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Just Cathy

Just Cathy
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December 29
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Wife, mother of 3 daughters (Kelly, Michele and Julie), grandma to Graydon and Sydney Rose. Business owner of 22 years. Reading and writing here as important creative oulet. Love domestic and international travel. Seattle born, moved to California, to Chicago to New York/Connecticut/New Jersey and back to California again. Here I'll stay. Writing is essential, clears my head, making room for personal growth and providing balance.

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DECEMBER 16, 2008 7:28PM

My Father's Shoes

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My mother and father were born in 1923 and 1926 respectively.  They were fairly young when the Great Depression of 1929 hit their world and changed the course of many events to come.

My father, most of all, remembered the hardships his family endured and how it impacted his youth and teens.  A few of his stories are briefly shared here, along with a bit of early history of his life.

Unfortunately, there are no photos of my father when he was a young boy or early teen.  I once asked him for some pictures of him when he was little and he recalled there were very few or none in his possession.

Taken from an account of my father's life history, written by him after being diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor, in 1987, is the following rememberance of a great time of loss and instability in American life.

"I was born, Graydon Gast, in Bridgeman, Michigan, May 5, 1923, to Edna Mae Bassett and Frederick William Gast.  I was the youngest of three boys, my older brother Frederick and brother Garret before me.  On my mother's side we are descendents of seven original Mayflower Compact signers, including Miles Standish and John Alden."

"My father was a well respected man.  He owned the town bank and several other businesses which were doing very well until the Stock Market Crash of 1929."

"My father's businesses were hit very hard by the Depression, necessitating the closure of the bank and resulting in a move to Chicago.  We lived in a small apartment in the city and I rememer being harassed by the boys of the neighborhood during these difficult times.  As we had lost everything in the stock crash, and most all my father's money was tied up in real estate, we were completely broke and had to start all over again."

"A couple of years later, after unsuccessfully trying to make a go of it in Chicago, my family left Illinois and moved out west to Oregon."

It was during those years in Chicago, when my father was between the ages of 7  and 10 years old, that he recalls being so poor that his shoes were too small and completely worn out.  They couldn't afford to buy him new shoes or even have them resoled and instead, had to put cardboard inside his shoes over and over again, to extend the life of the shoes.  This left a very real impression on him, as he later brought this up numerous times during my childhood, to remind me how fortunate I was to have new shoes and a good life.  His stories of his childhood were sad for him, memories of his father being so depressed for years, working day and night, trying to provide for his family.

His story continues..."Later, we lived in a beautiful home 40 miles east of Portland, Oregon.  My parents ran a large hotel and restaurant, to get back on our feet again and to start a new life."

"In 1940, when I was 17, my dear mother passed away.  She had removed a bunion from her foot which became infected.  As a member of the Christian Science Church, she refused any medical attention.  I pleaded with her and my father to seek a doctor's help, but they refused.  Blood poisoning resulted, and she died soon after."

"At 17 years old, after graduating from high school, knowing we couldn't afford for me to attend college, I decided to join the Navy.  I served on an old, small naval ship in charge of a large gun.  Within the first year, the loud noise and repercussions destroyed the hearing in my right ear and landed me in the hospital.  Shortly thereafter, I was honorably discharged from the Navy and set out to make a life for myself, first working in a warehouse for a large Portland based company and later was promoted to sales and moved to Seattle."

My father's stories of how his family lost everything in the depression are still with me today.  His hard work ethic, learned from his father was passed down to me and to my siblings and my children.  Nothing as difficult as what he experienced in his childhood has every befallen me in my lifetime.  My appreciation for my father's frugality and wise financial advice and lessons he passed to me have benefited me greatly.  The depression taught him to save money, no matter what.  It was that "save for a rainy day mentality" that has played over and over again in my life.

With the recession at hand and a potential new depression staring us in the face, I am hunkering down in a financially conservative mode, recalling my father's life experience with poverty and knowing that my mother, who was, as she said, "dirt poor Irish," am digging in for a "long cold winter."

 

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Wow, thanks Cathy. Would you believe I knew almost NONE of this about our father. Being the oldest put you in a very special place and I am so happy you remember all of this to share today. Interesting that I never saw our father as frugal. In fact, it was his example that taught me to have a balance about money. Enjoy it when you have it. That little powder blue Mercedes Benz he loved so much, the golf course memberships, the condo in Carmel...I'm so glad he indulged himself because his life was cut so short. Frugal is never a word I would attach to him. This is what happens when you come from a large family. Each child has different experiences, different memories.

