Hayley's Comments

Introspection on Healing, Vegetarianism, and Life

Hayley Rose

Hayley Rose
HayleysComments.com, Connecticut, TheVeggieStand.com
December 31
I was born when Halley’s Comet last appeared overhead and named accordingly. Since then, I've become a writer, artist, and columnist. In addition to Open Salon, my work appears frequently in The Huffington Post, All Things Healing, Gender Across Borders: A Global Feminist Blog, and several other publications. I blog daily at my site HayleysComments.com I recently published my first book, "I Know Why They Call a Shell a Shell." The book is about domestic violence, a topic that I am very vocal about. It chronicles my journey away from tumultuous love affairs by weaving stories of her past with stories from literature, music, and visual art of both modern and classical significance. Find me on Twitter @HRoseStudios


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MARCH 5, 2012 8:16AM

A New Feminist Movement? Will You Help?

I am calling for a new feminist movement and men, we really need your help.

Rush Limbaugh’s comments from last week still has people outraged. Though there are many men who despise him and his views on women, the fact that he is so forthright in the public eye… Read full post »

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FEBRUARY 21, 2012 2:35PM

Residual Pain

 Last night, I volunteered at the animal shelter. I always loved animals but started volunteering around the time I began attending rape counseling. Those memories had long been suppressed and by the time I finally got around to speaking to someone about them, I was in bad shape. I was definitel… Read full post »

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FEBRUARY 15, 2012 1:00AM

Chris Brown: Acting like Chris Brown, Again

In recent news, Chris Brown was caught acting like Chris Brown, again, and I’m not surprised.

As you know I rarely say anything bad about anybody, minus Chris Brown, my uncle, and that horrible ex-boyfriend I bring up every once in a while. I don’t really hold grudges against… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 21, 2011 3:03PM

The Killing Fields and My Brush with Death in Texas

 This morning on the news I heard about a movie called, “The Killing Fields.” It is based on a string of unsolved murders around Interstate 45 southeast of Houston Texas. The killer and possible killers target young women and girls however, after a bit of research there is suspectedRead full post »

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SEPTEMBER 26, 2011 3:27AM

Are You Mad at Me?

I will never forget the dread I experienced when I was honest about my feelings with my abusive ex-boyfriend. Anything and everything can and will offend an abuser; especially when you are disagree with them. What they choose to get upset about is at their volition and is… Read full post »

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AUGUST 30, 2011 12:41PM

Chaz Bono, Dancing With the Stars,&The Transgender Community


Chaz Bono, DWTS 

In the past year, Chaz Bono has become the unofficial spokesperson for the transgender community. Right now, gay marriage in the US is an issue that most people are familiar with to some extent, while transgender individuals still puzzle and scare some people. W… Read full post »

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AUGUST 24, 2011 11:06AM

My Heart of Darkness

I hate that book, Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad. I've read it over ten -maybe twenty times- and still have no idea what it's about. This plague began in high school when my literature grade became jeopardized because of it. Thank God for Spark Notes! After high school graduation, I was/Read full post »

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AUGUST 10, 2011 12:05PM

When to Tell the Person You're Dating....

When to Tell the Person You're Dating....That You Were Once the Victim of Rape 

Never. Never tell them that you've been sexually assaulted. 99% of the time they will go running in the opposite direction or proceed to disagree with you through the use of victim blaming.

This was a common queRead full post »

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AUGUST 2, 2011 9:43AM

A Look At the Psychology of the Bad Boy

 Why Did Kat Von D. and Jesse James Break Up? A Look At the Psychology of the Bad Boy and How Women Get Sucked In

I came across this headline the other day “Why Did Kat Von D. Tattoo Jesse James' Face on Her Body?” Wow, good question! You would think that someonRead full post »

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JULY 18, 2011 10:32AM

Confronting Your Rapist

It takes a strong person to confront his/her rapist. Sometimes it is unavoidable. In cases of rape between family members or close family friends, you will undoubtedly see this person again. Other times people are forced to confront their rapists in the court of law in order to get the justiceRead full post »

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JULY 6, 2011 5:03PM

Have You Ever Had a Tina Turner Moment?

