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JANUARY 19, 2012 6:50AM

My Wife Was a Filthy Turn-of-Phrase: Food Stamp Recipient

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     Now that it's again apparently fair-game for right wing candidates to praise child labor, smear welfare, social security, medicaid, medicare, and food stamps, and sneer as they spit the words as filthy phrases, I'll raise up Tamar.     
    
     When we met in the early recessionary Reagan '80s, Tamar received food stamps. She had graduated from Tyler School of Art/Temple University in Philadelphia with a specialty in fiber arts. She's a remarkable batik artist and yet you may be surprised to learn that there was, at that time, no glut of Corporate Batik positions, either in Philadelphia, where we met, or in her native New York. At that time she was not yet a social worker.

     She  found, at first, only part-time work, as Assistant Activities Director at the Philadelphia-Germantown YMCA, an age-old, respected community institution in a highly diverse neighborhood. In her years there she more than tripled activities group membership, began and oversaw dozens of classes, including a variety of low-cost and terrific art offerings. Eventually, while she continued on with her art and mounted shows and sold to an increasing number of private collectors, she began to find full-time posts in social work. She is the very best I've known and she's won, here in Maryland, state-wide, formal recognition for her excellence.

     I'm put in mind of Tamar's use of post-college graduation food stamps not only because the latest winnowed set of candidates have wound up nasty, racially-tinged rhetoric about those whom Jeremiah and Jesus demanded we care for let alone not demonize, but because Costco is now starting its third year accepting food stamps at all of its well over 400 superstores.

     Here's the reason:  The Wall Street Journal reports that nearly half...

                          half our nation's children

will receive food stamps at some point during childhood, this according to a study in The American Journal of Pediatrics.

     Costco knows it's good business.

            

     Lest you think this is largely about welfare, know--

         . that fewer than 12% (let alone half) of our children are in welfare-receiving families or in families that ever received welfare or in families that will likely ever receive welfare.

And yet,

         . 50% of American children will, at some point, receive food stamps.

     This means that--

        . there are numbers of food stamp-qualifiers that reach well beyond welfare eligibility, and

        . as to geography, race, and ethnicity, among food stamp recipients there just is no real gulf between urban/rural, black/brown/white, on and on.

     We may, one day, have the guts to fight poverty consistently, work, and work, and work, and win.

     Among the ideas that, first, simply must die for all children to have a shot, is

        . the false and small-minded and largely racist assumption that there's anything close to a one-to-one ratio between food stamp and welfare recipients.

A second (and quite insane) idea that must die is the one that suggests that

        . poverty is impenetrable and intractable because recipients are content.

And a third idea that we must accept in order to succeed at any form of anti-poverty work is that

        . it's possible, despite demagogues, recession, despite bigotry.

     While you're considering that, look up the racial, ethnic, and geographic welfare and food stamp distributions rates over the past forty years. You may find the unexpected, perhaps not for you, but for someone you know. Among what you'll find is this:  fully sixty-percent of current food stamp recipients are white.

                           If there is one truth about us it's this:

                             nothing gets done when we wait

                                 for the 'right conditions'. 

     There is no such thing as life getting better when we say we must wait to Do Good until we Feel Better.

     The truth is that we Feel Better when we Do Good. 

     The truth is that the ambivalence and outsized self-righteous anger among some progressives in the face of the current imperfect president is little more than a myopic invitation to those who have already told us they'd harm our children with glib indifference.

And the children of poverty? They're  our children, all of them.

Reject the lies you're hearing now. Do not wait.

Support local efforts to feed children.

Vote to stop those who world destroy the New Deal and its legacies and return us to a pre-FDR, wholly corporate-driven world in which we're back-patted for our very worst rabidly solipsistic, anti-communitarian instincts. 

Join me. Please act. I believe you will.

