Justin Cascio's Open Salon

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JULY 23, 2013 3:00PM

Dark and Stormier Cocktail

This spicy ginger drink makes hot summer nights easier to bear.

I like my ginger beer wicked hot. Sometimes I get Sally Fallon's recipe for brewing my own ginger beer to work, and sometimes I don't. When it fails to culture, I now have a/…

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trans 101

What not to say to a patient, client, co-worker, friend of a friend, networking contact, first date, or other acquaintance who is transgender.

Has someone just come out to you as transgender? Are you nervous about what to say, now that you know this unusual fact about them? If you… Read full post »

JULY 15, 2013 8:00AM

Future Devices: The Google Organ

computer implant, microchip, GPS tracking, smartphones, cyborgs, Google OrganI predict that in the not too distant future, we will all have implanted computers that connect us with one another. Will you be an early adopter?

Please note: “Google” is the intellectual property of Google, Inc. Resemblance to the Google Organ of any product, real or imagined, isRead full post »

JULY 12, 2013 8:00AM

Like a Deer in Headlights

the hot seat

Preparing to be interviewed can only take you so far. Then, you have to be there for it.

Last week in an interview, I was asked about the distinction between gender identity and sexual orientation—the difference between who we are and who we’re into. In response, I paraphrased the endRead full post »

JULY 10, 2013 10:30AM

You can't "beet" free greens

The "Eat More Kale" campaign might finally be working. But there are other leafy green vegetables out there, if you're open to some introductions.

Kale is cool these days. Everybody's eating kale salad, kale crisps, and drinking kale smoothies. I like a little kale in my salad, but/…

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JULY 5, 2013 9:00AM

What is food?

Let me ask you: does this look like food to you?

Michael Pollan says to “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.†Yet some non-foods fill the shelves of “health†emporiums and websites. Sites, books, and articles that purport to be about and for good health/…

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JUNE 18, 2013 10:30AM

When Bad Men Do Good Things

Katherine Sandoz, when bad men do good things, evil that men do, men's rights

Can people be so tainted that even when they do a good deed, it somehow isn’t?

Jennifer Kesler wrote about the death of Margaret Thatcher under the heading, “Sometimes Bad People Do Good Things,†including a little story about the time Thatcher destroyed food rather than feed the poor./… Read full post »

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Introducing The Good Life’s staff writers, a look at the themes featured this month, and the most popular posts in May.

Themes featured on The Good Life in May

In the first week of May, The Good Life ran posts in ongoing series 100 Words from Men on Love (see… Read full post »

MAY 26, 2013 7:13PM

How to Take a Vacation

vacation house

The man who taught me how to vacation finds me online to remind me of the lesson.

It’s been such a long time since I’ve posted in any of my blogs that I’m considering updating my bio to read “Justin Cascio currently neglects writing about his life at One inRead full post »

backyard parties, family gatherings, celebrating milestones, gratitude, blessings, best man, family men, gay uncles

A best man supports the marriage of his friends, long after the reception.

When Kevin and I moved to this college town, almost nine years ago, we became friends with a number of students. Some of them moved away, and some come back to visit, but Shrek is from an… Read full post »

MAY 20, 2013 12:30PM

What Real Men Talk About

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Justin Cascio talks to T Cooper, author of Real Man Adventures, about writing, crying, and being a real man.

As I read Real Man Adventures, I took notes. Early on, I fill pages with my annoyances: with its insensitivity and self centeredness, its makeup of essays and letters that did… Read full post »

MAY 18, 2013 7:00PM

5 Guys Talking: Men of Action

An AIDS activist, a Christian missionary, a wilderness first responder, and a revolutionary rock star… Premium Members talk to four men who’ve made it their lives’ work to help other people, and how any of us can be prepared to take action in a crisis.

In our second monthly Hangout… Read full post »

MAY 16, 2013 10:30AM

Real Man Adventures [Book Review]

T Cooper, coming out, book review, Real Man Adventures, McSweeney's, masculinity, trans men, FTM, gender performance

A testosterone fueled adventure through sex and gender, unlike any you’ve seen before featuring a man battling a shark on the cover.

