Sally Field Gushing For Winning For Places in the Heart
I have been spending some time on a dating website. I know. Creepy. This thing has been around for a while for me. When a message board moderator in 2003 and 2004 on a site with a lot of younger people, I had made a quick account in order to be able to take tests and reveal the results on the forum. I went there to interact with younger folks in hopes of understanding better my teen sons to try to minimize the damage I inflicted upon them ... or so that was the hope.
It later morphed into having utility for its desired intentions.
And I have returned to it a year later curious as to whether or not there have been any changes in me. Likewise, I am fascinated with predictive analytics as a technology concept. It gets used in multichannel marketing radically transforming business practices, and this utilizes the same underlying technologies, albeit for the human heart rather than the almighty dollar.
So I did what most stalker creeps do and set up a separate account and began clicking through the questions. The tricky part came comparing the responses to the old profile. Flipping back and forth I would get a little confused. Wait a minute? Which me is this? Bizarre, and laughable, but now I know what must go on for those with multiple personalities trying to figure out which personality is in charge.
I had had two things I wanted to pursue a year ago: more creativity and artistic pursuits and simply to slow down and relax. Slow down. Enjoy things more.
After about a week of this stuff, I had one profile “match” the other profile. How do these two get along?
I am happy to say the two personalities match 95% of the time, have a 97% friend compatibility, and are enemies only 1%. Good thing. I hate fighting with myself. The voices in my head get really, really noisy.
And the two differences are that the new me is “more artsy” and “less ambitious.” The Meyers Briggs thing has shifted a little, while the enneagram one remains the same.
So as far as I can tell, I managed to remain true to myself and grow a little bit. Seems that’s about all one can ask for.
So the next curiosity was whether or not this meant I was looking for something else in terms of a partner. The first time around I obviously checked this stuff out. Then I was floored, when just throwing it open with no age or geographic limits. I seem to be a great match for bisexual women under the age of 35 on both coasts.
I’m a 51 year-old hetero for God’s sake content to play in my own age braccket. My Meyers Briggs is very common for women, as is my enneagram thing, so maybe I am a woman trapped in a man’s body. In that case I guess I am just a lesbian, as I really, really like women.
I did the same thing this time, with the same results.
The site also will now push demographic detail if you request it. I have high percentage hits for women in California, Oregon, Massachusetts, New York, New Hampshire, and Vermont. Kind of good, given I live in New England, but the top hits are all on the West Coast.
Another one came in to tell me the countries where I would have the most success or likelihood of matches. This said Israel and South Korea are hot prospects for me. If things really heat up in Korea, maybe my ship just might come in, I guess.
The power of the internet and predictive analytics. You can look at an old profile, build a new one, and compare the old and new you with dispassionate scientific modeling spitting out the results rather than your own rationalizations telling you what is what. (Likewise, you get to take some powerful tests for free.)
Even nicer when you like what you find that confirms what you think you want for yourself and that it is good for you. Clarity of personal objectives always feels good.