Last night on West 75th Street in Manhattan twenty five blocks below where I live, two children were stabbed to death in their bathtub by their 50 year old Nanny. My husband called to tell me this around 6:00 pm. My best friend lives on that block so I texted her to find out if she had heard the news. We both were in complete disbelief.
A part of me doesn’t want to believe this woman could murder two innocent children and then try to take her own life. Yet, the more articles I read it is evident that the young Mother witnessed the Nanny “slashing her own neck, with both her wrists already slit and bleeding.” Marina Krim, the Mother of three small children never could have imagined coming home to a scene like that.
As Mothers we often go to dark places, guard our suspicion quietly and trust very few when it comes to our children. I am sure Marina and her husband felt confident that they had hired a caring and loving person. We all have been blindsided by someone as they reveal themselves in stressful times or situations out of their control. Yet, we never really think that someone close to us will come un-glued in a violent and rageful episode effecting our lives forever.
If Marina was my sister, my friend, my co-worker how could I comfort her? What could I possibly say that could bring her ten seconds worth of peace? We know that this will be the most painful journey she has ever experienced in her life. She will be battling guilt, self- doubt, depression and replaying every conversation leading up to this tragedy. I pray that she and her husband and their three year old child stay as close as possible over the next few months.
We may never meet, but I wanted you to know that you and your family will be in my prayers for a very long time. You are a strong and loving woman and will always be a wonderful Mother. Stay close to your loved ones, they need you as much as you will need them. Heal at your own pace. Be gentle on yourself.
Love and Light,