So out of the blue, hubby decides he must climb Mt. Tallac in South Lake Tahoe, an elevation of 9,733 feet, a little under 6 miles of rocky, steep terrain, with little forthought, no malice and little endurance exercise leading up to this boyish decision. It caught me a bit off guard and perhaps even a tad bit perturbed as we had originally planned to watch our two grand kids all day, which now, I would be managing through by myself. Not even an invite to join him on his mountain trek.
On the way up
OK, so I really wouldn't want to make this steep hike anyway, the pain in the back side right knee, not anxious to engage in these types of knee stressing activities...but it would be nice to be asked. So, whatever, he was determined to do this, this weekend, by himself, before the weather gets colder and his business travel takes an upswing again soon. Many folks close to us were surprised he decided to do this alone and with very little preparation, regular walking and/or certainly no hiking of any significant nature, at all. One thinks one would need to "build up" to this level of a hike, one might just think and a little skeptical about this.
View of Fallen Leaf Lake and Lake Tahoe
Midlife crisis anyone? Certainly one realizes they are not getting any younger and the gray hair stares back from the mirror, the body and muscle tone ain't what it used to be and the carbs have taken up residense in the gut, you could say...or not say. "No more beer. That's it. No more chips. Only the "good" carbs. Only in the morning. Cutting back on unhealthy food. Cutting it out all together! No more cupcakes. Good chocolate in the house? That's OK, right? The dark kind." His new mantra, along with the sudden urges to walk...a lot. A good thing, right?
Favorite spot along the journey: The Floating Island amidst the reflection of the trees on the water.
And it goes on and on. Needs to look better. Needs to feel better. Needs to slow down this inevitable, increasing, once slow, it seemed, aging process. Denial is yesterday's newspaper. This is really getting to the man. The hereditary bald spot on the top of the head is just not fair at all, even though the 6'3" stature allows very few to view this area. He's lucky in this way. The man is way over reacting to what each and every one of us faces, eventually. The man is quite handsome, bearly over weight, a silver fox and enviably tall. And his blue eyes are as blue on blue as the view he sought at the end of his hike. Life is just circling in on him.
You see that pointy mountain peak? That's where he's headed.
The urge to conquer the mountain, now affectionately called, "His mountain," was an accomplishment that just needed to be done. And it was done, yesterday, in about 6 hours. An 8 hour hike on average, he was pretty smug that it took this amount of time with 45 minutes at the tippy top of the peak to sit, relax, enjoy the beauty at the peak and eat a healthy snack (more or less and mostly carbs, but who's watching)! He did it! My proud papa made it to the top in record time and then there was the easier return down the mountain. Ouch.
This seroiusly looks very far away, right?
Right about now he's thinking that the hiking sneakers he's wearing had better not fail him. This is the easy part and is still in the shade. The steepest is yet to come. Now is when he wished he had brought more water. Long way up and darn if it wouldn't be a long, hot way down. Wishing he had brought more food; more variety. Hunger grows with every 1,000 foot tick of the trail. Determination is thine own self foolery.
Up, up and away...altitude, thin air, dry lips, rocks beneath my winged feet. Insoles not as advertised.
What was he thinking, leaving me all day, on a Saturday and leaving me with the grandkids and no help? What is up with this new selfish behavior of his? Suddenly, he wants to be heathier, stronger, tanner, happier...What's up with that?! How can I get through to him that he's just fine the way he is? Eating healthier, exercising more, watching his weight, reducing his stress? Over rated, right? Wonder how he's doing up there on that steep, rocky mountain. How many blisters does he have? What if something happens to him and there's no cell? It's friggin desolate and pretty doggone high up there, not to mention slippery and who know's what! I feel some angst, naturally.
Oh my gosh, he made it to the top!
Half wished he wouldn't and turn back earlier, fearing he might hurt himself. Silly me. Whole heartedly wished he would be OK all the way but...I wished more than anything that I could be there with him. What an amazing expereince and accomplishment! So proud of him and that he followed through with this long time desire. He had to do it, even if just this once . He did good. He deserved to do this. He made it in such good time and all. Swollen male pride, rightfully so. Happy he did this for himself. Happier that he made it back by mid afternoon to spend the later day playing with the grand kids with me, sharing his photos, telling me every detail of his hike, right down to the dozens of chap stick applications and the breath taking views he captured in his head, mind and heart. He was exilarated, refreshed, rejuvenated. How could he not be?

He made an amazing day of memories without me.
Yet I feel like I was right there with him, through his text messages along the way, the intensely happy sound in his voice when he called me from the base at the end of his adventure, the excitement he expressed at making it to the top. His one real regret...not having anyone to take a photo of him at the peak of this magnificent, rugged mountain and the back drop to our life in the Sierra's.
He left me behind for a grand adventure, for the first time ever. It was a new feeling and one with some discomfort. We do everything together, for the most part. This is good. Adjusting my thinking, adapting to the many reminders of aging body parts, both his and mine. I am really just so happy he made it back in one piece! The look in his eyes, the big hug when he returned...priceless.
Just can't beat this kind of mountain therapy.
Well done, Sweetheart.


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"What was he thinking, leaving me all day, on a Saturday and leaving me with the grandkids and no help?"
HELLO! Let's just put it this way. Duh...yeah he was thinking! Gee, which one do I want...taking care of babies or toddlers all day before I hit the grind again on Monday, or get some "me time" and head out for the nearest peak. Good choice I'd say. And knowing you, you had a big supportive smile on your face the whole day. This was great.
