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Kay W

Kay W
Texas, United States
June 22
Teacher, tinker, geek, mother, wife


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OCTOBER 12, 2013 10:10AM

A Little Grace Mixed In

This lively plenty has its bleak complement, of course, in all the things I can no longer do...These two elements, the plenty and the privation, are never pure, nor are the delight and wretchedness that accompany them. Almost every pickle that I get into as a result of my weakness and… Read full post »
AUGUST 18, 2013 2:17PM

Mantras Worth Repeating

"And I asked myself about the present: how wide it was, how deep it was, how much was mine to keep." Kurt Vonnegut  



One of the things about teaching the same novel dozens of times is that lines reverberate in your mind, come to you unbidden,

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My facebook friends list is diverse.

I have atheist friends, Christian friends, pagan friends, agnostic friends, and perhaps just plain old apathetic friends.

I have Republican friends, Democratic friends, Libertarian friends, Tea Party friends, and friends who aren't sure what the hell is going on.

I h… Read full post »
APRIL 25, 2013 12:04PM

Call me Grace

Minutes after I posted yesterday's blog, I went outside with Samantha on her leash. It had been a good morning. I was home alone except for all the critters, I had graded papers, paid some bills, written a perfectly nice post, and was going to work after I had walked the… Read full post »
APRIL 25, 2013 12:04PM

Time Travel

I hold onto things for years, obviously even for decades. I decided it was time to go through my closet and more than a decades worth of clothes, and Lily had a blast because some of those clothes were small enough sizes for her to wear. She's been dressing fancy at… Read full post »
APRIL 19, 2013 8:29AM

Spring Flowers

APRIL 18, 2013 5:28PM

Learning the Value of One Grade

When the girls first started school, I had no real expectations regarding grades. I was just happy when a day went well. By second grade it was readily apparent that schoolwork was not hard for them, although getting them to do it could  be very challenging.

So then, I felt rather obligated… Read full post »

The other morning, I stumbled onto a new poem by Taylor Mali on his facebook page that was better than coffee for waking me up. The best thing about reading a Mali poem is that in my head I hear and see him performing it--he's a delight to watch and one of my… Read full post »

APRIL 7, 2013 10:22PM

That's Some Catch!

Video of Doc explaining Catch-22 to Yossarian:

Heller got this down, this catch, that we all too often find ourselves in. He perfected it, peeled it down to its core. Alan Arkin, throughout the film, personifies the horror, despai… Read full post »

APRIL 1, 2013 10:34AM

Bad Zombie Cat Poetry

Here we sit 
From day to day
We wait we watch
We hope we pray

Here we sit
Birds that fly
Butterflies and bees
We witness all of these

And we can hope
That one day soon
The crazy cat lady
Distracted will
MARCH 28, 2013 9:41AM

Broken, Till We Are Broken No More


The word sticks in my mind.

Beats in tandem with my heart.

A little girl gets her unbroken burger,

and we are verklempt at the kindness of strangers.


A young man stays in a theater and dies

because the cops working security break him

As if he were driftwood in the way.


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 I've been blogging about autism for four years now and co-running The Autism Blogs Directory for nearly three years. I've seen the month of April come and go, and people in the autism community really ratchet up the rhetoric.

 I'm going to be the first to admit to bone-weariness. There's n… Read full post »

An Interview With Rosie, Lily, and Bobby conducted early Saturday morning before I consumed enough coffee.


Me: Rosie, you know about autism, right?



Rosie: Uh, well I have it.


Me: Yes, you do. What is autism?


Rosie: I don't know.


Me: What do you

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MARCH 22, 2013 8:48AM

Deep and Wide

When I was a child, my brothers and I were shuttled to and from a local Baptist church so that my parents could have some alone time. There were a lot of parents who took advantage of the church bus that would come by every Sunday morning, if my memory holds… Read full post »

MARCH 22, 2013 8:08AM

What Does Acceptance Look Like?

As everyone in the online autism community is all to painfully aware of, April is Autism Awareness Month. What that means to the vastly different people in  autismland is, of course, vastly different.


For some parents, it means going blue in a variety of ways, posting information about au… Read full post »

This semester in my composition 2 classes, we've been reading Vonnegut's Slaughterhouse-Five and Heller's Catch-22, looking at them from different angles, one of those angles being PTSD.

In order to supplement my instruction, I've been reading the recent biographies on both men, and one… Read full post »

MARCH 11, 2013 2:04PM

Surreal Yet Real

At times I feel certain I am in a Salvadore Dali painting, specifically "Soft Watch at the Moment of First Explosion."




Perhaps that's why Dali's work resonates with so many people? We can feel in our guts what this means, this sense of time breaking apa… Read full post »

MARCH 4, 2013 11:30AM

Hiding Yet...

Most of the time, the posts that appear here appear other places first, but this time, this piece appears only here.

I write here, away from my usual places, because here you will not see this. Here I can say what I need to say, relatively assured that you will… Read full post »


The last three years, I've weighed in, offered my thoughts. The last three years, I've asked my students to think about it, too. It was again the topic of a class discussion this sem… Read full post »

MARCH 3, 2013 10:30AM

Tone Wars

It occurred to me, as I perused the blogs in autism land and came across various skirmishes, that much of the time what we have going on is competing tone wars, where the substance is not as important as the tone or words a person uses.


Intent is irrelevant to… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
FEBRUARY 28, 2013 3:52PM

Lessons in Life: Teaching Vonnegut

For the last seven weeks, Vonnegut's been on my mind. With six comp 2 classes focused on reading Slaughterhouse-Five, I've been deeply steeped in all things Vonnegut, in part to provide a thorough examination of Vonnegut the man and Vonnegut the author and how these intersect.


I hope the… Read full post »

Everyday, we hear about tragedies, some that hit too close to home for comfort, and our reactions range from "That just shouldn't happen!" to the belief that when it does happen, it must be someone's fault.

If we can blame someone, then we can reassure ourselves we can protect ourselves from that… Read full post »

You know, I've become increasingly grateful over time that we don't have satellite or cable tv--no 24 hour news channels, and with how both Bobby and Rosie react to the news, we don't even watch the local channels over the antenna anymore. Even Lily necessitates having the morning news off--she doesn… Read full post »

I'm digging around for posts people have written on what to say/what not to say to autistic people and their family members for an episode Kathleen and I are working on for The Blogger Ladies and I ran across a question by the mother of two autistic children who finds parenting them challen/… Read full post »

JANUARY 5, 2013 1:30PM

Mash-Ups: This is Our Life

Sometimes, I think I've not only tried to make our home a hodge-podge of items that become their own brand of art, I've also started doing the same with my hair and clothing. Performance art, boredom, midlife crisis? I have this burning desire to bring incongruous objects together and see what… Read full post »