I left my phone at home yesterday. Again. Not on purpose. I just forgot to put it in my purse. Which I do fairly often. It never really bothers me.
I'll be on a plane or at a play and they'll make an announcement to turn off all mechanical devices and I'll look in my purse and be a little surprised when the phone's actually there.
Sometimes I even leave it at home on purpose. Not usually for the whole day, but when I run to the store, or walk the dog, or go out to eat.
I think it's a generational thing. My daughters are never without their phones. They're lost without them. If they were at a play and saw they didn't have their phone, they'd probably go back home to get it, or borrow their seatmate's phone to call someone to bring it to them, or panic.
I'm much more casual about it."Oops, I forgot my phone."
It might make a difference if I was expecting important calls or tweets, but I rarely am.
And it might make a difference if my phone did all the things that most phones do these days--like play games, receive emails, take videos, write novels. Mine's a flip phone that only does calls and takes pictures. Or at least I think it takes pictures. I never actually do that.
If you're running for President and making a speech in front of a group that you think is like-minded enough that you can say what's really on your mind, you're going to be safe with me. You'll have dissed 47% of the population before I even figure out if my phone has an audio and video function. That is, of course, if I remembered to bring it.
I think it would make a difference if I grew up thinking everybody was reachable at all times and that I should be too. Which I didn't. And don't. I grew up with land lines and pay phones and being paged at airports.
I was at an airport a couple weeks ago and heard a page, and was immediately on the alert. I wanted to connect with that other person who forgets their phone.
Back in the day, we didn't even have voice mail or answering machines, let alone text. If you called and nobody answered, you didn't much worry about it. You just called back later. The pay phones even gave you your dime back.
These days I have to be a little more careful. Because my daughters worry when I don't answer. Like the time I went shopping after work and didn't take my phone. It was 7:00 p.m., I wasn't home, and my youngest daughter was so worried she started calling people to see if they knew where I was. Even people in different states.
"Hello?!" Is this the same daughter that stayed out all night knowing that I would be waiting up and worrying on the couch?
I thought this was a generational thing too. Moms worry and kids think you shouldn't. It kind of makes me happy to realize that I can get payback by doing nothing other than leaving my phone at home.
I read some articles recently about privacy issues with cell phones. And I couldn't help but remember the days of party lines, when we actually shared phone lines with other people. Families who lived in the country shared with a whole bunch of other folks, each with their own distinctive ring. But if you wanted to listen in on what Ethel down the road was saying all you had to do was quietly pick up the handset.*
*(a handset is the piece of an antique rotary phone that you hold in your hand, speaking into the bottom half while holding the top half to your ear. It's connected to the base by a coiled cord that tangles easily, but that can be untangled by holding the end closest to the base high in the air and letting the handset dangle.)
Just now I read about people camping out at night to get the newest version of a phone that's at least six versions away from the one that I'm perfectly happy with, but could no longer buy because it's extinct.
It kind of makes me feel that I'm a little extinct too.
It kind of makes me want to go and camp out in that line.
If I do, I think I'm going to leave my phone at home. Boy will that make my daughters worry.


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jmac--That's probably what I would have if my girls didn't pass down their old ones and put me on their family plans.
Scanner--For the life of me, I can't figure out what they talk about all the time. One of my daughters would call when walking somewhere and then call again 20 minutes later when walking back home. I finally had to tell her that my life just wasn't that interesting and I had nothing left to say.
Gerald--Were they paging you at the airport the other day by any chance?
i delve diffidently into this computer revolution the nice young
genius geekheads have delivered unto us,
for my philosophical/theological training tells me
that anything that improves the possibility of a noosphere
or an oversoul or a collective consciousness
evolving
is probably what was meant to be.
i am not gonna be no pioneer in it tho!
but it is well and good to get a text from a beloved gal
or a sister off on an adventure
or to get email from yer long lost cousin as i did
telling me i got some new relatives, his twin daughters.
ha "Moms worry and kids think you shouldn't. It kind of makes me happy to realize that I can get payback by doing nothing other than leaving my phone at home"
well but dont take it to the extreme. we are a village.
it is the way it is. we will die, and
the village will be more interconnected after we are gone,
and i dunno, i am a literary guy,
i wish i was getting emails about books people have read
and what they learned offa them, but that happens
once in a blue moon.
as long as i got some smarts, i am gonna smarten up this
system the youngsters got goin for us.
if any of it survives, i will maybe be validated.
:D
I love this piece.
r.
Thanks for the excellent work, jlsathre...
james--I'm slowly evolving. But I'm still perfectly content to wait to read my emails when I get home.
Amy--That's why my daughter lets me be on her family plan. I use up virtually no minutes.
postmormon--I hear there are some pretty fun games and the pictures are great. Happy navigating.
Tink--Maybe more. Get off that perch and get with it.
Joan--Ha. We have good daughters.
Matt--I do try to remember mine when I go on a car trip. It feels kind of like a life line then, mainly because of the age of my car.
Jonathan--I would have expected to see you in that line.
Truthfully, dear phone was lost near Sun Prairie, WI andah the gracious agent at T put the kibosh on the # and evidenced that it had not encountered use. I feel lost and blue about the loss. Going forward, even my backups will have backups.
I am unsure if I can reconstruct my movie 'Seabird'. (c)
jlsarthe, rather surprised about your reticence to the blessed tools available. Wish we could build such devices here in America!
Also: DO NOT TEXT AND DRIVE EVER!
Jim
I remember being at the home of a new friend years AND YEARS ago and her phone rang and she had no answer machine and she let it ring. She said, "Well, they'll call back and our conversation is important." I admired her and also thought she was more dangerously eccentric (hah!) than I had first reckoned. Imagine! That demanding ring and you answer. Pavlovian. Made me realize even the land line was tyrannical.
take care! best, libby
I have a landline and then here and there I buy those prepaids, and lose them on average of once a month. I don't much care to keep in touch most of the time, with most people. I see those forlorn looking pay phones and give them a smile.
libby--I knew there was a reason I liked you.
Deborah--I'm going to copy your comment and send it right off to my daughters. And they're going to ask me if I was hiding under a rock or something when my generation did all this.
fernsy--I don't have that many people I want to talk to either. At least not on the phone.