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Thumbed. Great shots, tell the man I said "job well done". :-D
You women! We eat healthy, get some sun, work out and somehow it can't just be ours?! :-O
NO, he just needed some alone time. But, to be fair, next time the grandkids come over, have a day at the spa planned for good measure. ;-)
Turnabout is fair play.
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Great post :)
Iamsurly - I see your point but I'd opt for the kids! Knee surgery is in my future and I don't want to aggravate it and go under the knife any sooner than necessary.
Lea - Thanks! I couldn't resist the title! It's exactly how I was feeling! And I recognize his achievement and applaud him for it.
Cymraeg - Good for you! Why not! Boys will be boys!
Stella - Thanks! Ya can't beat the Sierra's! The lure of the mountains and the theraputic scent of the pine. Irresistable!
Cap - Well, duh! I relate too and wish I could have joined him. Tho, maybe the point was that he needed to have this experience solo. I'm good with that, too.
Roger - I know, useless to worry! He did take amazing pics! There are several others, however, that would have made for a very lengthy post.
Owl - Thanks much!
Mamoore - Thank you so much! Your comment speaks to me.
Ralph - Thanks and yes, I saw a mini rant in there for the mid-life scenario. Both his and mine!
Lisa - Well said! Me too! I'm both a land lover and lower elevaton agrees with me! Thanks! And the rocky trails reek havoc on the feet and lower back! Ouch!
Bill S. - Thanks much and yes, the hiking alone part was what worried me the most. Originally, he was going to do this hike with a brother-in-law who flaked, due to some retirement party obligation!
So, hubby dertermined to go it solo! He has seen these comments and it is much appreciated.
OESheepdog - You're scaring me now! Oh my! K. Nuff said. Don't think he'll attempt another one like this or more challenging for a while. The aches, pain in the calves and sore feet will prevent any more of this for a while.
KOB - You little chauvinist! No need for turn-about, but we do have some other less challenging hikes planned and one for next weekend. A picnic with my sweetheart will be very welcome.
Lainey - Bingo!!! You said it! Ditto all that! Thanks much. You nailed it!
Great pictures, too!
montanarose - Very cryptic comment...and ya know I contacted my sister right away! Glad I did. Know I am with you in heart and spirit.
Suzanne - I like that you said my hubby has serious mojo! That's a good one and I have to remember to tell him that!
Mary - Thanks for that. She and her husband will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Smithery - Thanks very much for your understanding and knowing that I would always champion my husband's need to be more fit, physically, mentally and spiritually.
Scanner - So right on. Thanks!
Lunchlady 2 - You do that! We are in South Lake about 30 mins. up the hill from Gardnerville. Thanks!
Nanatehay - Thanks for that and I was so relieved to get that phone call when he got off the mountain and was heading home!
Procopious - Surely you will!
Just Pamela - Thanks much! He did do a great job with the photos! There were so many others and hard to pick which ones to put in this post. Didn't want to over burden this with photo overload, which I am prone to do!
Good for the man getting up to the mountaintop and down again, safely and feeling proud of himself and satisfied with his adventure. As Mary says, there are MUCH worse ways for a midlife crisis to manifest itself in either gender.
Think of it this way: the next time you get the grand kids for a saturday, it's YOUR turn to say you'd be much more fulfilled by going off by yourself and _______ (Fill in the alternative activity that would give you the greatest pleasure.) Don't even discuss it, just state that you will be doing activity Y that saturday, but you're sure he and the grandkids will have a great time together. Won't be much he can say in protest, will there? =o)
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Wonderful, again.
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By the end of the year, we were divorced and I had married Dan. That was twenty years ago. Your husband doesn't sound at all like the kind of guy who doesn't come back. Married people need a direct experience of self-reliance sometimes. That's what I call mojo.
Now I just escape for 4 hours of golf - and often in a cart.
Good for your hubby Cathy. Nice writing too!
My hubby made an off post comment that had me nearly run my car off the road when he said, "Honey, I loved your post and am just glad you didn't title it, "My husband left me and I'm glad he didn't make it back!!!" Now that's classic!
Cartouche! That's right on! What about me?! A walk in the park or taking care of a toddler and an infant most of the day?! He had the cake walk, me thinks!
Verbal - Thank you! We both had our challenges that day and it was all good.
Shiral - Thanks for the comment complete with options and sensibility! Let's just say, this isn't his first mid-life crisis. I think men may have one a decade after their teens! Not devastating but a bit distracting. And now that I have had a little Chardonnay, I don't dare fill in that blank!
Thoth! You can't just do that! You know I have to know what you are thinking! And why does hiking touch a nerve? Or do you doubt something else about this and won't open a can 'o' worms! Oooo...come on! You can tell me! And thanks for the ribbing! And the eloquent way in which you commented. I do appreciate your unmistakable compliment and way of making me feel better about what I have written! I do so doubt myself, my dry sense of humor and how my writing may be perceived at times. Ya never know!
"Married people need a direct experience of self reliance at times!"
That is brilliant!!! Susanne Freeborn! That is just great! Thanks!
Tim4change - Oh, hubby is a golfer for sure. Cart and all. This was a real departure for him and it was just what the doctor ordered!
Phaedo - He's definitely not the Ferrari type...more of a used Ford pick up type, which, by the way, I find incredibly sexy! Long bed, ya know. And if he opted for the mistress option to satisfy an form of mid-life crisis?!?! There would be missing body parts, even CSI couldn't find!
aw, you're a great wife!
Sometimes we must do these thing. Little adventures and be big milestones!
Gorgeous photos!
BTW, was your husband achey the next day????
Sandra - Nah...just fair to middlin'! When are you and your man coming up here next?!?
Carol - Thanks vey much! And oh yeah! His calves and feet were barking! Much better now.
Nice post.
Monte