your adds to the post.
The neighbor's driveway.
Under a coat in the back of a pickup truck that's bouncing up & down grassy hills. (Gotta be really young for that one.)
In a tree house.
In an old discarded camper shell (but not in the summer).
On an actual bed outside under a willow tree.
In a two-person tent in the middle of the day in a crowded campground.
Leaning against a Harley.
In the cab of a semi.
In the back of a semi.
In a partially (Do Not Enter!) constructed building.
While riding a train (clickety-clack, clickety-clack).
In the dark humming back of a bus.
Never done it leaning on a harley but have done it on a harley, twice and once while on the highway, that was in the younger days when I wear skirts a lot. smiles...But I wouldn't suggest it because even if it was exciting and wild it was also very scary.
Done the two person tent in the middle of the day in a crowd camp site.
I really like the cave idea now that would be fun. I like caves.
Thank you for your great ideas to add to the post. You are Awesome!
Thunderstorms perhaps, but I'd prefer it indoors with a lightning rod between me and the elements.
R-rated.
RATED!
AngryMonkey- Monkey Sex is good...LOL Thank you
Cartouche- Honey and Scotch haven't heard of using them. Will have to try the honey, a partner will have to do the Scotch. Paint brushes do do amazing things, and are lots of fun to play with.
Thank you for you ideas..
JohnWalker- Delicious is a great response... Thank you! Glad you liked it..
Aphrabehn- Hiding scents is a great idea and sounds like it would be fun. Might have to play that little game with a partner when I get one. smiles.. Thanks for the idea. Yes anyone can add anything ideas they wants that is what this post is supposed to do.. Thank you
"Look at that Dude Marma Lade."
I didn't see Rubber Chickens anywhere on your list.
Oh and thank you for clearing that up with Nana- poor man gets confused from time to time.. Thank you