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Jenny Whitty
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April 11
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I'm a mother of four beautiful children. A teenage daughter, 9 year old son, and 4 and 5 year old boys with autism. I'm juggling a lot, and sometimes I drop it all! Oh, and I'm transforming my former 300 pound body into a more healthy 155 pounds. Doctors orders! Only 105 more pounds to lose - and I won't miss them!

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SEPTEMBER 11, 2009 9:33AM

Raising Sons with Autism: Learning to Play

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Yesterday afternoon, after my sons' daily speech session, I had to ask the director of the therapy center a few questions.  My boys, Simon (5) and Max (3), were ready to go, but decided to amuse themselves in the hallway.  What started out as reading the signs in hall, quickly turned into a screaming/laughing game of tag.  One by one, therapists emerged from different rooms along the hall to watch.  My boys were interacting...  they were actually playing!

SimonMax 

My two youngest sons have autism.  Simon and Max are only 15 months apart, but until recently they did not interact (willingly) with each other.  On Monday, Simon was walking beside his brother as we left preschool and he turned to me and said, "this is my little brother, and I love him."  They started hugging this summer and saying, "hi."  Now, they can play tag. 

After a few minutes of rowdy, and loud play in the halls, the director turned to me and said, with a fake scowl, "no playing in the hallways!  Can you believe your kids are playing in the hallway?" 

We were too mesmerized to stop them.  Each of the therapists who peeked out of their doors to see what was going on had a smile on their face.  Some gave me the thumbs up sign.  They knew how many hours of therapy it takes to get this special sort of interaction that comes so naturally for most children.

Any other time I would have been embarrassed by this out of control behavior.  But just as I encouraged my son, Max, to tell me "no" over and over again, I could stand to hear the screams and dodge my running children in the hall all day long.  It's weird how autism turns your world upside down and inside out.  I like how I now appreciate so many little things I took for granted before.

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My heart is with you. Peace...
A moment worth hanging onto, indeed. As the aunt of a teenage nephew with Asperger's, I can only begin to imagine the struggles of a parent with two autistic sons, and share your joy in what would seem to others like a small thing, your Monday victory.
that is so great. God bless you daily in your care of these children, may they continue to blossom.
What a great story. And I know exactly what you mean about your upside down world. When my son, who has Asperger's, was 4, he was in the backseat of the car having his first real conversation with fellow preschooler. I was thrilled. But the topic was what to put on their hamburgers, and their choices were things like poop, pee, and boogers! I was torn -- do I let the conversation continue because he's actually talking and connecting? Or do I stop it because of the potty talk? Of course, I opted to let it go on -- smiling like a Cheshire cat the entire time!

Congratulations on the progress your boys have made. I know you've worked as hard as they have to get there!
this is absolutely wonderful!
That's fantastic, congratulations to you all.
How wonderful! Congratulations.
This is a great story to show how perspective makes all the difference. :D
This is just delightful. Truly. I am so excited to witness the progress your sons are making.

Also, Michael and I were completely surprised and deeply touched to receive your card and this lovely photo. That’s the first real mail we’ve ever gotten at that PO box! The woman who works there flagged me down when she saw me passing, she got so excited that we had something in there :-) Thank you for your heartfelt words—and for continuing to share your family’s significant journey.

—Melissa