Parenthood's Zeek Braverman, White Male of the 21st Century?
Zeek Braverman, If He Didn't Have Bad Luck, He'd Have No Luck At All
Zeek Braverman, played by Craig T. Nelson on the Dramedy Parenthood seems to get it from all sides. He’s a 20th century male taking it in the shorts in the 21st century. Zeek's trying like hell, and he just flat out doesn’t get it. Same goes for Modern Family patriarch, Jay Pritchett, played by Ed O'Neill. Difference is that Jay plays it for comedy only and with tons of money, a hot Colombian trophy wife, a fancy house, and a whacky stepson.
Not by a long shot.
And this guy has taken his wounds, self inflicted 0r otherwise.
- Somewhere prior to the start of the series he had an affair.
- He made some real estate investments that almost forced selling the family home.
- He had to go to his oldest son, Adam, and ask for favors in hopes of getting himself extricated from his real estate mess.
- His wife Camille asked him to move out over the affair and had one of her own in the process.
That was all in season one as his life seemingly spiraled out of control. The big, closed, barking dad muted, if not neutered. Exiled from his castle, proving all men have shattered dreams.
At the start of season two Zeek's living at home again without explanation. Early on, however, there would be times when the outbursts would be about to start, and Zeek would catch himself. Out would spew pyschobabble that had him choking as he uttered them. “I see you and I hear you,” would be his refrain to his wife as he backed away from a shouting match.
For, you see, Zeek had agreed to go to marriage counseling with Camille.
Zeek. The tough guy. Getting in touch with his feminine side.
Desperate times call for desperate measures.
It was played for comedy early in the season, then for a few touching connections that could have been plots for Nescafe International Coffee commercials from decades ago.
Zeek would become enamored with specific terms and try them out on his kids who would roll their eyes and walk away. This was not the dad they knew, and they did not know how to handle it.
His daughter, Sarah, played by Lauren Graham has boomeranged home with her two teen children. Kind hearted, beautiful, and smart, she lacks confidence, and cannot find meaningful work after leaving a relationship started in high school that derailed her life. In this first episode, Sarah looks at her dad after another pyschobabble speech and says she cannot believe what is coming out of his mouth. He rolls his eyes and says, “I can’t believe I am paying $150 an hour for something I just don’t understand.”
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Zeek plied it on his son-in-law, Joel Graham, played by Sam Jaeger, to great effect. Joel has his own role shifts. A hard working and seemingly gifted carpenter, he has been relegated to stay-at-home dad status by his wife, Julie Braverman, played by Erika Christensen, who is a successful corporate attorney struggling to juggle career and motherhood. She wants to spit out another kid, while Joel wants to go back to work "outside the home."
Zeek and Joel bond as they are on a roof Zeek Mickey Moused years ago as a do-it-yourselfer after Joel gets dispatched by the family to protect Zeek from himself. You know? Dad the screw up? The typical TV role? Robert Young must be spinning in his grave. (Is he in his grave?)
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Recent interactions have been painful as Zeek migrates up the family hierarchical chain. Last week was Adam, his oldest son. Adam holds his immediate family together that has an asperger’s son and the stresses and strains unique to that situation. Although there's a "behavior coach" who can alter patterns in 48 minutes that take real families 48 months to resolve.
Adam holds together his various siblings by being their sounding board for their problems. Adam holds together his company as the salaried COO (or something to that effect) run by boozing, womanizing ne’er do well boss, played by William Baldwin, who promises Adam equity and never delivers. William Baldwin also happens to be tagging his kind hearted, single mom sister, Sarah, after Adam got her an internship there. (Insert your favorite Lewinsky joke here.)
Adam Braverman, Holding The Family Together Before Decking a Dick With Too Many Items in The Express Line at the Grocery Store
Adam punched out a 17 item interloper in the 10 item express lane after his asperger’s son, Max, called the man on it. Zeek has a quiet one-on-one moment with Adam to ask what is up after talking it over with Camille. Zeek leads with compliments about how Adam always held it together and that he and Camille are worried.
