Finding Peace in the Process



The 'Burbs, Illinois,
January 18
Married father of two girls. Was a writer in a previous life. Drove a truck for 20 years. Trudging the road of happy destiny since 1987.


MARCH 21, 2011 2:17PM

Will marry for food


     It is said that men marry their mothers. If that were the case, I would be content with meat loaf covered in catsup, overcooked pork chops and, on Fridays, bowing to the dictates of our church, canned salmon somehow transformed into burgers, as if we wouldn’t notice.Read full post »

JULY 2, 2010 1:23PM

Prog Rock rolls at Ravinia

     Any week that includes Jethro Tull and The Moody Blues is a pretty good week. But after digesting the progressive rock hitmakers that performed at Ravinia Festival last week, and updating my i-pod accordingly, the sounds swirling in my head, the ones that linger, are from Tull's… Read full post »
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JUNE 20, 2010 5:27PM

The Courthouse, again

        I give her ten for the train so she can go back to jail and she calls next day, hey can you take me up there? I don't ask where she's been and what happened to yesterday's ten.
     I can't take her. I have… Read full post »

     I'm very jealous today. I wish I lived in Pennsylvania. Folks in Pennsylvania got to go to the polls this week. Our primary elections in Illinois were held Feb. 3.
     If Pennsylvanians did it the way we did it, Arlen Spector would be been the… Read full post »

     Administrators on the hot seat for canceling a trip to Arizona because of its new immigration law received backing from their school board Monday night.
     The decision by administrators in District 113 in northeastern Illinois brought on a wave a criticis… Read full post »

      Administrators at my alma mater aren't taking calls at the moment. My guess is that come Monday, they may reverse the decision which landed them in national news reports over the last few days.
     Highland Park High School, located in northeastern Il… Read full post »
APRIL 28, 2010 1:33PM

Relieving the pain of death

     I wanted to let Jerry die, but I had a funeral to go to. Mike died first and arrangements had to be made.  Jerry would have to wait.
     I consider my term in 2008 as caregiver to my wife's father and uncle as one of… Read full post »
APRIL 9, 2010 4:30PM

Attraction at a Certain Age

     A few posts bounced around yesterday about the attributes which render men or women desirable at a certain age.
     Me, I'm a Cheap Trick song with a typo. I want girls who want me. I like girls who like me. Though no longer intent on validation… Read full post »
MARCH 29, 2010 5:39PM

A boy and his dog

     Bad day to skip school, as it turned out.
      It was nice and breezy in late May of 1967. That meant softball at recess. Worse, though, was that Dad was home. What was the point of ditching school if he didn't have the house to… Read full post »
MARCH 27, 2010 4:52PM

Ten Books

     The Sirens of Titan, by Kurt Vonnegut.  I was on a sci-fi kick when I read Vonnegut's second novel and discovered worlds beyond and within the ones we thought we knew. The Late Mr. Vonnegut left me with a couple of things. One, for a writer,… Read full post »
MARCH 22, 2010 11:35AM

Back to Court (Pt. II)

     I tell the girl with the ponytail there must be some mistake, knowing as I spoke there was none. I tried blame. Why was she released? The judge's order said she was to be released to me for transport to a halfway house.
     None of… Read full post »
MARCH 20, 2010 7:13PM

Back to Court

     I don't think rehab went well. I visited her once. She yelled at me for ten minutes. Then left and slammed the door and kept yelling, her voice finally trailing off after she turned the corner at the end of the hall. The therapist said she's getting better at… Read full post »

MARCH 7, 2010 3:23PM

Taking care of me

     I did something good for myself last week. I got a colonoscopy, four years after turning 50, four years after my doctor suggested it, more than six months after a couple of guys on Open Salon suggested it.
     The only way people find cancer in… Read full post »
JANUARY 30, 2010 4:15PM

The Joy of Reading About Sex

     I'm reading an old John LeCarre' novel, "The Secret Pilgrim." It's fun. I haven't read a lot of the author's work, and none of it in a very long time. Spy stuff. There won't be any spoiler alerts as I am still reading.
     But I have… Read full post »

     I can see it now. Two men stand at podiums on a stage. Democrat Alexi Giannoulias pleads with Illinois voters for a chance to go to Washington as one of their two U.S. Senators, specifically, to serve in the seat formerly occupied by President Barack Obama.
JANUARY 12, 2010 12:26PM


     I hear Joey the dog licking his paws and I savor the soft thlip thlip thlip through the silent peace of my home. It is the only sound. I'm aware it does not threaten me and I am grateful.
     Even before the relapse, right after… Read full post »
DECEMBER 23, 2009 9:11AM

Another Day in Court

     The judge wanted her attention.
     "Christmas in jail."
     He got it.
     I brought Rose to court Thursday. I knew what was coming. She didn't. She had written a letter to the judge to assure him she had seen… Read full post »
DECEMBER 11, 2009 5:05PM

Little Tarzan

     If only he were bigger.
     This never happened to the big kids. They just reached up into the crook of the oak tree and grabbed the vine, then they let out their best Tarzan yells and swung neatly from one side of the ravine… Read full post »
DECEMBER 4, 2009 12:36AM

Camp Ma-ka-ja-wan

      Camping was the highlight of my grade school years. We camped for one weekend every month from Spring through Fall, with the highlight being two weeks in summer at Camp Ma-ka-ja-wan in northern Wisconsin.
     My first campout might well have been my l… Read full post »
DECEMBER 1, 2009 9:53AM

My Open Salon Annibloggery

     You saved me.
     I had written a script for my life and it blew up, so I sat on a couch and ate for three months. Then I decided to write about what had happened. From Dec. 1 of 2008, through March of 2009, I… Read full post »

       "Pieces of April" is my favorite Thanksgiving movie. I have watched it every year on this weekend since it was released in 2003.
     It tells the story of a family as they drive for hours into New York City to have dinner… Read full post »
NOVEMBER 19, 2009 3:04PM

OS blogger boffo at Book Cellar

     It one thing to read an author's words. It's another to hear the author read them. I had this pleasure last night in Chicago when Open Salon blogger Gwendolyn Glover read from her first novel, "Cast the First Stone."
     The setting was "The Book Cellar"… Read full post »
NOVEMBER 13, 2009 9:49AM

Vampire Card

     Boys will be boys and moms are supposed to knock.
     Then wait.
     They are not supposed to knock as they walk in, then go all bug-eyed when they see a boy being a boy. The look on her face was almost worth it.… Read full post »
NOVEMBER 10, 2009 8:34AM

Needles and Pains

        My body started talking to me a while back, but I didn't listen. Now it's screaming.  Someone took five needles and inserted them lengthwise into each of my wrists.
     I go to the doc and he says no, those aren't needles. You have… Read full post »
NOVEMBER 2, 2009 11:52AM

A Day in Court (Updated)

     It was an arraignment. The defendant officially enters a plea. I was there so she could see me, that's all. Let her know someone in this world cares where she is.
     She's brought in a few minutes before her case is called. She wears the… Read full post »