We are getting ready for our Tuesday afternoon yoga class. The kids are wound up, more than usual at four in the afternoon. Our school is a polling place, and there are stairways blocked off, signs saying Closed to General Public.
We are on the third floor, away from the voters, but the excitement and the questions of the day are still swirling around them.
We voted in our classroom today, they tell me. They call out the numbers. Twenty-four for Obama, two for Romney. Twenty-five for Obama, none for Mitt Romney.
We are in a city that is seventy-five percent Democrat. I am not surprised to hear the low numbers for the Republican candidate. They are voting the way their parents are voting. A small first grader with huge dark eyes whispers to me. My dad says that Mitt Romney will take our money and keep the poor people poor.
I tell them it's time to get started, enough talking about the election, let's do some yoga!
Mrs. H, do you know any Republicans?
The question suspends all the other activity in the room. The room stops buzzing. They are waiting for an answer. This is a city full of Obama bumper stickers and Obama signs in front of homes.
Of course I know some Republicans.
I reach for the Tibetan singing bowl. The sound will signal that it is time to start our yoga class.
Do you have any Republican friends?
I know this is where I could tap the bowl and let the sound signal that class has started. That all talking stops. I know I can't. The opportunity is right there. Staring at me with blue eyes, blond hair, and bare feet.
Yes, I do have friends who are Republican.
They look at me. Some of them blink. Eight small children with bare feet are waiting for me to talk about my friendship with a Republican.
One of my best friends is a Republican.
The irony of that sentence is not lost on me. But it's true. I tell them that my friend has been my friend for over twenty years. Longer than any other friend I've ever had.
I think about my friend. How my daughter calls her "Aunt." How we have a bond of friendship that is deep and caring. How we don't discuss politics. Ever. We are connected. You are more of a Republican than you think, she told me once. And you are more of a Democrat than you will ever admit. I know who she votes for. It bothers me. She knows who I vote for. And as much as she really like the man, she cannot get past the liberal issues. She is religious, and the issues go against her beliefs.
We don't talk politics. Ever.
In the last couple of years our friendship has waned a little. I think it's the natural ebb and flow of friendships, and not because of political differences.
I only tell the kids the important things. That my friend and I are friends for reasons that have nothing to do with who we vote for. That in spite of our differences, we respect and care about each other.
Oh, like when we say, Namaste, at the end of class!
The blond girl with bare feet takes over the lesson for me.
Like when we say, Namaste to each other. Namaste means 'the light in me honors the light in you.'
Exactly, I tell them.
Exactly.
I make a mental note to call my friend tomorrow.
I tap the side of the Tibetan singing bowl.
Even though we've already begun.


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I live in a nice comfy liberal bubble, and nobody on FB or in person says anything to upset my equilibrium. My late husband was a staunch conservative, admirer of Reagan and of *business*, but he was stuck in a time warp...and of course, after a few preliminary rounds, we never discussed politics.
Sometimes I think I should get outta the bubble....but why would I want to talk to someone who is against gays or women's freedom or help for the needy? And in Canada, finding someone anywhere who is against socialized medicine is difficult. Some complainers, sure, but anyone who wants to throw the system out? Forget it.
And here, all this time, I had thought you were a Republican... ... ... ;)
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It was my Republican friend who held my hand at the hospital in Georgia every single day when my mother was dying, the Republican friends who filled the house with cards and food and hugs when my mother died.
My mother, the very liberal Democrat who helped bring Maynard Jackson to the mayor's office in race-divided Atlanta in the 70s.
That same friend in Georgia who held my hand, called me crying yesterday that Obama was going to ruin our country. She called me an idiot for voting for him, I called her a bonehead for voting for the Plastic Man.
We laughed.
God, I miss her.
I work at a county golf course in one of the richest and most conservative Republican counties in the country. And almost all of the people I play with are white men of a certain age...who tend to be conservative and Republican.
I love each and every one of them...and would go to the mattresses for any of 'em. But we have a kind of agreement not to discuss politics to any great degree.
It works.
Good thread, Joan.
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but he is exasperating and mean! when it comes to certain issues, the Red Hook has never left the man.
he can be hateful and racist and he'll needle you too. but the truth is he would lay down his life for all people with NO hesistation, in spite of all the crazy fox-ramped up things he says. all his life he has loved everyone - one of the greatest examples of the term Christian I have ever known. no one can resist him because he is a walking talking contradiction of love, my johnny is.
namaste to you. big hug too.
