Lea Lane

Lea Lane
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I've been around the block (more like around the world). I've played and loved and lived an unconventional life in conventional trappings. I've been a corporate VP, worked with foster kids, acted in an Indie ("Nurse 1"), was on Jeopardy!. I'll write just about anything, from speeches to comedy sketches to feature articles. I've been managing editor of a travel publication, authored six books, including Solo Traveler:Tales and Tips for Great Trips (Fodor's), blog regularly on major sites, and have contributed (mostly anonymously) to everything from encyclopedias to guidebooks. I was divorced late, widowed early -- and dated lots -- and I survived a scary illness. After being happily, peacefully solo for many years, I just started a live-in relationship. I founded and still edit www.sololady.com, a lfestyle Website for single women. I'm truly grateful for each precious day, each well-earned wrinkle, my family, my cat. Truth, laughter, friendship. And now this blog -- on this wonderful site!

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AUGUST 27, 2008 10:25PM

An Apology and a Casserole: My Moments with the Clintons

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Hillary was superb on Tuesday night. Bill did his best on Wednesday, despite his pique. But the commentators and pundits keep digging, keep nitpicking. The fascination with this powerful couple never seems to end,

I actually met them a few times. For his second apology about Monica Lewinsky, President Clinton quoted from the prayerbook my husband Chaim wrote. The media descended on our house. Networks called. The New York Times wrote a profile of Chaim. President Clinton sent us a copy of his speech and a gracious note. And that, I thought, was that.

A year or so later when the Clintons bought their Dutch Colonial in Chappaqua, we were invited to a small "welcome to the neighborhood" potluck dinner party in their honor. The hostess said that Hillary had asked we be included. My husband and I were surprised by her thoughtfulness and by her savvy in remembering that we lived there.

We arrived with a bowl of hot artichoke dip on a cold January night, right before Bill Clinton's next-to-the-last State of the Union address. We were warned this was to be a relaxing, neighborly event, and to dress down and act casual. No reporters would be there, no beltway bloviators. Most of the few guests were skeptical Republican neighbors

The Clintons arrived with a small meat casserole and some big Secret Service guys. Chelsea, too. The first daughter had blossomed into an attractive young woman. She confided to a few of us that for the first time she would have her own room, in her own house.

Bill, nicely filling a sky-blue sweater, worked the room, dispensing charm and soaking up basic info: "Where's the best deli? Where should I walk Buddy?" (Poor Buddy was soon to be killed by a car on the road we suggested.) The chat remained local, and we all went along with it as naturally as possible, considering we were chatting about septic tanks with the most powerful man in the world.

And then there was Hillary. Shorter than I realized, and prettier. Would she be the cold witch portrayed in the media or the warm woman people who had met her raved about? Turned out she laughed that big laugh, and seemed to listen when you talked, and even the skeptics found her appealing.

Nobody wanted to be uncool and ask for a photo-op, but when one neighbor slyly brought out a camera and asked for a photo, the rest of our cameras came out, like mushrooms after a rainstorm. Chaim had brought a disposable, and I posed with the president, with his arm around me. And we smiled and stood there... and stood there, for what seemed like a full minute, and for some reason Chaim couldn't get the camera to work and frankly I didn't think it was that weird to have Bill Clinton close to me. He was known for just that!

Finally the President of the United States of America took his hand from my shoulder and said, "Rabbi, can I help you with that?" And he walked over to Chaim and moved the lever on the camera, walked back and put his arm right back where it had been.

Our connection wasn't entirely over. A bit later, Hillary invited us to attend her announcement to run for the Senate, but we were traveling. I did meet her again at a political event, and had a photo taken with her. No arm around me, but she remembered me, by name.

The next September, since they lived a few blocks away from the temple, Chaim invited the Clintons to the High Holy Days services, and though they couldn't come, Hillary wrote a personal note. The next year, when Bill was retired to country squire and Hill was a Senator, both Clintons did show up, he in a skullcap, surprising the late-service congregants and staying to schmooze.

The Clinton effect lingered just a bit more. Due to the connection with Bill's apology, when my husband died, "Monica Lewinsky" appeared in the first paragraph of his Times obituary. By the time I sold our house a couple of years later, I was relieved not to incur the wrath of strangers by uttering "Chappaqua."

As I watched the pundits spew opinions about the primaries the other night, I smiled about the potluck casserole that Hillary supposedly prepared for that neighborhood party. Whatever the ultimate result of this election, she's definitely better at running for president than she is at cooking.

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Wonderful post, Lea. Tolerance for camera screwups must be the hallmark of a reasonably flexible and compassionate public person: I met him briefly in Iowa during the caucuses, he said nice things about Salon and was very warm, and when I introduced my daughter she handed me her camera and asked if he'd mind, which he didn't. Well, I promptly framed the lovely photo -- and turned the camera off! He took it out of my hands, turned it back on, showed me the difference between the shoot button and the off button and handed it back to me gently. I got a good picture, which I'll make Nora post on her Open Salon blog...Nora?
Thanks for the kind words.
Yes, all those photo ops must make celebs pretty camera savvy. But we're talking about a disposable! I guess we get star-struck and fumbly with Presidents.
Anyway, Joan, my chance to thank you for holding the fort for sensibility and class when you appear on Hardball and others. I read you and Glenn regularly, and admire you both so much.
A great story. Thanks!
First, condolences on Chaim's passing, Olev Ha'Shalom. Clearly you've found a unique way to cope. This is the kind of story we need to personalize the Clintons. Sure they made mistakes, but by all accounts they're decent, good people. What, the rest of us don't have warts too? Excellent post.
I loved reading this, thank you very much.

Barry
This was a wonderful read. I'm starting to realy believe we must know some of the same people. I grew up across the street from the girl who became the youngest social secretary in the history of the White House - she worked for the CLinton administration and is still one of Hillary's closest allies. Rated (four months late!).