Answering the question, "What does it mean to be a good man in the 21st century?" has intrigued me since I began reading The Good Men Project. It didn't take long to engage me in the conversation: first as a writer, then as an editor. You might say I'm invested in answering the question for myself.
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I wrote my first feature for the GMP in response to a story by an angry, violent man who didn't seem to recognize that his behavior was abusive. I was so angry, I put on a voice for this one that scared my husband. I haven't used it again. I still get angry, but I try to not sound like the bullies.
My most popular post on the GMP was "Grew Up as Girls, Married as Men," in which I explain how Kevin and I came to be married, and how we explain our transitions, identity, and relationship.
Grew Up as Girls, Married as MenFor Justin and Kevin, legally marrying was the easiest part of becoming a transexual, gay, married couple. It took more than a change in ...
The Lactation LoungeYou wake up to the sensation of a mouth suctioned to your nipple. It's a familiar sensation, and opening one eye, you see your infant son...
When I wrote about "The Kids Are All Right," I concentrated on the too cool for school sperm donor dad, and how he fails.
Are the Kids All Right?If women can raise children without men, Justin Cascio writes, where does that leave men? In my childhood in the 1970s and '80s, the prev...
For someone who hasn't had cable TV in a decade, I write about media a lot.
The Tao of DonHaving invented the role to escape the destiny of his birth, Don Draper's ironic fate is to be a Mad Man. Every culture has its roles: ma...
He-Man or Pee-Wee?Cartoon men help shape our images of ourselves as real, live men, Justin Cascio writes. Our earliest lessons are buried deepest. I can st...
My Family’s Mafia ConnectionMy grandmother, not my mother, was my model of ferocious love. Before my sister was born, my parents and I lived with them, my father's p...
I write about sex and relationships.
In Defense of the One-Night StandSex with a stranger can be about desire, but it may say nothing about where one's heart lies. Romance is the mystery and excitement assoc...
My Favorite Dick JokeJustin Cascio elucidates the performative similarities between stand-up comedy and sex. Being a successful comedian, as with other perfor...

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