I am also reminded of one of our mother's mottoes which so perfectly fits into your story: "I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet."

Great post.
Wow, Mary, I can so relate to your perspective about dad in his later years. He had finally "made it," so to speak and he enjoyed the fruits of his labors, but cut way too short. When I was young and through high school, he was very tight with money and discussed this with me often and why. That little blue mercedes came much later, of course. I am so glad he got to prioritize later on for him, grab some perks for himself, as he was so hard working and gave our family a very comfortable and loving existence. Dad was my heroe and I believe he may have impressed upon me his work ethic from early on, as I was the oldest child. He defintely made me work hard in our business later on and never gave me the impression that anything came easy to him. Hard, honest work and a very fortunate pay off later in his life. In our business world, Dad was known as being one of the most authentic, honest, old fashioned, hard working men in our industry. I was and am so proud to be his daughter. The stories he shared are endless as we had all those years working together. I think I was pretty lucky to have had dad as my mentor and friend and wish all my siblings could have known him as I did.
Very interesting man from an interesting and tough period in our history. Many of us may be writing stories like his in the future if the economy doesn't get brighter.

Thanks for sharing.
Hugz
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So sorry about the tragedy of your mom's death.

I heard stories from my grandparents about the horrors of the era of the Great Depression and once again it was a Republican who caused it. Everyone of the elderly people in my neighborhood were convinced that FDR was sent by God to save America-twice, from the Depression and The Nazi's and Japanese. A poignant story. Wonderful!
Cathy, my parents were born in 1923 and 1924 respectively (Mom and Dad).

My Mom was a Bassett from Vermont. I knew there was something about you and Mary ......

My aunt, Mom's sister, is still alive and very well at age 86 (Mom and Dad gone 17 and 36 yrs respectively).

My parents nor my Aunt discuss ed the depression much. The Bassetts were farmers and got by on their own in Vermont. BUT, both my mother and my Aunt are the thriftiest people (as is my female Bassett cousin) I know. Those women can stretch a dollar to the max, and end up with savings too.

Although I am prepared to weather the coming storm financially (just barely) , I do wish I had more of their savvy behind me all these years!
Thanks much, Greg.

Professor,
I believe you meant, my grandmother's tragic death, as told by my father about his mother. Though, my mother's was also tragic to me, after she lingered on for 12 years with ALZ after my father's sudden death from a brain tumor in '88.

Kellylark,
Wow, some sinchronisity here between the Bassetts! My Grandmother was part of the Mayflower crew and after she married my German grandfather, Frederck, there were no more Bassets in our lineage, at least not by name. Thanks for your family similarities to mine! Makes the world seem all that much smaller.
How fortunate you are that your father committed these memories to paper. My dad did the same thing late in his life, and I learned much about his childhood I never would have known otherwise. Like your grandfather, mine also lost his job in 1929, and had to move his family to the big city (Memphis). Even so, my grandfather NEVER had another full time job in his entire life. We cannot imagine the hardship families went through back then, can we?

Thanks for sharing, and reminding us of both our modern day fortune, as well as its fragility.
Cathy… Thanks for posting this touching story about your father. It is through stories like this that we learn how our parents and their generation lived through that period. It reveals the sacrifice they made and what means they used to make it to the next day, week and year. They did not complain or whine; they just dug in and made it happen.

Reading this story, we can all learn from your “father's frugality and wise financial advice.” And follow your lead; “hunkering down” to survive this recession. And like them before; hopefully setting an example for future generations.
Procopious and George,

Thanks for your lovely comments. And yes, so lucky that Dad wrote so many things down about his life, this being only a small part of what he wrote for our family to remember him by. And that he did sacrifice for us is an understatement. I have so many stories I need to share with my younger siblings, if they are interested, as they may not remember the time when things were not as they remember, times my father did, indeed, sacrifice for his family so we could live in great areas of the country, beautiful homes, private education, which was a priority for him as his education was cut short by the depression and financial loss that he felt for years to come. There is so much more to his story, but it is like all other Americans who are old enough to have lived and surrvived that era.
Cathy, what a man your father was and how interesting he must have been! This makes a person think about how many pairs of shoes are in the closet for one set of feet and what is really necessary. And good that he passed along the financial advice to you. I never, ever heard my parents talk about money. Thanks for the great story!
I can't thank you enough for this. Memories -- precious, precious, memories. I could say so much more, but won't. You say it so well and move me greatly.
Just Pamela,

Thanks so much. You make a point that I think of so often when I look in the closet and see all the shoes! So many of them I never wear. I think of my Dad and his one pair of shoes during the depression years and feel some guilt, though he would never want me to. Later in his life, he had 3-4 pair of golf shoes to make up for the past!

