If you clicked because the title of this made you sick, I’m glad I got your attention because it is sick!

If you have daughters or even sons for that matter in this generation,  you should really pay attention to what is going on in their relationships and friendships because for some stupid reason these kids believe a certain degree of abuse is acceptable!

The kind of things I have heard people say to each other or write online that even my seasoned ears have never heard before. It seems the verbal abuse has become out of control. They call names, call their partners or friends horrendous things, and belittle them with all the horrific words of the dictionary and some words that have not made it on to the book yet. Now that cyber bullying is available, that seems to be the venue of choice for assault.

With all the teen bullying suicides lately, alarm bells should be ringing in parent’s heads to what is really going on. The abused feel helpless and don’t know where to turn. Not enough is being done to penalize the abusers. Prevention does not work, extensive punishment will. These people had a hand in someone’s death and should be punished accordingly.

The controller/abuser gets away with it because either the abused does not know they are being abused, they are afraid to tell, or this is the norm for them. Either way it’s all kinds of wrong. The weird thing is people act like its normal??? They make excuses like; “Oh he’s having a bad day or he has issues just let him cool down he will be fine later.”

Maybe I’m sensitive on this subject from my own past, I get that, but after 40 years this stuff is still going on and to the point kids are ending their own lives, we have to take notice and STOP IT!

I have seen so many people be so mean to each other with words that not only hurt but also they cut deep and yet they are instantly forgiven. In most cases it is only one that controls that is doing the verbal abuse while the other just takes it, mostly from either embarrassment but some from fear.

Is this the new normal?

I sure hope not!

They need to be taught that love; religion, faith or hope is not a reason to stay, even with someone you love  or keep a friendship if you are being hurt. They need to realize that some one that hurts them regularly needs help that they cannot provide.

The truth is statistics show most abusers do not reform. They just move on to someone who is more weak and willing to tolerate their behavior.

This is an epidemic, that only through teaching our children, and giving them the tools to acknowledge abuse when it happens to them and what to do if it does and more importantly that you will be there for them no matter what will we be able to keep our families safe from a life of abuse or ending lives.