 

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This was written and is published with her enthusiastic support.
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Algis how'd you do that? :) Thanks!
holly so right the very rich do get their version(s) thank you so much for this
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Thanks Jon. I clicked through to the Tarrant Area Food Bank (Tarrant is my county of residence) and found an incredible number of ways to help, and yes, I will. Thank you for this post.
My My ! The art that's showing here this morning!

Thanks, Scanner!
I certainly support feeding the poor Jon.
I head out here in a bit to volunteer.
at homeless mission. And there will be children.
and adults...
Who am I to join in the praise?
I would not even know how to add those beautiful ornaments.
"...for you are a jolly god fellow..."

JONATHAN L.WOLFMAN,here is what I have to say:If you are going to run a supportive organisation,you should hire ME,and please tell your wife,we'd be a good team.
First,though,you'll have to win the election with the right people,all along giving out food stamps to those ELIGIBLE for them.How can you avoid handing them out to people who slip through the net of welfare control?
PS:If food stamps run out,Tamar and I could produce Batic Art and sell it to the Rich,how about that?
Good idea?
Art is good,and selling it for beneficial reasons to the Rich,even better.
Mission You are a Light for us here. You are.
Rated with my favourite number : 7
And here is my honouring you:
You are the son of your parents;my respect and honour goes to them as well.
Rated,

with love,

for TAMAR
My wife was on the stamps when I met her. She'd been abandoned by the fathers of her two boys (her taste in men was questionable - still is, harumph) but her heart was strong and she did what she had to do to be the mother her sons - all children - deserved. Now that I'm retired and she's teaching, she's paying the health insurance premiums for both of us. Shoulda picked a younger husband - that taste question again. The Republicans woulda kicked her and her boys under the bus. The boys are grown and on their own now, but the GOPers haven't changed. In their mercenary eyes she and I and our daughter are still expendable . Fuck them and the elephant they rode in on.
Good post. Poverty can be alleviated if we want it to be.

Rated/Bud
Sorry,I was carried away in excitement.

Tipo.Not god but good
Matt,I guess I must have a questionable taste too.
Food stamps, as a voucher, are preferable to the alternative that preceded them--bad surplus food handed out at government warehouses.

Same with housing--section 8 rental vouchers beat Cabrini-Green, Robert Taylor Holmes warehouses of the poor.

Connect the dots--education vouchers to allow the poor to escape failing public schools are next.
Con I'm all for vouchers as long as public money doesn't go to religious schools (of any kind).
Nobody on food stamps wants to stay on food stamps. My God, the personal agony of having to take a hand out is excruciating. The myth of the "Welfare Queen paying for her shrimp and champagne with food stamps and driving away in a 2012 Cadillac" is just that - A Myth propagated by mean spirited hard hearted trolls.
Linn so right and shrimp isn't even approved by the Rabbis. :)
Almost everyone goes through periods in life where they need a helping hand, be it food stamps, college grants, housing assistance, health care, or monetary assistance. Some are fortunate enough to have family that can help. Others aren't as lucky. There's no shame in taking help or asking for it. The shame is in refusing to give it, either as an individual or a country. Good post, Jonathan.
Thank you, Jonathan. My mother has been on food stamps for years. No shame in allowing an elderly, ill person to eat. As for children, don't get me started. Did you see the 60 Minutes episode profiling homeless, hungry children? Heartbreaking. Gingrich and others of his ilk would have us return to the early days of the industrial revolution, with poor children working themselves into an early grave.
jl you're so right. Thank you.
Erica the whole Repub field would, some less loudly than others.
Wow. I had no idea it was as widespread as that. Another marker of the growing rich-poor divide.
I was on food stamps in graduate school so that my kids could eat. So was everyone else I knew who was a student at the university. I am not ashamed.
Abra it's stunning; yes. Thanks for reading!
Miguela I am delighted you were not ashamed for participating in a program that is wholly good, no matter what some may say. Thank you.
"poverty is impenetrable and intractable because recipients are content."