The first thing I notice about T Cooper when we meet on Skype is how much we look alike. T is a thinner, more successful version of myself: we’re near… Read full post »

boys sex ed, boys dating, boys education, boys relationships, boys sexual assault, boys domestic violence prevention

Justin Cascio talks to Elizabeth Schroeder, executive director of Answer, about why boys are tuning out in sex ed classes, and what they want to know most (but aren’t telling us).

The Answer website offers some grim statistics on the state of sex ed in the schools today: “One in… Read full post »

science, progress, nature, human species, life on Earth, empowerment, self actualization, relationships, love, peace

Brought to you by the people who make aiming high, look easy.

At The Good Men Project, we are leading conversations about men and goodness, two easy targets for cynicism. To declare a goal of discussing goodness is to be “self-burnished†by the label: an act that, Adam Gopnik warnsRead full post »

APRIL 9, 2013 12:30PM

I Am a Writing Desk

NYC, synagogue, Manhattan, diaspora, America, American families, queer life, trans man, men alone, single men, isolated men, solitude

Justin Cascio had to leave home to find his people: more than once.

“There’s a third presence when we meet in this space,†Mark Greene told me recently. We were meeting face to face for the first time, albeit in a Google Hangout. “There’s you and me and the place… Read full post »

APRIL 4, 2013 10:30AM

The Fred Flintstone Diet

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The Paleo Diet, known for its heaping portions of animal flesh, is being blamed again for its resemblance to the diet of one “modern Stone Age” man in particular:

Bringing some scientific rigor to the debate over what Paleolithic people really ate b… Read full post »

APRIL 2, 2013 10:30AM

Owning Whiteness

racial colorblindness, whiteness, white people, white people on race, racism, eradicating racism

Rather than defend against the charge, Justin Cascio attempts to define and possess his Whiteness.

I was so excited to receive Bill Johnson’s column this week on racial color blindness, that I couldn’t wait to respond. Is Whiteness invisible? It wasn’t to me, and I wrote pages… Read full post »

MARCH 19, 2013 10:30AM

Everyone’s Doing It

alligators, animal love, funny sex stories, teen sex, safe sex

It seemed to us rural teens a natural fact that those with nothing to do will do one another.

When I was 12, my family moved to rural Florida, pretty much ensuring that the social activities available to my sister and I in high school would be limited to church,… Read full post »

MARCH 1, 2013 11:30AM

Intriguing: The New Ugly?


Tracy Moore at Jezebel thinks their readers should learn to embrace “intrigue†over sexual attraction in their potential lovers.

When I saw the title of the article, “How to Have Sex with Someone You Don’t Think Is Hot,†I thought, now here’s advice no one has needed, ever, in… Read full post »

What do the Bible and Jesus Christ have to say about a woman’s right to choose?

As a Christian minister, Reverend Matthew Westfox makes a religious argument for reproductive justice when speaking to those who share his faith. “In the parable of the sower, Jesus reminds us that seed al… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 20, 2013 10:30AM

Hyperarousal: Beyond Fight or Flight

In a crisis, your choices are limited, but it’s not as bad as you think.

You may not realize the ways you’re already responding to acute stress.

We all learned this in biology class. When an animal, such as a human, is threatened, adrenaline floods the bloodstream, and the animal… Read full post »

The eight spices in the most whole, dry form I had on hand. One of a handful of photographic clues I left for myself  for reverse-engineering a popular cook's published recipe for an 8-spice mixture. Home cooks have cooked from cookbooks for centuries. Modern cooks also cook from recipes/…

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FEBRUARY 1, 2013 5:30PM

A Reverence for Reproductive Justice

Rev. Matthew Westfox appears on MSNBC to talk about Christianity and reproductive rights.

The Reverend Matthew Westfox is on a mission from God: to make justice and compassion central to the discussion of reproductive rights among people of Christian faith. In his appearance on MSNBC with MelRead full post »

What are you reading on The Good Life? Here are the top ten posts this month.

I’ve never written a post like this before. I hope it doesn’t turn out like the time I emailed a list like this. Oh, the heartbreak. Or so I imagined.

I won’t even say… Read full post »