From the Midwest

From The Midwest

From The Midwest
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Birthday
September 29
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CEO
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Never Give Up! Never Doubt Goodness and that Includes YOU!
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Former English teacher-artist from the Midwest and just another statistic of "The Great Recession." Life goes on . . .

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FEBRUARY 15, 2009 1:20PM

Why do people hate OS?

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While I regularly read Salon.com, it was by happenstance that I found OS last November while playing around StumbleUpon.com. The particular blog that came up was Chicago Guy's wonderful essay about Obama and his daughters at their Chicago soccer match. I've been addicted ever since.

I know there's a controversy that this isn't supposed to be a "community," but it is. And I've found it to be a very pluralistic one. I'm continually amazed at the talent and voices. More importantly, I'm impressed as I watch writers grow and improve. OS allows writers a venue to experiment and has inspired many to get out dusty novels to finish or to begin major projects.

An often-overlooked virtue of OS is that it is an exercise in therapy for many writers and a salvation for those who are unemployed or going through difficult times. I sometimes thing the "S" is OS should stand for "support."

When I taught school, students would often tell me how they hated this tecacher or that. A principal. Even a parent. My response was always the same, "So what?" And then I asked them if they liked everyone in their class.

The point is that we don't have to like everyone we know or meet or read. But it doesn't mean we have to go out of our way to be disrespectful or vulgur. There's criticism and then there's just plain insult and rudeness. Tolerance can be a redeeming and liberating virtue.

We all write to be read. And that includes being "rated." I don't see it as a popularity ploy or ego trip since we all have the option not to rate. In fact, we have an even greater option: to comment. And tip. Yes, some people make the cover or EP more than others. But I think that's because they devote more time to writing. I don't see it as a 'conspiracy' or a clique.

I, for one, am grateful for OS and consider it a great favor to the cyber world. And I am grateful and impressed by the many people people I've met and those who are committed to making it succeed.

 

 

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Here, here! Good positive comments and I agree fully.
This thoughtful essay perfectly captures my own feelings on the subject. Thank you for taking the time to make such a clear and generous statement. All the best to you, my good man!
Lucidly intelligent and insightful.
OS is a very unique phenomenon on the net, I believe, and--as you so clearly state--an excellent culture within which to practice writing and interact on a high and supportive level as a community.
Bravo!
You definitely highlight the positive aspects and your school analogy seems appropriate. Your idea of "S" as support is correct, too.
Excellent comment! We need more teachers like you, in school, on OS, and everywhere else.
o'steph: I love when people call me lucid. Will you call my parents and talk to them . . .

Bill: thanks. Actually been trying to get back into education, but I'm too experienced, thus too expensive. What a system. . .

Thanks to all of you for the nice comments and let's keep OS moving.
thumbs up! rated.
You are so right! For me, it allows me to let others read and let me know if I'm saying things they way I want them to be read. Know what I mean?
Wonderful advice to anyone: so what if someone does not like you (or the weather, or someone's clothes, or your writing) So what?

Rated because it is well writted and you're a fellow teacher and you have a good heart.
OOOPS typo. Well written. Don't have my glasses on.
I'm with you, FTM.
I am finding it amazing. I am so impressed with the writing and the commenting. So many of the comments I have received deserve to be blog posts.
Thanks, Gayle. I have to tell you, when I'd tell kids "who cares?" about this or this or this, I often watched their entire demeanor relax. And then I'd tell them it was important not to just like yourself, but to respect yourself and know you're doing good things with your life. Ths was really so important to "outcasts," who were usually the most creative--and lost. And "Goths." I loved them all.
Mary, yes, I agree. I've followed others blogs, but I've never felt as home as I do here on OS. So many fascinating people. Dave Cullen is about to launch a best selling book about Columbine. Amazing. And then today I sent a message to a new member who survived cancer and took up making jewelry and has an entirely new, more hopeful perspective on life. How great is that? And then you and your own work.
Being liked and being likable is an American compulsion. (e.g., Hollywood doesn't make movies about characters that aren't "likable". They leave that to the Europeans.) People think that if they don't like someone or something, then that ends the story. There's no need to look or listen further, and it's the ultimate rejection.
Very well said FTM.

(rated)
I just can't shut up today. MW, if only we had more teachers out there like you. I always tried my damndest to treat all kids with the kind of openness and compassion I'd want for my own kids. They carry so much that we don't even know about! I am physically unable to carry the teacher load full time. I miss it terribly.

Oh, was this about OS? sorry. OS rules and there is hope for us yet.
"I, for one, am grateful for OS and consider it a great favor to the cyber world. And I am grateful and impressed by the many people people I've met and those who are committed to making it succeed."

Exactly.
Get me your parent's number---Steph and I will both call them and tell them you're lucid!
Wonderful post. I've never understood why some people think that if they don't like somebody, that person should be insulted, chased from a forum or a real-life situation. Not everyone is going to like everyone else; it's a fact of life. That's where maturity comes in and the willingness to live and let live. I try to stay out of the way of people I don't like and who I know don't like me. It's a funny thing tho -- sometimes the people I have the strongest negative reaction to at first become good friends later.

This applies to OS as well. As for not reading someone's work because I think it is badly written and doesn't interest me -- isn't deciding how we want to spent our time something that we all do in one way or another? I sometimes don't read very well-written posts either if they don't grab me. Just as in people, a person can't be expected to like/read/befriend everything that comes our way.
I think the 'feeling at home' idea acts as almost a muse
of sorts. Something about the pages here that tend to
inspire or even better, maybe, push one into writing
something; and that's good.
I followed the Open Salon Feed. Who will lead?
I agree, and Yummy, Yummy , Mama, what fun!
And of course, sometimes I'll mumble the blues.
Crash, bash, stump, twit, clump, tweet, and hoot.
Ya's on crack? No. And not you from the midwest.
I'll say:`Hisssssssssssssss, swisssssssssssssss. huh?
Oh, yes. Big deal. You don't like something? Stay away. Not liking something IS a judgment. Something feels hostile? Stay away. No need to get hostile back unless you want to. Getting hostile back IS HOSTILE, too:) But judgment is fine. Judgment is what separates us from animals. Duh.

But liking everyone and anyone? I have long said that if everyone liked me I was doing something very wrong!!!

Thanks, teach.

(OTOH who makes the cover is up to the editors of OS and their judgment doesn't make sense a lot of times....just like, as those of us who are professional writers know, the editors of magazines and publishing houses judgment doesn't make sense. But we just have to live with it. Salon eds are looking for what they THINK might pull in the average Salon reader. And that then becomes their version of a weird popularity contest. :))
Thank you, this needed to be said.
Bravo. If there's someone OS I don't like--their viewpoint, their writing style, their treatment of others--I just don't read them. Same way I avoided the unpleasant people in school and hung with my friends instead.

BTW, cute cat. :)
I have found internet communities to be as real as others. It's a great place to be, and I'm grateful.
Indeed.

After all, it's the freaken internet, not a cotillion. I try to be give the least amount of offense possible here on OS, but if you disagree with someone, you disagree, and if you can't be honest on the internet, where can you be honest?
"inspired many to get out dusty novels to finish or to begin major projects"

Absolutely!
And I've never made OS cover and probably never will.
I get more pleasure responding to my friend's' responses than being on the OS cover which I personally never see anyway.
Thanks to all for such thoughtful comments.

Chicago Guy and Steph: I wouldn't be so cruel!
Lisa: you're correct about the cover and having to live with it.
AE: I'm vain--love when I make the cover.
Merwoman: thanks--I love my cat!
Existence: You're correct--cotillion it's not.