If only getting a dose of honor or integrity was as easy as getting a flu shot, society might be in better shape. It would certainly be a easier one to live in.
This post is a a reaction to a situation a friend of mine told me about recently. It's a new twist on an old heartbreak.
It's about men or women who reconnect with old acquaintances and suddenly, one is calling, emailing, instant messaging, or texting - frequently - and the other is already in a relationship. The conversation veers to flattery and complimenents.
PUT AN END TO IT NOW!!!
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME OF THIS.
First of all, anyone who does this to you does not respect you, or value your relationship. If they did, they would not cross those boundaries. This is not, REPEAT NOT, a trustworthy person.
If this relationship progressed, think he/she won't do the same again? Ha - think again! It's an age old story with a new name - cyber cheating! They are in this only for what they can get out of it.
Now, if you are the one in the relationship, let's give you the benefit of the doubt. Maybe you are feeling vulnerable; maybe going through a rough patch with your loved one, so perhaps the attention feels nice.
ALERT!!!! YOU'RE PLAYING WITH FIRE.
KNOCK IT OFF BEFORE YOU GET BURNED
Seriously, you are willing to toss your relationship away for this?? For some guy/girl masquerading as a friend while blatantly letting you know he/she would welcome more?? If so, perhaps you deserve what you get.
Think it's just innocent fun? Ok, take a trip back to kindergarten with me for a moment and let's ask the same question we teach children to ponder. How would you feel if it happned to you? What if you discovered your loved one was doing this? Would you feel threatened, betrayed, hurt?
Cheating is the lowest form of character. Respect your relationship. If you want out, then have the decency to tell the person and call it quits before starting ANYTHING up with someone else. Karma is a bitch they say.
Here is a quote I came across earlier this week that sums it up nicely:
"If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters."
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Rated.
"Let sleeping dogs lie."
"You can't go back."
"If all the king's horses and all the king's men couldn't put humpty-dumpty together again, what makes you think you can?"
"Never eat your food twice."
"Don't eat yellow snow."
(*actually this one has nothing at all to do with this subject - I just threw it in for free*)
What you can work towards is maturity and integrity. Those lead to contentment. And contentment, worthy in its own right, is the honey that draws happiness a little more often.