One of my best friends has two little boys, and a complicated but hopeful marriage, and a full-time job. So we don't have tons of time to sit around talking and sipping wine. However, we've recently decided to make a once-a-month committment to make that happen, because it's important for our… Read full post »

so, my best friend is trying to conceive, and not having much luck yet. i'm trying to put together some fun, helpful and/or thoughtful suggestions about how she and her partner should spend their last few weeks/months together before baby time.

 suggestions? what do you wish you had done be… Read full post »

A woman came into my office last week and asked for copies of her daughter's birth certificate and immunization record. I work at a Head Start school where her 4-year-old had been enrolled since early September. I asked if they were moving, or enrolling in another school, as that is generally… Read full post »

"…A true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you
everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.  A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls… Read full post »

Dear Coworker Brenda: The uproarious, obnoxious, and I'll just say it...ghetto... tone you use on your cellphone in our shared office makes it hard for me to be sad that you will be moving to the other office in two weeks.

Dear Older "Wiser" African-American Coworker Cherrie: You once… Read full post »

1. Who was your FIRST prom date?

Only prom date was my best friend Darin. I think he was trying to 'make a move' on the dance floor, but even my favorite boy couldn't banish the baby dyke in me.

2. Who was your FIRST love and do you still… Read full post »

some nights, love, i miss you to tears.

and i want to ink your name on my skin, as it is carved on my heart.

but then i wonder if someday i'll recover from you and wish i hadn't.

some days it's with painful bliss that… Read full post »

Pick up lines don’t work.

“All curves, and me with no brakes.”

Well, yes. That one worked. Read full post »

my first love was a blue eyed, blonde haired angel i went to high school with. we played soccer together even before high school, but it wasn't until we were 15ish that the romance happened. and when it did, it paralyzed us both. i spent the night at her house (in… Read full post »

tomorrow morning i will march into my doctor's office and demand drugs. 

no, i will not.

tomorrow morning i will (hopefully) go to the appointment i scheduled (with a different doctor this time, cuz i chickened out with the 1st) and timidly suggest that i might benefit from some… Read full post »

i awoke this morning at 5am. not like me. i generally hit snooze 6ish times, and sleep through the two alarms on my cell phone before i realize i gotta get my half-asleep ass into the shower.

but, 5am today. with the birds chirping in the still dark chilly michigan morning.… Read full post »

Written the morning after the election, this popped into my head as I listened to all the bad news in the world yesterday. Obama had an impossible task as he stepped into office, but on that day November 5, 2008, a lot of us believed he would succeed. I miss that… Read full post »

(my first post, be gentle)

i'm starting to feel like myself again. i've had 4 months of an extremely busy social calendar, including a (lesbian) wedding in Windsor in February, a wedding in Chicago in March, a wedding in Vegas in April, a wedding in New Orleans in May, and… Read full post »