Joan,

These memories are so precious and there are so many more stories I can share. You, of course, have yours as well, and can relish in the happy ones.
My parents both grew up in poverty. So much so that in '72, they packed all their belongings in one suitcase and moved to the other side of the planet with a 3 month old so they could wash dishes in a restaurant for a few dollars an hour. My father in law was separated from his parents after the Greek Civil War and grew up in an orphanage in Uzbekistan, not knowing that his parents were alive and living not far from him. Each presumed the other dead. They were reunited 20 years later. It always amazes me when I think about what they must have endured, and how different their children's lives are, and how easily things could change.
Great Post. Thanks for sharing. Rated.
Thanks, Cathy. It was hard for my parents and harder for my grandparents to talk about the depression, no stories, but it came out clearly in how they taught me regarding money, having enough, being frugal, etc. It was on their minds and tongues constantly as I was growing up.

I was born at the end of 1938, Dec. 28. That year was actually as bad a year as the worst in the beginning of the depression.

I remember the war years, trading stamps and War Bonds stamp books, etc. While I got an earful about how to handle money and how to be thankful for what you had - "There is always somebody worse off than you, and don't you forget it!" actual stories about the depression seemed to be too hurtful to recall.

I think I never really got out of depression mode. As a child of a tenant farmer, part time laborer, take any job you could get, dad, I never had any money anyway. By the time I graduated high school I had attended 14 schools. We moved to where a job for dad was.

It wasn't during the formal Great Depression but there was plenty of depression in my childhood. So, in effect, I got it twice and ended up being one of the most fiscally cheap people on the entire planet! Even today the money that we saved for a rainy day and for my retirement is still saved, even though it is time to spend some of it. But it isn't in my genes to do that!

Sue gets on me all the time because I never want any gifts for any reason and it drives her nuts. ;-)

Good post.

Monte
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Bubs,

How cool is it, that your father-in-law was reunited with his parents after 20 years! That is a great story and I am sure more details would make it a great post! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject. Heavy stuff.

Monte - Spend some of the lousy money, for gosh sakes!!! Life is too short; you've earned it and should enjoy some of the fruits of your labors! My father and mother never got to retire and enjoy their "twighlight years," due to their sudden illnesses and declines.
It saddens me so much, to this day, that they are gone and never got to retire after all the years of saving, investing, having bought their retirement condo years ahead of time and 'nada!' Dad passed away at age 65 after 18 months of brain surgeries and ineffective treatments. Mom went into an instand depression upon his decline and death, had early onset ALZ and was never the same person after Dad dies. They were so close, bonded, best friends and their love was undeniable. They sparkled when together and had a mutual love for live and family that was my benchmark. Miss them dearly.
So, please, Monte, don't make me say this again! Please enjoy some of the money you worked so hard to build for security and go out and do something you have always wanted to do. Go someplace in the world you have always dreamed of going to and live it! You deserve it and so much more. xoxo Cathy
It's easy to forget how the values and views of our parents were shaped by such difficult times. Your dad's life was hard and sad, especially the loss of his mother. My reaction to the hard times is less "digigng in" and more hamstery, flying around frantically on my wheel trying to make something happen.

thanks for sharing this part of your history...
Thank you, Cathy. My parents are of this generation as well and their later success was not in what they gained, but in what they didn't need. That's a lesson I try to remember. Money in the bank provides peace of mind. What's to be gained from a third car in the driveway? Can you eat it if need be? Or wear it it on your feet?
Cathy, this is a beautiful and timely post. Thank you.

I’ll echo the above sentiments of how lucky you are and precious it is to have your father’s recollections of his and his parents’ times. Much of my father’s family history was torn apart by WWII. Just pieces remain, pieces that would speak volumes to us, his children.
Sandra, Jimmymac and David,

You all mirror my sentiments of how lucky I am to have had these special memories from my father to pass on. And, so far, am lucky to have retained these memories. My father documented many things before he died to ensure that his family would remember his experiences and life history to help imprint our own and the connection to our past. I feel blessed to have both remembered his stories and to have kept his letters. I must compile these family treasures and distribute to my other siblings. There is no greater gift than that of the legacy we recieve from our parents and grandparents. The history is so important for generations to come.
My parents were born in 1914 and 1916 (both have passed) and I grew up with similar stories of hard work, sacrifice, and family. I wish I knew more... they're all dead... uncles, aunts... but they left great stories behind. I love your story. (rated)
Great story, Cathy.