@trilogy, most of DC votes Democrat, no matter what.
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We currently have three former Democratic state legislators in jail. There are currently no statewide Republican officeholders, none in Congress and not enough in the state legislature to stop D's from doing anything they want.
So as my buddy Lord Acton used to say, power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely.
One of my very best friends, however, comes from one of the most prominent Republican familes in Hawaii. He's extremely wealthy. It make sense for him to be a Republican, though I'm not sure he's entirely comfortable with it given what's happened to the party. It makes rational sense for him given his own interests, but these folks without a pot to piss in are another matter.
A cousin, who I dearly love, regardless, is a devotee of Rush and the demagogues. He has PTSD from Nam and never really overcame it. At least, that is the excuse I give him. I have to admit, I think of it more as a disease than a rational judgement.
I'll still fight for the miserable bastards right to their opinion, knowing full well it is a liberal trait they don't share.
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As for family we have learned to find other things to discuss.
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'Cause I'm a Republican too. Sort of. Well, at least sometimes.
I thought about how those are the lessons I wish parents and teachers would teach.
@ Art, thank you for coming back so many times. Did we only meet once? It seems like more... :)
I have to leave politics out of discussions almost completely, especially with people I work with or socialize. One friend, years ago, spoke proudly about how he was voting Republican because George Bush was clearly the best man. The teeth marks in my tongue are still there, especially when it became clear that Bush and his rich buddies had irrevocably cursed the people of this nation and its international reputation. I haven't said anything in the last few years even approaching politics near him, and if lucky I will never let anything else slip out.
I also know a car mechanic, a good honest man, who constantly listens to Rush Limbaugh and his local clones in his shop. The teeth marks grow deeper around him. He is a Vietnam vet who still has bumper stickers ranting against Jane Fonda - as if she was ever relevant, as if she ever mattered to anybody but herself. He sees Jane Fonda and Evil Negroes everywhere. There'd be no way to bring light into his darkened soul that wouldn't require him to suffer enormous pain. Maybe there never is, for politically canalized people.
In the end, all I can do is keep my mouth shut, my tongue stilled, and watch the bloody car wreck as they realize how wrong they are - if they ever do.
I used to have Republican friends. They all figured out over time that I wasn't on their ideological team and found a way to backstab their way out of my life. I don't get attached to Republicans out in the wild anymore and my life is a lot calmer. I like having friends I can trust. It's a better way to spend my time.
Yes, I get that we're a divided nation, but being friendly to the other side hasn't worked for me. I'm 56 and don't feel like it anymore. And the Republicans lost, so I don't have to.
p.s. sorry it took me so long to get on here, but it wasn't for lack of trying. it has taken since this was posted for me to access OS, get to your page, log in, rate, post a comment. many failures and error screens and timeouts on every.single.step of the way. it takes a piece like this to even get me to keep trying, because i'm pretty close to hating this site.
Have you ever bothered to question why your President signed 943 executive orders and what was in them for instance like approving a UN initiative called Agenda 21 which is both unconstitutional and would threaten the sovereignty of this nation? If your President was so good then why would he sell out his own people? Before you write an article do some research, connect the dots, do the math, and you will find things are not the way they seem. i know that's real hard for all you liberals because it requires critical thinking. I challenge you to scrutinize your President. Learn the truth.
Very nice, I live in Massachusetts,went to college with the son of the house majority leader ( a felon) and that is where I decided to get educated.
I remember being in sixth grade being very upset that anyone would vote against Jimmy Carter. Dole was mean and Ford was a bumbling fool. Looking back,what a terrible introduction to civics many parents and teachers give young impressionable brains full of mush.
My children just had there vote and Obama won 22-9. I asked them how they voted as I would never tell them how.
Con this state is a mess. It is corrupt to a tragic degree. Warren is a millionaire transplant elitist who will just vote party line. She defeated one of the most liberal republicans on record who was born in raised in the state. Joe Kennedy III beat an ex-marine who started his own successful business. Joe K has been out of school for 2 years.
My whole family is blue and I love them but, there has not been a challenge to their philosphy since their teacher frowned at them when they were about to cast a vote for the fool Gerald Ford in 6th grade civics.
It will never happen. Being a liberal is never having to say you are sorry. Do you think they ever process a question like "Is there an abortion that you would never support"? Are you comfortable with a baby being aborted because the mom wanted a son?
Do they wonder why only 15 % of black births occurred outside of marriage in 1960 before the "Great Society"and now it is inverted? Naw that is a coinicidence.
