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Jennifer Byde Myers

Jennifer Byde Myers
Location
SF Bay Area, California, US
Birthday
February 03
Bio
Jennifer Byde Myers is a writer, editor and parent of a child with autism. She has been writing since 2003 at www.jennyalice.com, chronicling her family’s journey from diagnosis to daily living with her son’s special needs. She is a founder and editor of The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism. Her writing has been featured at Salon.com, Dandelion, Care.com and in several books including My Baby Rides the Short Bus. Jennifer has been interviewed on NPR, most recently on Forum with Michael Krasny, and is a Parenting.com Must-Read Mom. She lives on the San Francisco peninsula with her supportive husband, two wily children and a dog named Gus. Follow her on Twitter at @jennyalice

MY RECENT POSTS

MAY 10, 2012 8:00AM

Just Say Something

the cashier: Diapers eh? Expensive. I bet you can't wait until they are out of those.
me: Yes, we'll be rich. Uh, I have a special needs kid, so it may take awhile.
Oh, that's hard.
Yes, mostly for him. He gets frustrated. But he's doing great. He's a… Read full post »
MAY 7, 2012 6:30AM

Snapshot of myBoy

Jake had a most successful ride on the boat this weekend. Happy and snuggled next to me, comfortable (enough) in a life jacket, and following all the rules. He had a smile on his face nearly the entire ride, and was very happy. It means there will be many/…

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MAY 2, 2012 6:00AM

Remember Me

I just retold a story to a friend about a life-changing incident that happened to me when I was five years old. It is so vivid: my little blonde curly-headed self standing there in the driveway next to my blue bike with the pink flowered banana seat. We didn't have helmets…

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Editor’s Pick
APRIL 19, 2012 9:30AM

Autism Acceptance: Growing Up

I heard a crunchy sound from a mouth that should have been empty. It is a horrible feeling when I think one of my children has eaten something dangerous. We've been pretty lucky around here, the most inedible items actually swallowed aren't really inedible, the cut-off tops/…

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APRIL 12, 2012 6:30AM

Autism: Around and About and Aware

We are on week two of spring break around here, and my lovely pre-teen son is taking nicely to sleeping in until 9:30am (thank you to Sage who is getting my girl to kindergarten this week!) While it usually feels a little frantic and unstructured during spring break, this year feels…

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APRIL 4, 2012 2:13PM

Autism Starts with A


Awareness is understanding my son's struggles. It is determining all the ways he has to work harder and has to adapt to get what he wants. Awareness is seeking resources to help him gain skills, and it is patience, and learning. Awareness is eventually recognizing your… Read full post »
APRIL 4, 2012 11:37AM

Tragedy, Sympathy and Empathy


My heart is racing, and it makes me unable to breathe. Tears swell up when I try to talk about it. It is a tragic story that has our entire community reeling.

A student from my son's school was killed by his mother. Then she took her own/…

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APRIL 3, 2012 4:08AM

Autism Starts with A


Awareness is understanding my son's struggles. It is determining all the ways he has to work harder and has to adapt to get what he wants. Awareness is seeking resources to help him gain skills, and it is patience, and learning. Awareness is eventually recognizing your… Read full post »
MARCH 22, 2012 11:17AM

Every Kid Is A Person

I wasn't asked to have a conference with Lucy's teacher, Ms. June, but Lucy asked me to make an appointment just the same. I sort of wanted to check-in anyway given that my daughter is already a different kind of person than I was at her age with her own way…

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MARCH 21, 2012 7:00AM

Every Kid Is A Person

I wasn't asked to have a conference with Lucy's teacher, Ms. June, but Lucy asked me to make an appointment just the same. I sort of wanted to check-in anyway given that my daughter is already a different kind of person than I was at her age with her own way…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

He Handed Me a Tomato.

I struggled to make the story more compelling to the parent of one of my daughter’s friends. He’s a kind man with two typical children, who asked me about Jake without any pity in his voice. (I hear that voice quite often, and it’s something I have come to understand, but… Read full post »
MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Sweet Lemons

My wedding anniversary sneaks up on me each year. It marks the passing of time for me much more clearly than my birthday ever will, because I can remember every year I've been married, whereas there are entire years and seasons I cannot remember from childhood (in spite/…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Like Pebbles Through the Hourglass

We're sitting here on the walkway on our hill. I'm a little more relaxed up here as long as I am between Jake and the stairs which lead to the street, where he has just gotten off the bus. It's not a yellow short bus anymore, it's a very well-used white… Read full post »
MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Venting Frustration: Mental Health

I think Jake might need to go back on a medication to help him concentrate at school, and be able to sit down for dinner, which he can no longer do unless he is in his wheelchair. He stopped taking the previous meds in the fall, after several weeks of behavior…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Love and a Dustpan

I haven't swept the floor all week. Not once. It is unimaginable that my kitchen floor could go six hours without needing to be swept, and it has been nearly five days. I am giddy that my feet are free of crumbs, pebbles and warm black dirt from our backyard. 

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

A Bicycle Built for...Someone Else

The other day I was driving along, taking care only to watch my speed, and otherwise on autopilot. I was preoccupied making a list of all that I needed to do before we left for the holiday when I saw several bike riders turn onto the other side of the street…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

I Yell. I YELL!

I yell. Not all the time, and not at every body, but I yell, I raise my voice. I know I do. In fact I probably want to yell a lot more often, but somehow I have figured out that generally it's not appropriate. People don't think very highly of you if…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Ya' Been Busy?

from my mom, after almost a week without hearing from me, and no blog posts to read:


hi,
I assume I still have a daughter??? have ya been busy?
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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

And Then I Was Forty

My daughter had to count to one hundred tonight for her homework as part of the celebration of the 100th day of school. She also had to put one hundred things in a bag to share with her classmates. Candy would generally be her first choice, but we settled on little…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Blessings

I have been joking lately that the past decade was a 'little rough', but that the last nine months have nearly made up for it.  It's not like we didn't have a whole lot of amazing, awesome things happen in the last ten years, because we did...children and new friendships and…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

I'm the "Mom Next Door"


Did I mention that my family is featured in Dandelion magazine's Back-to-School issue? It was a fun photo shoot (all photos are by Sara Atkins, who worked so well with my kids..thank you!) Clearly we are big dorks, but Dandelion is a great resource for Bay Area special needs/… Read full post »
MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Autistics Speaking Day

Today is Autistics Speaking Day, at least for a couple more hours. If you are participating, please submit your post to the official site!


Thinking Person's Guide to Autism has been participating all day today with Liz Ditz curating every post she could find, and Carol Greenburg (-CG) busy twee… Read full post »
MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Things I Learned This Summer

It's been a great summer. We didn't cross the country, but we did some fun things, and our kids are happy. It's also been a hard summer for me. I worked more, and had less childcare, and no or less school for the kids. I had several trips/…

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MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Fit to Print

The book ... THE BOOK is now available. I am taking a break right now from building the Kindle version to mark this occasion on my own blog. We have received wonderful reviews so far, especially from Steve Silberman who has called Thinking Person's Guide to Autism the Book of theRead full post »
MARCH 12, 2012 11:31PM

Home Again

I went to BlogHer11 last week. I road-tripped with one of my bestest friends AND her mom AND her girls, and managed to be packed and ready to go at 5am. We slid past the San Luis reservoir at daybreak, and in record time were able to gobble delicious/…

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