If it was wonderful, those who are bitter or envious of the poor would be beating down doors to join them.

As a single working mom I received food stamps for a few months after my first child was born. My white male (soon to be ex) husband wasn't paying child support but the baby and I were the ones others focused blame on.

"The truth is that we Feel Better when we Do Good."

I raised my kids telling them the same. It's hard to feel good about yourself if you do bad. It's hard for others to feel good about you too. At least it used to be that way.
This reminds me of a world wide issue:Poverty due to famine,war etc.
We,the Western nations,had a surplus of wheat.Instead of giving it to the starving countries,the wheat was dumped into the ocean.
L'H and still is. Thank you!
Heidi we waste so damned much.
Jon, once again you touch on a subject that resonates. I remember the recession of the seventies. Many of us recent college graduates, eager to go out on our own, has some pretty miserable experiences. Our regal college world and all the promise it represented served only to sting up sharply when we discovered that college was the fake world and the real world well, was mighty nasty. I could have used food stamps, as well as a road map to understand where to go in life. Kudos to Tamar for figuring it all out. If the universe were a friendlier place, perhaps we could have been room mates and I could have gone along to be as productive in social work as she. Instead I ran home to my parents who were as usual clueless and could offer no real suggestions as to what to do with my time and talent. I was left to figure it out once again. I did the best I could, rose to what I think are considered by some, heights, but I think I would have been better off with the food stamps and social work...

And now something that Algis has left for me today, I pass on to you:

* BEAUTIFUL SOUL AWARD!**** Once you have been given this award, you are supposed to paste it on the wall of AT LEAST 5 women/ men who deserve it. If you receive more than 3, you know you are truly special....You rock!! Its just to appreciate each other. It is always sweet to know that someone thinks you're a wonderful and special Person ♥♥♥ you are dont ever forget.

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Best to you and keep writing all you do that touches the soul of those who need to keep in touch with life.
Sheila thank you so much!
HEB, a Texas grocery store chain, is making it possible to help the hungry here. You can buy a pre-filled bag of groceries to donate or donate cash vouchers at the check-out. It's a way of doing good that's very local. It makes me sad and angry that some people (politicians) think it's ok to demonize poor people. "There but for the grace of God, go I."
Thank you for directing us to find a place to help
What I know about food stamps is that they are not enough to
provide good healthy food and they don't let you buy paper products.
No TP or tissues, who could need them?
rated with love
cc thanks for the HEB point!
Poetess they're imperfect but the stamps help. Thank you!
I dont know if you know but Ric Tresa and his wife are working hard to keep one going in their state.
Every little bit helps.
HUGGGGGGGGGGG
Thank goodness for the kindness of strangers. Children shouldn't ever have to ask for a meal. They shouldn't worry whether they'll have a warm, safe home to live in and they shouldn't ever be afraid to ask for help for fear others will judge them.

I know too well the stigma of being a food stamp/Medicaid recipient.
Linda I did not know; bless them, and you, for telling us.
B. The stigma is what is shameful abt this nation.
I'm white. My mom and dad divorced when I was very young. Despite my mom working two jobs, we were still so poor that we needed food stamps. We used them all throughout my time in elementary school and junior high school. We also occasionally went to the Salvation Army and stood on line for food. They had a special grocery program, where you could get free groceries, if you qualified.

We weren't lazy and we weren't shirkers. And contrary to what the GOP says, the majority of the food stamp recipients I've known have been white. Mostly working class folks who've fallen between the cracks. We're not lazy and we don't have kids just to get more food stamps. We actually work many jobs, so we can provide a better life for our kids.

I'm a lawyer now and my sister is a medical assistant, going to college, trying to get a degree so she can become a Registered Nurse. Don't let the GOP fool you into thinking this isn't a good program. Its a great program. And those who benefit from it will contribute to this society, once they're on their feet, a hundred times over.