No, they talk about the Senator in the Red State and have another chardonnay while they submerge in the tub wishing they had turned up NPR just a little louder before they submerged.
Lea,
Most of the bigots I know are Democrats. I live in Boston considered the most racist city in America by many, find a Republican anywhere.
You make me feel so young,
You make me feel like spring has been sprung,
bells have been rung,
and a wonderful thing has beeeeeeeeeen doooooooooon!
I don't want your sour pickle I just want to ride your motorcycle.
I luv baby, never change.
Sometimes, when they're asking for it, you gotta let 'em have it or its cruel.
...and no mas Tea Party.
Kids provide some of the best writable moments, don't they?
~r~
You used to visit me all the time before you became one of the stars. I hope you haven't become a Namaste Nazi. There's far too many of them, and it's no fun after awhile. Trust me. I been there.
i will join your students here on the web : ) cheers!
But still, I have to say, for me, anyone with whom I "can't" talk about politics, or anything, for that matter, the relationship is per se less close because of it. In my view, this is almost tautological. It is arguably true by definition. Politics concerns our deepest values and the things we think are most important in the world. One's politics can't but speak to the kind of person one is. And so, while not all Republicans are through and through horrible people, and many of them have many admirable qualities, I find it impossible to ignore the elephant in the room, and moreover, the feeling of trying to ignore it, makes me feel horrible.
As I say, I tolerate some of these relationships out of the desire to preserve what's good about them, but my instinct is often urging that I'd rather force the issue, and insist that we be free to talk about those things about which we disagree, and that if doing so resulted in the end of the relationship, then it wasn't worth maintaining anyway. It's a source of constant internal dissonance for me.
Thanks for the post; food for thought.
Thanks everyone.
I actually have been to Stockbridge and have been in the building that was "Alice's Restaurant"back in Arlo's days. I am one of those kookie Republicans that have been a "Big Brother" raised and worked for numerous charities and believe in giving back to the community. I am just convinced that taking from one without his consent is amoral. I also believe that those that are given things without truly appreciating the reality that others contributed to that which the "got" has been done an incredible disservice by socierty.
I think we see those results daily some think it is compassionate to ignore these tragic results.
Maybe we dream. I saw You @ Salon. You Get Good EP.
I tried to do a comment @ Other Salon @ Margaret F.'s.
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Maybe we dream. I saw You @ Salon. You Get Good EP.
I tried to do a comment @ Other Salon @ Margaret F.'s.
Now - No Begin Romance Rumors. I still a Gizmo Idiot.
I can't Figure Digital Contraptions. I learn like a Turtle.
I Slow. Computer Do Collapse Too-I use 3X5 Card`Gin.
I might Trade my Pu For a Donkey-I Use To Buck Pony.
I Bought my Daughter a Shetland-I Sad at Her Plights.
She was Brilliant and Shining Face-Till a boy Woo Her.
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I had totally forgotten about that experience until reading your moving blog.
I used to feel alienated from Republicans but rarely talked about the issues. Now I feel even more alienated from Democrats even than Republicans especially with the "lesser evil" rationalizations and I talk more about the issues and it causes tension but I hope in a tough love way. So it goes.
namaste
best, libby
It's usually a proxy argument. They post some picture with Willy Wonka talking about debt and I post the same picture only now the caption is about caring for fetuses more than children- that kind of thing.
But the most worrisome thing for me is that they seem immune to much of any criticism of thier stances. I'm not exactly willing to bend like a reed myself, but I have backed down/away from certain views I had back in the early 90s!
Last bit- I have noticed that when my republican friends change their mind on something, they always follow the lead of another republican. They'll never admit that Al Gore was right about the climate change, for example, but John Huntsman? He's got some important things to say on the subject.
That says it all doesn't it. How can any parent tell kids that young such a simplistic mean spirited description of a person.
I am not a parent but I do have a 7 year old nephew who know nothing of politics and has no such narrow notions of parties or people. But I guess the liberals stat the education early. Your whole class obviously think "repbulicans", a word that cover a large gamit of political ideas, refers to a group of mean people.
And personally I don't care at all about religion in my politics, yet your example of a friend implies its only for religious reasons that anyone DIDNT voe fro Obama.
But no worries. I a sure this education of first graders will be successful from your point of view.
Interesting none asked if you knew any financially responsible politically oriented people. Maybe we should teach first graders the economics. Then maybe they will have some different questions for their parents.
I knoe more than I care to admit. my brother, and a gay male friend.
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that's what I said.