Joanne Bamberger/PunditMom

Joanne Bamberger/PunditMom
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Joanne Bamberger is also known as PunditMom, a politically progressive mom AND political analyst living in the shadow of the nation's capital. PunditMom blog is a woman's guide to politics and a place for women to get their political fix and discuss their political ideas. I'm a regular contributor to The Huffington Post, as well as MOMocrats and MomsRising blogs. My political commentary has appeared on CNN, Fox News, ABC.com, CBS, BBC Radio & XM Radio POTUS '08, among others. I do have time for other things, but have given up sleep! E-mail me at punditmom1 at gmail dot com for press, appearances and freelance opportunities. My book on the increasing political involvement of mothers will be published this fall by Bright Sky press.

FEBRUARY 18, 2009 10:32PM

Suleman Octuplets Reason to Look at Fertility Regulation

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I am weary of the Nadya Suleman coverage.  The tiny octuplets.  14 kids altogether. Unemployed mom.  Not to mention that whole sort of looking like Angelina Jolie thing.

But one aspect of this baby circus is worth talking about -- the fertility industry.  Yes -- it's an industry, both here and around the world.  It's a business to the tune of billions of dollars a year.  The more fertility treatments that women have, the more money doctors make.  It's not really complicated.

Don't get me wrong.  We went down the fertility road when we were trying to have a family.   I have no problem with anyone deciding that fertility treatments are appropriate for them.

While I was on the Clomid train, there were no questions about what kind of parents we'd make, or what our joint incomes were.  No one stopped us at the door and demanded to take a peek for dust bunnies in our house or to check the expiration date on our kitchen fire extinguisher.  There were no laws we had to comply with and no one wanted to know how much any baby that resulted from those treatments was going to cost.

All that changed when we stepped off the societally accepted way of making a family, the new-fashioned spin on the old-fashioned way, and decided to adopt.

Once we were on the road to adopting the baby who ultimately became PunditGirl, we were required to be fingerprinted by the state and federal governments to make sure we had no criminal background.  Health and fire inspectors were mandated to come to our house to certify that we had a safe environment for any child who was to become ours.  We had to submit several years worth of financial statements to prove that we could afford to care for a child.  Many of our friends were called on to sign notarized statements that we would be good parents. And, just for good measure, Mr. PunditMom and I had to sit through several sessions with a therapist to talk about our family social histories, as well as our feelings on corporal punishment.  Then, and only then, were we permitted to be considered as a potential adoptive family.

Oh, and the best part?  We really enjoyed spending time with people who felt like they could ask us how much our baby would "cost" and those who kept urging me to keep trying one more treatment in the fertility arsenal so I could have a baby "of my own."  And, of course, there are also those who think I'm not even a mom since PunditGirl, as she used to say, wasn't "borned" from me.

Many in the fertility industry contend that it would be too burdensome to have requirements surrounding fertility procedures, claiming that self-regulation is the way to go.  Free markets, and all.  Hmm, where have I heard that before? 

I'm not saying that it's a bad thing for there to be hoops to jump through before someone can adopt a child.  But if there are scores of laws that address and regulate the adoption process, why is it any less important that there be some regulations when it comes to giving the go-ahead for people to have eight embryos implanted at one time? In one article, an ethicist reasoned that government is "loathe" to tell people who can and can't be parents.     Except that the government does it every day when it comes to adoption.

The regulation question isn't about parenting. It's about business.  No one's bottom line was enhanced by the fees we paid to the non-profit agency we chose.  And it's OK with me that the orphanage she lived in for a year, where a handful of caregivers manage 100 or more babies every day, might have used some of the money to buy modern washing machines so they didn't have to wash all those baby clothes by hand.

But don't tell me that the lack of regulation in the fertility industry is about the government wanting to stay out of decisions by those who want to become parents.  The government had no problem poking its nose into just about everything in my life before I was allowed to become a mother.   If that's going to be the case, then I don't see how it's all that different for fertility businesses.

Joanne Bamberger is the founder and editor-in-chief of the political blog, PunditMom.  She's a contributing editor at BlogHer and the mom by adoption of the fabulous PunditGirl.

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Joanne - You have applied your considerable writing talent to a difficult and very personal subject. As a reader, I thank you for that.

There are so many things wrong here, I wouldn't know where to begin. The mother's mental condition, her parents' situation, the fact that the family needs and will need to accept public assistance in the future, for which we all pay... There are so many mini-car crashes here (She wants to be Angelina Jolie! Story at 11!), we can't stand to look away.

But when we move on, there will be still 14 children living in challenging circumstances - with some of the 8 octuplets likely to have physical or mental disabilities - while responsible adults who would give anything for a child have none.

It's tragic but true that - while this is clearly an industry in need of controls - nothing will prevent an unscrupulous doctor and desperate patient from getting around regulations and laws if they choose to do so. The plain awful fact is that everything in this story comes down to individual responsibility - one's own conscience and stability - and it is an awful thing that people deficient in these respects cause others to suffer for it.
i think this is a much stronger post than your "war on adoption" one. i wish it had been an editor's choice. thanks for sharing your insights on this topic!
Thanks so much for posting this. Very sane commentary on a difficult subject.