It is time for her to leave. Her flight back to the frigid Midwest is in a few hours. I feel that familiar ache in my heart.
When she left for college in September it was her father who cried. Right there in the freshman dorm room. I had done most of my crying over the summer. I cried in anticipation.
Her father and I vowed we would start doing some living now that we were alone. But that first week we ate dinner in front of the television. Jeopardy was on. I told him that this was acceptable behavior for only a few days. Or maybe when we are very, very old.
We are learning how to live together alone again. We have eighteen years of catching up. Being Julia's parents was our favorite gig*.
Everything is just a little bit duller here when she is gone. We seem to move as if in slow motion. We are learning lessons.
I am a slow learner.
* gig: A job that is temporary or with an uncertain future.


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@...next please, oh I needed that hug!
@Lisa, it is really (for me) like learning to walk. Thank you so much for your good wishes. I will look forward to that post of yours in 6 months...
Should he ever discover a place out there which offers more hope and happiness than this one....
he has to take me with him.
terrific piece.
@Owl, thank you so much.
@NoisyNora, "An anticipatory crier." That is the perfect way to describe me. Wonderful.
@AtHomePilgrim, good advice, and it sure beats watching Jeopardy. thanks
@Jeff, thanks for the wise words. It's a good gig, isn't it?
R
It does get better, really it does. But it takes time. And tears.
Great post! Rated.
@Thank you so much Kathy
@Unbreakable, I really have done the same thing.
AtHomePilgrim, I'm just sayin'...
Been a journey for me navigating the transition from 24/7 mom to mom with daughter in college and soon to be married...there is joy in letting go and seeing my daughter succeed in life - but also a wistfulness. In the first year she was at college, as a terminally single mom, I had to keep reminding myself I could have a real single life again. I did nothing for a year but came home at night to the cats and dog. I'm still working on getting a life after being mom 24/7...maybe you and your husband should plan movie and dinner dates...I can so relate to this post...R
Unfortunately, time moves on.
Things never stay the same.
And we must accept these changes.
Best
-SS
R
Those of you who have working marriages when the kids are gone ... a blessing you should savor in and of itself.