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Location
Chapel Hill, North Carolina, USA
Birthday
September 17
Bio
One of my favorite places to go is about 12 miles out in the Atlantic Ocean...in my little 20 ft. skiff. The clear water is a deep emerald color and the sunlight bounces around and shimmers randomly. I meet survivor sea turtles, bow-riding dolphin, silent sharks, giant rays rocketing out of the sea and backflipping, schools of porgies, sea robins, slashing blues and Spanish mackerel, the occasional whale, and stray birds. I love the quiet and solitude and vastness. I am a way too veteran educator - special education teacher, high school principal, college professor and some other fun waystops. A political junkie, a cowboy in a previous life, a lover of synchronicity in daily life...meditation and prayer, and a believer that the best days are still ahead. My plan is to finish strong. ************************************ I love following politics and current events, but they all take second place to watching a hockey game. I write occasional Op-Ed pieces - usually on educational issues. My two kids are the true loves of my life. ************************************

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This post is a combination of several former posts and a current reflection.

October 4, 2013

My father died at 6:25 am on October 4, 2009.  He was 86 years old.  It has been four years.  I miss him and think about him every day.  Not in a sad way but…

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This is a true story.

My nephew got married last week.  His name is David Brennan and his new bride is Nora Brennan.  He was born and raised in Massachusetts and she in Connecticut.    About six years ago they each were beginning a semester abroad in Ireland from their respe… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
MAY 15, 2012 10:59AM

Sober and miserable: A moment of clarity and prayer

This post is another in a series of occasional installments describing my early recovery and treatment for alcoholism.  The most recent prior post is Anesthetized to life: Thirty years of drinking and now this?   Others may be found in the “My Links” section on the left sidRead full post »

This post is another in a series of occasional installments describing my early recovery and treatment for alcoholism.  The most recent prior post is  Recovery is so slow and the cold rain feels so good .  Others may be found in the “My Links” section on the left side of myRead full post »

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JANUARY 25, 2012 11:25PM

A job, a place to live, and hope: Alaska 1971

We arrived in Anchorage, Alaska after a two-week trek from Detroit.  It was September, 1971.  I had finished college that June with a B.A. in Sociology and returned home to Detroit to find a “real job.”  The first thing I did was get my old summer job back as an outdoor… Read full post »

My 25 year old daughter is the Executive Director of the Sister Communities of San Ramon, Nicaragua.  This organization got involved in Nicaragua over 20 years ago just after the Sandinistas prevailed in the Contra War.  They developed and support an eco-tourism lodge and coffee farm called/… Read full post »

 "The Meaning of Life Explained"

All my life I have been fascinated by people with rigid and somewhat doctrinaire beliefs. These folks espouse strong opinions about other’s behavior and beliefs and often act as if they are “right.” It’s almost as if they have secret info… Read full post »

 I have this recurring thought that Barack Obama will be re-elected in 2012 and will carry North Carolina (maybe by one vote; but, a win is a win). I think that the Tea Party and Republican right wing has behaved so badly this past year and have so angered the mainstream… Read full post »

Three of us went to visit a mutual friend in prison today.  It was about a two-hour drive and the last ten miles straight through mostly picked cotton fields in eastern North Carolina. Lots of huge downed trees everywhere courtesy of Irene’s recent visit.   Have you ever seen a l… Read full post »

kennedy in detroit 

 

On September 5, 1960 Senator John F. Kennedy (D-MA) gave a presidential campaign speech in Cadillac Square in Detroit, Michigan.  It was a brief speech delivered before 100,000 people. I was there. That's me about mid-way back in the middle with the curly blond hair. I was 1/Read full post »

This post is another in a series of occasional installments describing my early recovery and treatment for alcoholism.  Others may be found in the “My Links” section on the left side of my blog. Every time I post one of these stories I hear from a number of people struggling wiRead full post »

…and this is no April Fool’s story…only an alcoholic fool’s story. I had been arrested the night before driving backwards at 5mph in a small southern town I’d never been in before. The arresting officer later told me he had been responding to a barking dog complaint inRead full post »

Editor’s Pick
DECEMBER 22, 2010 11:59AM

Born to be wild or sobriety during the holidays?

 

This post is another in a series of occasional installments describing my early recovery and treatment for alcoholism.  The most recent prior post is How a nine-year old saved an alcoholic from getting drunk.  Others may be found in the “My Links” section on the left sideRead full post »

 

It sure does get depressing around this joint at times. Two posts in particular – one by koshersalami and one by  Cranky Cuss – just make me want to eat worms.  Not really. The worms deserve better. Sorry you guys are feeling so despondent.

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OCTOBER 4, 2010 12:01AM

We would let death come on its own

 

My father died at 6:25 am on October 4, 2009.  He was 86 years old.  It has been one year.  I put up a post last November titled "That's it.  I can feel life leaving.  He's cooler already."   I felt agitated this morning when I woke up and at first/Read full post »

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SEPTEMBER 29, 2010 11:29AM

How a nine year-old saved an alcoholic from getting drunk

 

This post is another in a series of occasional installments describing my early recovery and treatment for alcoholism.  The most recent prior post is   Sober? BFD!...Now move out of the house . Others may be found in the “My Links” section on the left side of my blog.&nbsRead full post »

It‘s a mid- November Saturday in Detroit.  Sunny, cold and blustery.  I am standing at a podium in a Unitarian church delivering the eulogy at my father’s memorial service. It is the expected duty of the oldest surviving child and one I gladly accepted – in a sad sort of w/… Read full post »

 

Just got back from an AA meeting. I was asked there for the third week in a row if I’d “heard about Lisa.”  I had.  I’d known her most of ten years.

She was about 50 years old.  Lived much of her life in the street.  Her mental illness/… Read full post »

 

Robert Gates

 

 

Dear Mr. President:

 

You have all of us hopelessly mired in Afghanistan.  I hate to say it but a lot of us told you so.  No real pleasure in saying that. In a previous post I wrote:

 

You have just statedRead full post »

Autism is a language/communication disorder with many variations, degrees of expression, and outcomes. There are frequent excellent posts on OS regarding autism.  Keying in the word "autism" in the Search function above yielded 925 results. 

This is one young man's high schoRead full post »

I was curious about the origin of Father's Day so I checked around. It appears to have been inaugurated in 1910 through the efforts of one Sonora Smart Dodd in Spokane, Washington in 1910.  She’d heard a sermon the previous year regarding Mother’s Day and wanted to do something to re/Read full post »

 

This post is another in a series of occasional installments describing my early recovery and treatment for alcoholism.  The most recent prior post is   Early sobriety and these feelings are going to kill me. Others may be found in the “My Links” section on the left side o/Read full post »

Being Straight Isn’t Easy

  

Being straight isn’t always easy.  There are a lot of prejudices and false beliefs to hang on to. I mean, if one’s lifestyle is different than mine, then it must be wrong or even sinful.  Next thing you know, “they” are go/… Read full post »

 

This post is another in a series of occasional installments describing my early recovery and treatment for alcoholism.  The most recent prior post is   50 years old, sober, lonely, and Christmas in a group home.    Others may be found in the “My Links” sectRead full post »

 

 

It’s Mothers Day again.

I see so many pretty cards.

I read so many sweet posts.

I cannot relate.

I wish I could – at least I used to wish.

I dutifully celebrated.

Bought cards and flowers.

Dinner out when we were kids.

Mom hated her life.

She was… Read full post »