A wise man once said, "Do onto others as you would have them do onto you." My country helped my family when we were down on our luck. I am dedicated to helping my country, now that my situation has improved.


I just wish folks in the GOP felt the same way. Instead, they want to pull the ladder up with them. I guess they're afraid of the competition.
RW beautifully said, friend.
Thanks for your input, RW. I'm misty-eyed now. That's a good thang. :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Commandment
Right you are, Jon. If they had their way, we (the non-rich/elite) would all be indentured slaves.
RW/Erica thanks so much (again!)
it didn't bother me one iota, but my kids hated using food stamps.

if they went to the store, that's how milk and other foods got paid for, for a while. it traumatized them. at least now, its not those fake dollars that one could not even get coinage/change from.

poverty traumatizes the poor in yet another way...when you're poor, it keeps coming at you all day, every day, your poverty. you're beaten over the head with it in this consumer society. there is such SHAME when there should be none. there are times we need help and in our society, somehow that has become shameful. I guess because the poor are not adequately participating in our big asshat consumer society where we spend spend spend, even what we don't have based on our future ability to keep paying paying paying.
Monkey yes it's why poverty is so damned grinding
Linn said it so well!
Just another myth that your post will help debunk.
This is just one more example of how we are totally and thoroughly screwed if the current trends in politics continue. There are people who have a need for this assistance. They don't always manifest it well--some of the things I've seen being purchased with food stamps make me shake my head but that's none of my business. I have been eligible for them before in my life and not used them. I may be eligible again--and this time I think I would take advantage of them.
This is one of your better posts, Jon and that's saying a lot because your posts are invariably good.
I've long wondered about how the rich could imply that those who need help are somehow bad while they will to the individual defend their sweetheart deals on taxes and subsidies as though the heavens themselves granted those to them.
Walter We will stop this trend. We'll win.
Bobot they think their "productivity" explains the apparent hypocrisy.
I receive food stamps, actually it's a card, similar to a credit card. Here it's called the Lone Star card of course. I am grateful for all the help I can get. I recently received a raise in Social Security payments of $32.00 per month. So the state of Texas promptly reduced my Lone Star card monthly allotment by $26.00 per month because of my increased income.
Banks get a couple of trillion, The poor get food stamps.
Which handout gets the Republicans' moral ourtrage?

What can we learn form this?
Dicky I wish I could say TX were a foreign country.
Steve that we must fight very hard.
The number of people who are "cheating the welfare system" is infinitesimal when compared tot he number of people it has helped. Myself and my children included.

With very careful planning and even more careful shopping, I could make our $298 in food stamps feed the twins and I for a month... but I have to tell you that was using coupons, shopping sales and making menus in addition to buying generic/store brands and the absolute cheapest meats possible so that I could make sure they had fresh fruits and vegetables as often as possible.

I have to admit though... those days have inspired at least one post here on OS.

One last thing.... Linnn "mean spirited hard hearted trolls." Would you PLEASE stop maligning us poor trolls... just because we live under bridges and are a bit gruff is no reason to accuse us of being "mean spirited" and "hard hearted". The term for those who fly around screeching obscenities and flinging poo at people is "HARPIES."
I tried working full time to support myself when I went back to college after my divorce in my early twenties. It didn't take long, between work, classes and study to realize that all I was accomplishing was making sure I never got to spend a single quality moment with my 4 yr old son.
Applying for welfare and using those first food stamps were some of the most embarrassing and humbling experiences I've ever had.

The upshot, once I got past myself, was much-needed education and an amazing one and a half years with my boy. We laughed, we explored and we played in every park we could find. That time cemented the wonderful relationship we still enjoy 21 years later.

It's no accident that I have always found myself with programs and companies that, like me, find many ways to support those that need the help.
Blessings to you and Tamar! R
Awesome!

