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DECEMBER 14, 2010 10:28PM

Having Your Own Grandchildren and 50s Music Classics

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 My last child and only daughter arrived just shy of my 40th birthday and is 12, so do the math.  As such there are times I feel as though I sired my own grandchild.  Indeed, this was said to me by a former mentor boss in a phone conversation touching base with one another after about six years when he snorted and said wryly, "Well, it's never too late to have your own grandchildren." in response to the news.

I recall attending her first swarm ball soccer game while her three brothers were 17, 15, and 13 and the family home was a testosterone- and alcohol-fueled war zone.  There I was tele-ported back into time watching young mothers struggle with portable strollers and diapered children running feral out of reach of them while I was consumed with wondering where my equally as feral teen sons had spent the night and whether or not they had been driving a car impaired.

At that soccer event, I found someone in my age bracket, which calmed me a little.  I sat next to her and began striking up a conversation.  After a while I asked which child was hers on the field. 

None was.  Her son-in-law coached the team and she was there watching her granddaughter.

I wanted to reach for the hemlock.

She tried to console me by saying her daughter had started young.  It didn’t work.

Tonight was my daughter’s Christmas Pageant.  She loves the teacher and the activity, arriving at school an hour early three times a week to participate.  It is a big deal, and I have heard the repetitive warbling of many of the songs sung tonight for quite literally months.  A veritable CD mix tape for holiday elevator music, albeit coming from a voice that always touches my heart – except when in adolescent screech mode – when it can touch every nerve.

I wandered my way into an auditorium with few familiar or friendly faces, and found a couple I knew.  The man had served on the Board of Selectman with me.

They were there, as well, to see their grandchild. 

I am over that slight felt hard on that soccer field years ago, having evolved, however slightly.

As the songs came up, the Chorus Teacher would introduce each.  Blue Skies was sung, which is a favorite of mine.  Later came Rockin Robin.

And this is when my acceptance became hard, as it was introduced by the instructor as coming from Michael Jackson.

This is on a par with someone saying Paul McCartney had a band called Wings, in my book.

I leaned over to the former selectman and made a few comments.  I wished my (much) older brother was there, as he is a veritable cornucopia of useful trivia around 50’s and 60’s songs.  His children all can recite his annual summarization of Feb 3rd 1959 as the day the music died based on the plane crash in an Iowa cornfield that took the life of Buddy Holley, Ritchie Valens and the Big Bopper.  Waylon Jennings dodged a bullet by letting the Big Bopper take his seat on the plane because Big Bopper was feeling ill and did not want to travel on the bus. 

My brother’s 28 year-old son can do a dead on impersonation of this and has roasted his old man regularly at family functions with it.  Little prick has knocked me off top billing for such humorous antics.  That torch was more ripped from my hands rather than passed.  Brett Favre would have handled it with more dignity, assuming he did not have his camera phone handy.  With phone it might be a toss up.

Rockin Robin was a 1959 song that made it to #2 on the charts before the normal looking Michael Jackson reprised it in 1972.  In the Christmas concert I was convinced it was sung by Chubby Checker.  I was wrong.  It was a one hit wonder for Bobby Day recorded in 1959.  (Checking his bio I see Day also wrote Little  Bitty Pretty One sung by Thurston Harris in 1957, which triggered all sorts of fond memories past and present and a meandering through different oldies clips on YouTube before getting this put together.)

One hit wonders deserve their recognition rather than a talented singer who took a rather twisted and sorted arc into cartoon character and sordid sexual being before a tragic early death.

Below you will find the two versions and Little Bitty Pretty One.  Unlike Wings versus the Beatles, Jackson’s might be better, but the original is the original and deserves attribution and recognition. 

Good Night Bobby Day, wherever you are:

His Version.

 

 

 The Michael Jackson version.

 

 

 

And, of course, Little Bitty Pretty One by Thurston Harris.

 

 

 

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Enjoyed, as always, Gwoolie.
There's a lot to be said about being....um....a certain age...memories that the younger ones will never have.
Thanks for bringing me back.
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Memories......*sigh*
Rita: Glad you liked it. Fun trolling through the music on YouTube as a diversion.

Steve: Yeah, sibs are considerable older and the old man had stacks of records, being a big time Columbia record club guy back in the early 60s. Hanging out with sibs 11 and 13 years older had me well versed in the 50s and 60s stuff at an early age.

Sky: Yep. Sometimes the old tunes trigger past ones, sometimes present ones. Never know. But it is fun to troll around outside the favorites now and again for a few links through different veins.
Gwool,

For some great old time music check this site out....

http://upchucky.org/music-room.htm


I'm not 70 yet - but I'm $69.95 plus shipping & handling......
I was 40 when I had my youngest, so I understand. (She's now 19, so YOU do the math. Sadly, I'm old enough to remember when Little Bitty Pretty One was actually a hit.) Surprisingly, Rockin' Robin - the original, by Mr. Day - is her favorite Christmas song.
Ah, my friend, age is only a number. My grandfather was in his 60s when my mom was born, he was a much better father then, cause in the early days, he was an abusive drinker.

Course, my mom has better memories of her father than the rest of her siblings do, but pfffffft...I never met him, he died before I was borned, so you might luck out, and not have to hear anyone call you grandpa!!

:D

What? You want to be called gramps? Okay!

HIYA GRAMPS, WHATTA KNOW? ;D
Excellent writing. Didn't lose my interest from the first sentence. Really great. I'll be back.
Cranky: That math still puts you about 5 and 3 years younger than my brother and sister, respectively. A lot of this music was ingrained in me in my formative years hanging out with the teens as a toddler. A post ought to flow someday about touring england with my brother and an iPod his kids and I loaded up with his favorite music. He was there on a genealogy hunt looking at grave stones, while I checked out the architectures before hitting pubs and going "hedgerow hopping" to get home.
Tink: There's also definitely something to birth order. Much more relaxed with the kids that come later. And, there's a difference in the genders that alters some of the ways you interact... or don't.
Having kids keeps you young. You should be proud to be so old and have such a young child :) My grandmother was 45 when she had my mother and my father was 42 when my youngest brother was born. You are among very good company! As for Rockin Robin, fair points but being a Michael Jackson fan, I wasn't crazy about the "sordid sexual being" part. This has never been proven and should not be assumed. Have you seen, "This Is It"? You may feel differently after watching. Merry Christmas to beautiful Kassie.
Geoff, there is a different way to think about this. Your daughter is keeping you young, by forcing you to engage with today's pop culture. My sister in law had a child at 42 and will be 61 when said child graduates from college. It could be worse.
Mary: I was trying to be careful with the Michael Jackson thing by not making any declarative statements. Whatever the reality, it was not, shall we say, typical. And, yeah, having the young critter around brings a lot of joy and is a big factor in the asset column when reviewing the dark years that were my 40s. :)
When I got married (for the 3rd time) we used to talk about having a baby of our own. Thank goodness for having a vasectomy 25 years ago. Having a kid at 54 would have been a bit too much of a stretch for this "old fart". Loved the post Gwool and love the music.
Janice: Thanks, glad you liked it.

OE: I have nieces and nephews ranging in age from 28 to 36. I am well immersed in the GenXer group. Wouldn't trade my daughter for anything, anyway.

Walter: I get the sentiment. :)
Bumper sticker sighted in Florida: "Grandchildren are so much fun I wonder why I didn't have them first."
How funny it is to me that I knew who did those songs...and by my math you are still a baby.

I probably won't get to be a grandparent, but know how angry my son used to be when people thought we were sisters!