When people fall prey to abusive relationships, it is often difficult for them to get out. When they do finally get out of the relationship they often find themselves repeating this same pattern again and inevitably ending up in another abusive situation. For somone who has never been in this/Read full post »

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MAY 25, 2011 4:58PM

Simplify: Removing Alcohol and Meat from My Life

What happens when you remove both meat and alcohol from your life? Some people would consider living in this type of existence hell. I myself once felt that completely removing alcohol from my life would never happen. I liked my frozen drinks and microbrews. Somehow social drinking was a part of… Read full post »

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MAY 11, 2011 1:18PM

Trial and Error with Scarlett O'Hara



 Is it sad that Scarlett O'Hara, Vivien Leigh's character in Gone with the Wind, used to be my idol? Is it ironic that I too grew up to be emotionally unavailable and heartless? I'm not really heartless (my boyfriend has dropped the H-bomb a few times during heated/… Read full post »

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APRIL 28, 2011 1:29AM

The People You Meet While Working in a Nursing Home

Years ago I worked as a receptionist for slave wages at a local nursing home. For the most part, I had nothing in common with anyone. I made a few friends in the office. They were great people but were all familied and coupled up, much older than me,

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APRIL 2, 2011 3:36AM


Throughout my lifetime, I can recall the instances in which I got the look. It was typically given to me by what I can most tersely describe as “left-brained people.”  They've squinted their eyes, raised their eyebrows, and scrunched-up their noses at me without even attempting to hiRead full post »

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MARCH 29, 2011 4:25PM

Victim Blaming

As I am writing, I can hear a story blaring from the T.V. An 11-year-old girl has been gang raped by 19 men. The story gets worse as this little girl, who has just been gang raped becomes the target of victim blaming. I cannot fathom how they could possibly even… Read full post »

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MARCH 1, 2011 2:46AM

Sea Glass: My Newest Obsession

For years I’ve picked up pieces of sea glass as I walked along the Connecticut shore. Not all beaches have it. Though the beach I go to in Rhode Island is full of gorgeous smooth beach stones, I have yet to find a single spec of sea glass there. Of the… Read full post »

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FEBRUARY 1, 2011 7:36PM

Dear Congress, Don't Invalidate Me Further

            I never thought I’d speak publicly about the details of what happened to me but now I know I may have to in the name of rape-victims and future rape-victims everywhere. Ten years ago I went to watch the Super Bowl with two older… Read full post »

Painting by Hayley Rose

I was surfing the web looking at different statutes of limitations and legalities for rape and sexual abuse, when I came across a repeal of the statute of limitations for certain rape cases in the State of Connecticut. In the article, Governor Jodi Rell is quoted… Read full post »

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JANUARY 10, 2011 12:13PM

Rape Trauma and the Aftermath


Artwork by Hayley Rose

Although the subject of rape rightfully garnishes much attention, the aftermath of such a trauma, and its long-term psychological effects, are often less discussed.  Being a victim of rape myself, I still relive the terror and shame of being raped even though it oc… Read full post »

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DECEMBER 13, 2010 10:19PM

My Tractor Broke, My Man Left Me, Then My Dog Ran Away

           Post-Thanksgiving dinner, my aunt, mother, and I sat at the small kitchen table in my aunt's four-room apartment as I unsuccessfully tried to talk about my feelings, “When I walk the campus at night by myself I really miss him.”… Read full post »

In society there are stigmas. These stigmas typically vary from country to country and are made up of outliers which differ from what society deems the norm. An unusual physical attribute, a mental or physical disability, is often enough to generate harsh judgments and alienation from other p… Read full post »

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NOVEMBER 29, 2010 3:22PM

I am a Rape Survivor

You too may be like me, a fellow rape survivor, essentially a member of a club that no one ever really plans on joining. As you probably know, this club is not really that elite. It is common knowledge that 1 in every 6 women has been sexually assaulted. If you… Read full post »