Jonathan, it still surprises me that the average person on the street cannot see these truths. They're easily available within thirty seconds of typing "Welfare and Food Stamp Statistics" and yet, the candidates for Office can effectively make their buffoonish arguments that hype only hatred, scorn and disdain for the poor -- because it is their implicit condition of belief that only black, latino and asians fall into this category -- and the white majority still laps it up like cream in a dish to a kitty.

I never cease to be amazed at how utterly apathetic large portions of our society can be.

He who has ears, let them hear. He who has eyes, let them see.

--r--
I think the reason these arguments persist is because the Left has done a piss-poor job at refuting them.

We have a tendency to blame the audience, rather than ourselves.

Its like a trial lawyer blaming the jury for "not getting it," rather than trying to do a better job at describing legal nuance and facts in a way common people understand.

We all need to do a good job, like Wolfman is doing, at describing these problems in a way common people can understand.

We need to beat the Republicans at their own game.

Their is simply NO EXCUSE for the "party of the people," to lose the people, especially to a party (the GOP) that clearly wants to destroy and enslave them.
How Algis does that...

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Tr ig nope; not if we fight.
By coincidence,Toritto has a blog entry on the same topic,only his story dates back to 1935.
Sorry,I forgot the name:"Gallant South"
Most of the people who receive food stamps still work, or lost their job and are unable to find work. To imply that they are "lazy" is not just a sleazy election tactic, it's disgraceful.
Wonderful post, Jonathan...thanks especially for pointing out that poverty is not impenetrable and intractable...it won't help to wait around for better times to start making things better...& all of the children are our children. Thanks to Tamar, too--she sounds like a very wonderful and talented lady! :)
If I could, I would designate all my tax dollars to the food stamp program, medicaid and medicare. I was fortunate to never need food stamps, but I knew plenty of people who did. They were and are decent people of all races who simply fell on hard times. I could never understand why "being on the dole" was such a shameful thing. Helping each other is what we are supposed to be about, isn't it?

Lezlie
Lezlie Jeremiah and Jesus demand that, yes.
interesting how many of the comments regarding personal experience receiving food stamps are either made by women or about women as in "my ex-wife..."or "my mother..." etc

and folks STILL want to believe we (women) are "equal" in this country?

i'm just sayin.
Lorianne OHHH you are so vry right!
Rw is right--we SUCK at fighting back against the GOP filthy lie machine. Why? We have the truth and right and wisdom on our side!
Do you think I'll get arrested if I make little yard-sign type signs with some of these statistics on them and crunch them down into the median strips of local roads?
I chatted today with some of my students who approached me later to put together a club dedicated to helping the homeless and the struggling in as many ways as they can. They had great ideas. We meet next week to share the ideas we're thinking about until then. You'd have loved their faces, all lit up as they talked to me. Beautiful.
This is one of the best of your posts since I've been here, Jonathan. You are fighting the good fight that's so necessary now and in the months to come. I'd like to rate you, but OS is not set up for that.
Good D I'd've loved to have been there!
Capitalism's dirty little secret: Built-in poverty that never seems to go away, no matter what. ... I find it ironic that the 1 percenters cry "class warfare" anytime points out their misdeeds, but then those very people turn around and start demonizing the poor and "entitlement programs." Ugh. I HATE election years. They really do bring out the worst in U.S. society. No wonder so many would rather bury their heads in the sand and wax sentimental about God, baseball and apple pie.
Deborah you are so right!
I'm not really back yet. I'm taking a break and making a few comments for the first time in a while. I have two things to say:

1. You're right about this post. All of it.

2. The point rw makes about it being our fault for not making our own case is, in a couple of paragraphs, the story of nearly 100% of my posts on OS. That is exactly what I try to do here. It's why I'm here.
Kosh Thank you so very much.
our tiny church is starting a food bank...I believe in the goodness of caring individuals en masse (Not to be confused with corporation people) Thanks Jon...
I have used food stamps and have been known to frequent the food bank. It has been my experience that only the poor give a crap about the poor and you know what? I think I like it that way.