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jackie2
Location
Lewisburg, Pennsylvania, USA
Birthday
August 01
Title
Clinical Psychologist
Company
Dr. Jacqueline B. Sallade
Bio
Only child of holocaust survivors from Eastern and Central Europe, grew up in Phila., Central PA, and NYC (2nd home). Psychologist since 1970 working with children and adults in wide variety of selttings, including schools, hospital, courts, private office, and prisons.

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I listened to most of a TED talk on "hard choices." The speaker is a philospher who kept talking in circles, in my humble opinion, about the fact that hard choices are hard because they are equally valid, even when more of one choice  is tallied in. For example, the decision… Read full post »

For what seems like 100 years, I consulted with the Bureau of Disability Determination in PA, doing psych evaluations with true mind and heart applied to a multiplicity of problems. I have written elsewhere about the wealth of experience I gained from this work. I learned to appreciate the conditions… Read full post »

Another unfortuate woman told me that her therapist of 2 years advised her to try real hard not to feel her anxiety, to fight it, to use mind over matter and make herself take charge. Meanwhile, her crippling anxiety prevents her from going out without others and living normally. She's not… Read full post »

It's a natural tendency to protect ourselves one way or another. Psychologically, we often do so by defensiveness and denial. Politics is group psychology, of course, because groups of people form opinions, agree or disagree with each other, make laws and create governments.

So, for example, we… Read full post »

EDMR is a technique based on a neurological theory which asserts that mental relief and freedom comes from confusing the brain away from an obsessive thought, memory or belief, including PTSD. Mostly, the technique involves having the patient listen to and often repeat thoughts which contradict… Read full post »

Usually, I speak up, but not always in time and not necessarily to the right person, so here are 10 things I like to say and sometimes have. You may need to say these same things.

1. For every choice there are advantages and disadvantages.

2. Balance is prime.

3.… Read full post »

Talking with fellow therapist about marital counseling/training/workshops. Ideas just ran out of him. His marriage is good. He has helped others with theirs. It struck me that his and many people I know have a much better second marriage than they had before, despite the statistics which say that sec… Read full post »

In sweet little towns, like Lewisburg, PA, families and individuals, children, dogs, babies to old folks gather for music in the park. Whatever were folks' problems, from arthritis to depression to debt, they dissipated in the warm, breezy air and the sounds of singing and instrumments strummed, fing… Read full post »

To the father who has been alienated from his child, Father's Day is the saddest day of the year. Who's to say that the mother who convinced the child that the father was a selfish loser didn't have some reasons for her bitterness and disappointment? However, poisoning the child was a crime… Read full post »

It's much harder to diagnose children as emotionally disturbed and, more so, with a specific disorder than to diagnose adults. First of all, they're children, so they haven't lived long enough to establish clear patterns of deviant behavior. They are more easily-influenced by family and environmental… Read full post »

My friends said they're poor, while we ate in a good restaurant, talking about our extensive travels. Yes, they have their basic needs met and save diligently for each trip. But, they're far from poor. I pointed out that the poorest people I know really don't know how they'll save for… Read full post »

So, you think only the VA hospitals are negligent, corrupt and unable to deliver? Believe me, there are stories after stories of trauma and death caused by not scheduling appointments, long waiting lists, overbooked doctors, incompetence, and corruption in private nonprofit and for-profit, faith-base… Read full post »

How is it that briliant, superintelligent people, professors and scientists at the forefront of their fields of study, can make stereotypical, even bigoted, assumptions about others? These others have different opinions, especially in politics and religion. For example, a renowned science author… Read full post »

In the old Freudian days, we used to call a persistent state of mind depressive neurosis. Then, it became dysthymic disorder. But, that term of "feeling negative" doesn't really decribe the person well. This person has an undertone of "down," pessimism, self-depreciation, and lack of joy. While he ca… Read full post »

As I listen to the outrage and debate about the lost girls from Nigeria, scenes from "Law and Order SVU," "NCIS," and other dramas flash through my mind. I, also, remember interviewing young women recovering from drug addiction, former teen prostitutes, who used to live on the streets of big cit… Read full post »

You've heard about unwanted children. Usually, a reproductive "accident" results in a little baby, but it's almost impossible not to love a helpless, little human being. So, even the druggie mom who doesn't know which guy was the "father," probably loves her baby. However, that doesn't mean she'… Read full post »

Being sick is no picnic, for sure, and being with someone, especially a spouse or partner, who is sick isn't good, either. First, there's the doubt that it's real, a kind of denial, like asking if the person is a hypochondriac, lazy, self-pitying or "just" depressed and overreacting. Along with… Read full post »

A gym buddy and I were talking about Russia today. He said that Putin is "a homosexual," citing the public pose without shirt, the extreme homophobia and the anti-gay politics he advances in his dictatorship. In that case, the term for his attitude and behavior would be the old Freudian "reactio… Read full post »

I have written about the neurobehavioral condition of obsessive hoarding before and the need for behavioral intervention. A gradual program of retraining works to reprogram the brain. I've worked with many compulsvie hoarders, from mild to severe. Their progress depends on their motivation to change.… Read full post »

I'm in Jerusalem right now. I see Jews in regular Western clothes, black Hasidic garb, various hats and caps and head coverings, shawls  and coats playing in the park, walking with families, shopping, working among Arabic Moslem and Christian colleagues and neighbors. The synagogues, mosques and… Read full post »

Expect the unexpected. No matter what your premonitions as you start on a new relationship, marriage, pregnancy, school, move, job, career, or any endeavor, you better be flexible. It's not going to be exactly what what you envisoned. It can't be because you're not a perfect predictor of the future,… Read full post »

My heart shattered into a thousand little shards,

All of them magneticaly pulled back into my chest,

Forming a new heart of stained, sprained, strained glass.

My new heart is fragile to the touch and to the non-touch.

It longs for the impossible and reflects loss and death,

But at its best,… Read full post »

There's a wide variety of ways to handle pain, be it physical or mental. I've been thinking about the physical kind, especially since re-injuring my knee the other day. I have a Baker's cyst, which releases poison, painful liquid down my leg almost continually. If it doesn't heal with care, I… Read full post »

Since I grew up in the shadow of my Nazi-surviving (and dead) family members, sometimes I'm tired of reading and viewing Nazi stories in literature and film. However, they are hard to escape completely, especially if I want to see good acting or read an author who wrote compelling books on… Read full post »

In real life, do we see the kind of courage they show on TV in shows like NCIS ? Well, I guess "The Little Couple," from TV is real life. Of course, off camera they might take a break from their sweet, brave smiles as they love each other through the trials… Read full post »