Right off the bat I should make a disclaimer that this is NOT a personal attack or an attempt at defamation of character. I am expressing my opinions and questioning to see if I will get any opinions here. Besides, anyone who has read WILL OF MY OWN, my personal memoir, will know that I have long moved on and am beyond even entertaining such thoughts.

I've had time to put much into its proper perspective, as they say about hind sight being clearer - if not perfect. What emerges in the ensuing picture is that I have learned -by having been married one- the modus operandi of the Casanova.

My ex was very charming- probably still is in spite of his years- when we met. He was highly intelligent. Having had two failed marriages and a string of unsuccessful relationships behind him, he was looking for love, happiness, commitment the whole nine yards. Having come out of an adulterous first marriage myself, I believed I had finally found the person who was meant for me and me for him.

There's no question we fell in love even at our mature ages and lived happily for several years – until one day he dropped a bomb on me that he had an affair with another woman and his heart was no longer in our marriage.

The initial shock was insurmountable. There had been no indication of his infidelity or cause for it.

Such men are ultimately alone in life, because they lack the heart and the capability of giving meaningful love and fulfilling their pledge. Eventually they attract deserving partners, like the one he was so thrilled to leave for: someone with a matching ego who ironically calls herself a “Feminist”.

Perhaps divine justice works in satiric ways, but my question is:

Is there a fundamental difference between a Con Artist and a Casanova, when it comes to matters of the heart?

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