There are so many different kinds of love and so many different levels of love. I want to talk about the true love, that kind of love that lasts a lifetime. The kind of love we all seek, male and female, but some hardly ever find.

The love that crosses your path only once in a lifetime, and lasts forever. The kind of love that sets fires to your souls, and leaves you longing for more. A walk to remember that neither he nor you will never forget, their whole existence becomes a strong part of you that without them you would be lost. That true north, that no matter how far you travel or where you go, it will always lead you back home to them.

 Is this kind of love only possible in movies, books and love songs? Some say that we watch the romantic movies, and read the love stories and that causes us to set such high expectations that we may never find the kind of love that lasts a lifetime.  Do we set the person we are in search of on a pedestal, making it literally impossible for anyone to reach our standards and expectations?   

My friends call me a hopeless romantic and say that what I am looking for in a relationship only exist in the movies and in books. I don’t believe this is true at all, yes I might be a hopeless romantic, but at the same time I might actually be closer to finding that one true love than the ones who are so cynical and think it is impossible.

I don’t think that men and women are so much different when it comes to looking for love. We both want to have someone to be our companion, partner, friend and lover. We want affection, attention, nurturing, loving and caring, from someone who will be there. Let us not forget to mention we all want passion, compassion, and romance. One you can trust with your life and one who will fight for you honor. We want someone to kiss good morning and good night. Someone to share our lives and our dreams with.

I am no expert on love and relationships, as you couldn’t tell by my posts on the relationships that I have had in the past. All the relationships I have had in the past, have all been more like road flares burning out in the middle of the road after a huge train wreck, of passion and lust. I should probably have those orange cones all around me, saying caution. But no matter what has happened in the past I still haven’t given up on hope of some day finding that one true love.

But what I do know is what a relationship isn’t supposed to be like. They’re not supposed to control you, or want to change you, and fence you in from being yourself. They are supposed to cherish you, care for you and love you, no matter how rough things get. Yes you might have times where you don’t like them but you will always love them.

They may not be what you have pictured that perfect mate would be like in the back of your mind. So keep in mind that not everyone is perfect. There really aren’t any knights in shinning armor or beautiful princess in tall towers to rescue. Everyone has rust spots and things that might not be so perfect in your mind. It is the matter of what rust spots you are willing to except; and the ones you shouldn't except about that person. That is what makes that one person unique in their own way, and not like anyone else.

So don’t go putting your dream mate up high on a pedestal where no one will ever be able to reach your expectations. I am not in anyway saying drop or lower your standards, because having standards; principles, values and moral are the things you want to keep with you when searching for that love of your life.

I think true love is something that happens to us once in a lifetime, and it takes us by surprise, leaving us wondering what the hell is going on here. Love happens when we least expect it, it comes over us so fast and so strong, when it is started there is no stopping it. You can run and hide from it all you want, but it will find you sooner or later.  

Love is like dying; no one ever plans for either one to happen. It happens unexpectedly and out of the blue. That certain someone will come along when you are happy in life and have learned to love yourself. When we have learned to set the past in the past, along with all the heartache, letting your heart heal and become whole again.