I Can't See Through This Gorilla

FEBRUARY 17, 2012 4:30PM

Dear Men: Tell Your Friends to Leave My Uterus Alone

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Dear Men,

Why are you still trying to take away our right to decide how, when, and with whom to have babies or staying quiet while others try?

I see woman after woman making social media posts about the rape and humiliation legislation in three states that force probes into vaginas before having an abortion, comments about women not being represented in the hearings, personhood laws that take the right away from women altogether, and endless posts about what the nearest Republican or theist man has said to insult or demean women.

What I have not seen are the outraged men who are concerned that choices are being taken from them, harm may be done to their partners, daughters, mothers, and friends. I see passive men who say they value equality and reproductive rights but do nothing to protect either. Instead many men generally choose to stay silent or only mention your outrage on videos, comments, and links posted by women. Even worse, many of you lead the charge to gain control of our freedom of choice, our future, and our lives.

Some men have decided to publicly address abortion and reproductive rights, including writer Joss Whedon in the comic Buffy.

“A woman's right to choose is under attack as much as it's ever been, and that's a terrible and dangerous thing for this country. I don't usually get soap box-y with this, but the thing about Buffy is all she's going through is what women go through, and what nobody making a speech, holding up a placard, or making a movie is willing to say," Whedon told Entertainment Weekly

Staying quiet is not an act of courage, it is a willingness to sacrifice women to spare men the discomfort of speaking publicly about it. If you think this is wrong, say it is wrong. Have the courage to confront other men and change the discussion from one which pits women against men to one that pits those who care about making sure reproductive choices are there for everyone against those who would take away those choices.

Thank you,


Representative of Women


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Oh, this is fantastic!
Thank you. Very well stated.