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Dear Kit,

Yes, the Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde experience. This is so difficult and most times very shocking. The person you have come to love and share with just flips into someone else, someone you don’t recognize, someone who is a stranger to you.

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My Dear Kat,

This morning we spoke of people who act like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.  We have both had partners like this.  One moment, everything is fine, then POW!  Something sets them off, and someone unrecognized appears: maybe hysterical, maybe furious, maybe withdrawn.

There are se… Read full post »

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My Dear Kit,

Thank you for your description of our sexuality. You have touched so well on the magic of our union. When our bodies come together, it is like coming home. There is such a deep sense of fitting, of being in the absolutely right… Read full post »

My Dear Kat,

I want to talk about how sex is between us.  It’s fabulous, it’s instant, it’s mutual and it’s shared.

By fabulous, I mean that it’s breath-taking; time and time again, we go to places and achieve highs that we never did before.  I’m not talk… Read full post »

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My Dearest Kit,

Thank you for your beautiful expression of how we are! Yes, that says it exactly.

In looking at our vows, I see that many of the things we have been talking about in these conversations are included in our vows.

The respect… Read full post »

My Dear Kat,

One of the main reasons that we exist so harmoniously together is that we agree on the basics - but how did we do that?  We never had A Talk about such things.  Where did they come from?  We were never explicit about them, with maybe the exception… Read full post »

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Dear Kit,

You mentioned how we talk about things and just seem to come to resolutions or decisions. This has always been a basic part of our time together and maybe this is one of the critical factors. We have always really talked with each… Read full post »

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My Dear Kat,

Your delightful list of reasons why we are special ends with its effortless nature, that it doesn’t take work.  So many people write about the necessity of working on a relationship; I reject that idea.  Working on something is what I call… Read full post »

Dearest Kit,

I would so like to be able to break down the way we are together, so that I could see more of what contributes to this extraordinary relationship that we have. We have isolated some important factors.

We are very much in the present with each other. This contributes… Read full post »

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My Dear Kat,

The sleeping together is a very strange and wonderful thing.  I have never been big on touch - I have a massage certificate that’s a year old - but the experience of being in physical contact with you is very soothing.  It occurs… Read full post »

Dear Kit,

It has been a little more than three weeks now that we have been sleeping together every night at the Victoria Street house. There is something so powerful about ending each evening and starting each day with you. It seems like such a little thing. I marvel at how… Read full post »

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Dear Kit,

I woke up this morning from a dream in which I was low level irritated, really annoyed with someone. It was that attitude of diffuse impatience with a person that is so very common in the world. I think a lot of people spend… Read full post »

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My Dear Kat,

I love what you write about peace.  Before we met, I sat in zazen most mornings; after we met, I never sat on the mornings we awoke together, and never missed it because being with you was (and is!) so centering that it… Read full post »

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My Dear Kit,

This wonderful experience of union that we are partaking of seems to find its verification for both of us in the experience of Reality. There is no necessary or possible validation for something of this nature, other than direct experience. It is so… Read full post »

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My Dear Kat,

This experience of union is a mysterious joy.  I have fleetingly known it before, but with you, it is a regular occurrence.  Yet the rational scientist in me asks if it is an illusion, a trick that nature has dreamed up to facilitate… Read full post »

My dearest Kit,

I want to comment on your remark that "I hardly ever feel that I have compromised at all.  My self, my integrity, remains intact". I agree. We don’t impinge on the sacrosanct nature of each of our separate and distinct personalities. We experience such amazing union, and yet… Read full post »

My dear Kat,

I agree entirely with you about the feeling of our new arrangement of sleeping together every night.  I never expected this feeling of joy; I thought that, if anything, it might produce a little claustrophobia or some territorial issues.  Instead, this extraordinary sense of ad… Read full post »

My dearest Kit,

I am so enjoying our 'new life' sleeping together every night at the Victoria house. We've had four wonderful years living together so fluidly and in flux - we have slept sometimes at 'your house' and sometimes at 'mine' and sometimes each in our own. It has suited  us… Read full post »

My Dear Kat,

I am so looking forward to this online conversation with you.  Let me start by discussing a principal that is completely clear to us: to make no demands upon the other.  That’s none, nil, nada, zilch.

I’ve spent years with the bathroom half-renovated?  You keep c… Read full post »