Kathryn Varuzza

Kathryn Varuzza
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New Paltz, New York, USA
Birthday
May 03
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Writer, and Poet, 10 pieces of advice published in The New Mom's Manual by Mary Jeanne Menna, member of The International Women's Writing Guild since 1990, emotional intuitive, watercolor artist, amateur flutist, and pianist, and beginning songwriter, B.S. in Spanish Literature and Accounting, studied French, Italian, and Japanese as well. Avid reader, and single mom of 2 children.

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MAY 6, 2009 5:57PM

Love Not At First Sight

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Someone wrote a post the other day about love at first sight and it made me wonder is it possible for people to have a long term relationship or a long term happy marriage with someone with whom they didn't experience love at first sight?

I'm wondering because for me, I've always gone out with people with whom I experienced love at first sight.  And after a very long marriage, I am divorced now and single, and am facing the dating game again.

Is it possible for love to slowly grow into a strong relationship? Or is that instant first spark absolutely necessary for  the relationship to work?

I would like to know what people think and what their experiences have been.

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romance cannot last forever so you better be good friends
Kathy Knechtges
May 08, 2009 02:15 AM
One of my closest and dearest friends (who was at one time also a lover of mine) and I met in an elevator. He thought I was a real bitch and it took several more introductions before we warmed up to one another. We have been very close friends for more than 20 years. The love at first sight part guarantees sparks and possible romance but certainly not longevity. Trust me on that!
cartouche
May 19, 2009 04:04 PM
There are no firm equations. Love at first sight is certainly possible but it means nothing long term. Friendship is improtant, but that doesn't guarantee anything either. You simply have to pay to play and take your chances. Good luck to you.
Harp
May 19, 2009 04:14 PM
Hi Kathyryn, I see this is an older post but I'd still like to comment. I met my husband freshman year in college and didn't start dating him until senior year. The years in between were a slow getting-to-know you period, and he really grew on me. I definitely fell into that intensive, chemical, lusty kind of thing by the end of junior year, so it's possible to happen I think. Needless to say that urgent thing is long gone after 25 years of marriage and we're back to being more or less friends with just the occasional lapse into romantic love. I think that's how it is for most, and it's working out really well for us.
Lainey
June 05, 2009 09:44 AM
Thank you Lainey for your comments. It is great to hear other people's stories. Well, in my recent past, with one guy it was like I got hit by a lightning bolt, but that relationship petered out; then, I met a guy who there was almost no spark, and that didn't work, and
now, I've met a guy who is growing on me. So, who knows? Love is so complicated, and is such a mystery at times.
Kathryn Varuzza
June 05, 2009 10:24 AM
It was not love at first sight for me when I met my now husband. But it was for him. He had to chase me awhile before I fell in love. ;)
Gwendolyn Glover
August 05, 2009 05:36 PM
Thanks Gwendolyn for your comments. I'm glad your husband convinced you. How long have you been married?
Kathryn Varuzza
August 05, 2009 05:47 PM