hollycomesalive's Blog


North Carolina,
Two children; ages 4 and 2. Married. I'm an RN and a graduate student. I knit, I spin and I dye wool yarn and fiber. When not wearing Dansko's or clogs, I'm in flip flops. I listen to everything from Jack Johnson, Jeff Buckley and Ben Harper to James Taylor, the Who and Queen.


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DECEMBER 10, 2009 1:41PM

Teaching my Young Sons about War

  Child War


Is there any justification for War?

I was a child during the Gulf War. I grew up in a town that was strikingly pro-military, not just because it was the "south", but also because of the large military base in the area. As a child, I was… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 6, 2009 1:19PM

Trading Orgasms for Sanity

I came by my recent diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder honestly. My mother suffered from it for years, but has been medication free for the past 10. From my own analysis, anxiety (or what I now know is OCD) is my coping mechanism of choice. Whenever there are significant changes in… Read full post »

Mark 10:17-25

  17As He was setting out on a journey, a man ran up to Him and knelt before Him, and asked Him, "Good Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?"

 18And Jesus said to him, "Why do you call Me good? No one is goodRead full post »

Obama was "change I could believe in", but now what? I'm a young person. I've only voted in 2 presidential election cycles, actually, and I have only been a progressive for the past 4 years. There are reasons I became a progressive. Progressives are for people, not profits or corporations. Progressiv… Read full post »

APRIL 14, 2009 9:15PM

The HIV Patient.

HIV positive. The first HIV positive patient I am forced to touch. I walk in and grab gloves. Introductions. Tasks.

HIV positive. She bleeds and there is blood. Gloves on my hands, blood on my gloves. HIV in her blood on the gloves on my hands.

Nevertheless, a conversation. She is… Read full post »

MARCH 22, 2009 9:42PM

Pre-Marital Sex Strikes Again.

I have a confession to make. I had pre-marital sex. Oh the horror! No, really, my mom still doesn't know about it and we sort of dance around the issue. We play this little game. It's sort of comical. Let me give you an example. This is the round-about dialogue that… Read full post »

MARCH 4, 2009 3:32PM

Open Call, Poetry: Kahlil Gibran

On Children 

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may

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MARCH 3, 2009 7:52AM

My Breasts Frighten Me.

In high school, they were perky, round and practically gravity-defying. After two pregnancies and subsequent breastfeeding, they are somewhat droopy. Breasts. My husband seems hypnotized by them. I do not think they are anything special. In fact, they are quite frightening.

Breast Cancer is everywher… Read full post »

Sorry, God.
Sorry, USA.
 Men occasionally like to throw around these courageous quotes that end up in history books:
"Give me liberty or give me death!" -Patrick Henry
"We can not be sure to have something to… Read full post »

My parents were a bad match from Day One. Honestly, I have no idea what they ever had in common. The fighting began in ernest after my brother was born. My father was never home- Never. My mother screamed, and screamed, and screamed. My mom would stand in front of the… Read full post »

  Bless her heart. After my mom came out of fundamentalist Christianity, she went all Deepak Chopra on me. She now subscribes to this mesh of New Age and Christianity. New Age Christianity? I don't know if that's accurate. I might have just created a new religion. Anyway, she's very big… Read full post »

This is all Palindrome's fault. I'm addicted to "Big Love" on HBO. I never imaged this would happen. It's not like I planned it. I had been avoiding the show for years based on my distaste for polygamy. My primary (and only) argument against polygamy is that it allows the man… Read full post »

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FEBRUARY 7, 2009 2:57PM

The "Art" of Self Manipulation

Waiting to hear from a job interview. Deep inside the recesses of my brain:


Really if we got the job, it would be great. But, it would also be not so great. For one, you'd have to move. You hate moving. The packing, the boxes, the fighting over which stuff you can… Read full post »

JANUARY 29, 2009 5:42PM

Look, Y'all: My Dr. Amy Post

horse meets cat
Horse meets cat. My backyard Summer of 2008.
 Look, y'all. I'm just going to throw this out there, okay, because this has kind of been grating on me and I'm in an odd mood today. Dr. Amy is not as bad as you're making… Read full post »
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JANUARY 25, 2009 7:00PM

On Donating My Eggs...

I'm going to get screened. I'm on a plane for a screening to donate my eggs. How do you tell that to the twentysomething guy next to you on the plane wondering where you're headed and why? They'll take lots of blood and do a vaginal ultrasound and exam. They'll set… Read full post »

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JANUARY 17, 2009 8:42AM

I Will Wrap my Sons in Copious Amounts of Bubblewrap

mud & trucks
I hold their hands with iron grip in parking lots. They both sit in carseats that are five point harnesses until 65 pounds. I run the the doctor (or at least call the on call nurse) at any sign of fever. I eye their bruises suspiciously. I… Read full post »
JANUARY 14, 2009 4:42PM

Bet-Hedging for a Child...



A case in Nebraska recently has piqued my interests. Apparently a 21 year old woman became pregnant and sought to have the baby placed for adoption by a private agency. She required that the adoptive parents not be pregnant and not have any bio… Read full post »

JANUARY 11, 2009 7:18PM

The Evolution of My Mother.

I came in the door having just gotten off of the bus. Mom was sitting on the couch in the exact same place as she had been when I had left. In fact, she was also wearing the same pale yellow sweat pants and she was staring at the same wall.… Read full post »

JANUARY 10, 2009 1:36PM

Baby Hair....My son's babydoll.



 Baby Hair.


 A little frightening, eh? This is my oldest child, Noah's, lovey. Baby dolls came into my sons life before the birth of our youngest child. I decided my 10 month old son needed a babydoll to maybe help ease the transition of a new… Read full post »

JANUARY 7, 2009 6:21PM


See this picture? At the time that picture was taken, I was convinced that the man standing to my right was perfect. No, really. Perfect, as in, without flaw. Sometime during our second year of marriage I found out that wasn't true. Ends up, that's okay.
JANUARY 6, 2009 9:36AM

Dead people on my I-Tunes.





jim morrison



There are dead people on my I-Tunes. They made good music, but now they are dead. Oh well. Just my luck anyway. Figures.

I didn't grow up listening to awesome music (well, with the exception of Bruce Springsteen- Dad's secre… Read full post »

DECEMBER 31, 2008 2:39PM

I'm in the Lord's Army.

"I may never march in the infantry, Ride in the cavalry, Shoot the artillery.
I may never fly over the enemy, But I'm in the Lord's army."


I can't remember a time when I did not know the lyrics to the song above. There were even… Read full post »

DECEMBER 28, 2008 6:46PM

25 Things about hollycomesalive...

1) I am not very old. I am 24. This must make me one of the youngest people on OS, although I haven't checked up on this.

2) My favorite drink is a mimosa.

3) I voted for George W. Bush in 2004. (I KNOW! I KNOW! I figured so… Read full post »

There are 10 vaccines that are on the American Academy of Pediatrics vaccine schedule for children under 5 years old. Those vaccines are:

Hep B, HIB, Pc (Prevnar), DTaP, Rotavirus, Polio, MMR, Chickenpox, Hep A, Flu

 This is our schedule: HIB, DTaP, Polio, MMR, Flu (w/o thimerosal). Hep B @ 10-1… Read full post »

The harsh realities of being a preschooler. After picking out all of the marshmellows in the Lucky Charms, he now proceeds to tell me that the rest of his cereal is yucky and that he "WANTS MORE MARSHMELLOWS NOW!" Of course, you can't get more marshmellows until you eat the rest… Read full post »