Adam comes back at him with a vengeance, stating he found it odd Zeek admired him for holding it together, as he felt he had to in order to protect his younger siblings from Zeek’s anger and rage.
As Adam tees off, Zeke smiles sadly and merely slumps against the kitchen counter in a cramped houseboat they’re packing up.
It’s all there in the expression. Zeek seemingly knows he deserves it, regrets it, and listens. Rather than lash back, he simply tells Adam, with finger pointing, that he has Adam’s back. Adam tacitly acknowledges it, and goes back to the business at hand.
Zeke stays slumped against the kitchen counter with a tear coming down the corner of his eye not visible to Adam.
Later Adam mocks his father’s old ways as part of foreplay with his wife Kristina, played by Monica Potter showing in some ways lack of respect for Zeek, and what he is doing.
All these vignettes so far in season two were tune ups for the big show this week that had Camille and Zeek at each other over Camille taking an art class where the fill-in instructor happens to be the man with whom she had her affair. Camille offers it up openly and honestly. Zeek does not take it so well. The old hurts come back. He asks Camille to drop the course. She does not want to as the course is important and it goes to trust. Zeek says he trusts her and walks away coiled and frustrated still.
Next they are in the shrink’s office, Camille with arms folded and Zeek agitated. Finally he blurts out the issue. They each had affairs. She’s taking a class from the guy; Zeek wants her to drop it.
In a scene that had me laughing out loud, the shrink asks Zeek to tell Camille how that makes him feel in a smarmy voice that likely would have had old Zeek reaching over to choke her. Instead, in a great acting display, Zeek simply looks skyward, puts his hand to his face, sighs, and speaks from his heart about it. You can see the fear he has in being so open and vulnerable about feelings he was undoubtedly taught to suppress during the Eisenhower administration that served him well dodging bullets in Vietnamese rice patties.
It reaches Camille, and she says she will think about it.
She does, but decides to do it anyway for the value of the course. Zeek accepts it…temporarily. Later he confronts the teacher in the parking lot and tells him to stay away from his wife.
Next up is Camille happily asking for help on the art and being informed by the teacher he will not talk to her, given Zeek’s interference. This leads to a shouting match in the shop where Camille finds Zeek fiddling with an engine. A typical image of the macho man out in “the shop” to avoid his dreary reality given he is powerless over it. He has shared his heart, his wife has her own wants and needs; they conflict; and she's putting herself ahead of him, likely after years of having to do otherwise. Zeek doesn't like it because it hurts and because he is not getting his own way.
The dialog goes back and forth, ever escalating and ever lapsing back into old behavior patterns. Zeek ultimately blurts out that he told the guy to “stay away from what is mine.” He immediately slumps again as Camille questions the utterance. Zeek mumbles dejectedly and somewhat apologetically, “You know what I mean.”
Camille throws back the worst remark one can utter to someone making huge efforts to modify their behavior by hissing that he hasn’t changed one bit and walks off while he picks up the engine part and throws it against the work bench.
And therein lies the universal frustration for anyone working on that stuff. First the teasing as those uncomfortable with the language seek to push it away by mocking it. Then the ability to connect in reciprocal fashion with those less familiar with the old ways such as in-laws, and then the difficulties in maintaining the new persona when dealing with those with whom you had the most difficult interactions in the past.
So Zeek and Camille could hold it together in the controlled environment refereed by the shrink. But the underlying tension was still there, and outside the regulated environment the two blow.
In real life, as the data shows, most couples get to therapy too late or only one does the work. Either way the relationships tank. The partner who stays focused on the process for themselves comes out for the better absent anger and can establish far richer, deeper and more rewarding intimate relationships with others. Those who “don’t do the work” wind up falling back into what is comfortable to them and often perpetuate misery for themselves and for others.
Zeek has quite clearly made transformations and softened considerably. He is in a system far greater than himself seeking to work on changing his interactions with people made uncomfortable by the differences in him.
In real life he would walk or just keep blowing up in frustration and hurt manifested as anger. In the show expect Zeek and Camille to work it out as each come around.
It is Hollywood after all.
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