One Couple Courting Marriage Equality


San Francisco, California,
Chloé Harris & Frankie Frankeny were married Saturday evening, October 18, 2008, in San Francisco. Chloé is a freelance writer and fashioneur with her stilettos piercing the fields of style, interior design, dining and LGBT affairs. Frankie is a photographer, film director and the country’s foremost dachshund aficionado. The couple has two children, er, weiner dogs, 11-year-old Sunnie, and Sydnie, 8. Virtually inseparable, the newlyweds rely on Skype to keep in touch during business hours (their offices are mere steps away). They obsessively share up-to-the minute news and commentary about the marriage equality movement. In the evenings, they open a bottle of wine and enjoy married life while talking about, well, married life. In June 2009, Frankie and Chloé launched www.JustMarried.us, an online peek into their ongoing conversation about marriage equality. And ¿porqué no? Sharing, as they say, is caring.

FEBRUARY 25, 2010 1:15AM

Letter from a Gay "Mountain Soldier"

Sometimes the answer is just so simple.

Today, Virginia congressman Jim Moran read a letter on the House floor sent to him by a gay American soldier stationed in Afghanistan. The “Mountain Soldier” makes a case for equality that is both startling and plain as day: “After 10 years, mRead full post »

FEBRUARY 11, 2010 1:59AM

Love & Death: The Heart of the Matter

To be honest, we aren’t big fans of Valentine’s Day. One need only peruse the array of pink and red spatulas and cookie cutters at Sur la Table to know Valentine’s is a commercial faux-liday. But we are romantics notwithstanding and never pass up an occasion for our own personal dosRead full post »


This morning, for the umpteenth time, we sat at the edge of our seats glued to our twin laptops—one tuned to the New York Senate's live debate over marriage equality; the other tuned to TweetDeck, where our community (as always) banded together in solidarity and anticipation of aRead full post »

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NOVEMBER 4, 2009 2:43AM

A Love Letter to Maine from One Second-Class Couple

Dear loving LGBT couples of Maine,

Tonight we sat glued to our twin laptops, separated only by a couple plates of reheated leftovers, compulsively refreshing the election results from your state. We shared a bottle of wine and surfed back and forth between the New York Times and the Bangor

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Whatever your definition of a honeymoon—“a period of harmony immediately following marriage” or “a vacation taken by a newly married couple”—Frank and I have never had the pleasure. One year ago this week, our Champagne wishes fizzled with the passage of ProRead full post »

SEPTEMBER 18, 2009 2:40AM

DOMA is the F-ing Worst Four-Letter Word



Four-letter words can pack quite a punch. But of all profanities, there’s not one, nor any number of F-bombs, that quite stacks up to DOMA, the acronym that delivers a left hook to the gut of LGBT couples across the United States. As a married couple recognized in only… Read full post »

They say that communication is key to a good marriage. After weeks on the road, I am tuning back in—to television, blogs and of course to my wife, Chloé. If you’re following this season of Bravo's Top Chef, then you may have caught the commotion over marriage equality on a recent/Read full post »

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AUGUST 28, 2009 9:02PM

Deny for Deny: Should gays boycott straight weddings?

This week on Top Chef: Season 6, lesbian contestant Ashley Merriman got fired up about a wedding-related challenge because she and the show’s other LGBT contestants “are not allowed in that institution.” Her sense of conflict sparked discussion (video here) with fell/

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JULY 17, 2009 9:21PM

"Marriage" in a Box


Sitting in our lawyer’s San Francisco office scribbling signatures on countless safety-net documents—advanced healthcare directives, power of attorney, living wills—Frank asked, “What about when we travel? Will all this paperwork cover us when we’re in TexaRead full post »