Lea Lane

Lea Lane
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August 26
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I've been around the block (more like around the world). I've played and loved and lived an unconventional life in conventional trappings. I've been a corporate VP, worked with foster kids, acted in an Indie ("Nurse 1"), was on Jeopardy!. I'll write just about anything, from speeches to comedy sketches to feature articles. I've been managing editor of a travel publication, authored six books, including Solo Traveler:Tales and Tips for Great Trips (Fodor's), blog regularly on major sites, and have contributed (mostly anonymously) to everything from encyclopedias to guidebooks. I was divorced late, widowed early -- and dated lots -- and I survived a scary illness. After being happily, peacefully solo for many years, I just started a live-in relationship. I founded and still edit www.sololady.com, a lfestyle Website for single women. I'm truly grateful for each precious day, each well-earned wrinkle, my family, my cat. Truth, laughter, friendship. And now this blog -- on this wonderful site!

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FEBRUARY 2, 2009 6:33PM

To Heather, My GPS

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Heather, I just want to acknowledge how much you’ve changed my life. Ever since you somehow crawled behind the dashboard of my car in 2002, you’ve guided me around the country and around the block, saving me anguish and gasoline, and helping in your sweet little way to improve my life and keep my emissions lower.

Over the years I’ve come to love your high, oddly clipped voice and your gentle prompts: “In a half a mile turn right,” “U-turn, when you can. U-turn.”

You may be bossy, but you always speak  with assurance. “At the next  intersection, bear left.” Ah yes, you know when to bear rather than turn. Such nuanced instructions.

Because I’m alone and rarely have a partner in my car, I used to hesitate driving in the dark to places I had never been. But Heather, since I have known that you were there in the dashboard behind the little map that keeps shifting above the CD player, I drive with impunity even where the streets are numbered on little white stones that no one can make out unless you get out of the car because the fancy-schmancy neighborhood doesn’t want anyone around who doesn’t  live there already, or who doesn't perform services for those lucky few who do.

You’ve shown them. You’ve gotten me door to door without a mistake. You not only keep the world greener, you democratize things, path-finding roads where few would venture before.

You’ve gotten me to loading docks in mazes of warehouses, and though complicated office parks to the correct door, and through rain and fog and sleet and snow with the dedication of an old-time mail carrier.

Oh yes, there was an occasional detour when I wound up on a street I had never seen where weeds grew in the tarmac cracks, and the folks walking around looked like they had just escaped from a high-security prison, and you said, “Destination ahead, Destination” and you were wrong and I was frightened .

But mistakes like that are few, Heather, and your voice remains so sweet that I always forgive you. Ninety percent, okay, make that ninety-five percent of the time, you deposit me right where I need to go, without my having to worry about a thing except the driving.

You’ve freed me from having to take long calls with wrong directions when I have no way to write them down, and from maps that never refold, and from stops to ask directions from well-meaning people who send me the opposite way from where I need to go and cause me to lose the job that would have changed my career path.

You’ve gotten me around beltways and clover-loops and inner and outer circles. And even though you can be a nag and you never admit a mistake, you have saved me time and gas and the other kind of gas and anxiety, without a waver in your steady voice.

And when I haven’t listened to you and I plunged ahead stubbornly, you have managed to configure the map without saying, “You idiot, I said turn right.” You simply change your instructions, and get me there anyway in your same few words.

Heather, I have come to depend on you as a wise guide. In fact, I wish you could  tell me what to do with my remaining funds, and who to meet and what to eat, and where to move, and how to live, and what is the secret to success, and how the universe expanded and if there is life after death.

But for now I’ll settle for you getting me from point A to point B with a “Destination ahead” in that high voice that I have come to love.

 

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Wow, you've made me want one of these when I didn't before. As a long-single woman with a poor sense of direction who still mostly drives places alone, I have developed a whole system of writing directions in bold felt pen so I can see them while glancing over while driving....not a great thing on California freeways, though, I can tell you! This sounds much better.
I am one of the last, I think, to manage without. Everyone I know who has one swears by it and talks about it like a big brother or trusted friend. You put in words what a lot of people are thinking.
I love this post. You are so right. These computerized personalities that run our life become "real" in a weird way.

I generally fight with them, however. For instance, I'm often barely speaking to the woman who controls access to my voice mail.
I don't have a GPS---which is pretty funny, because I can get lost in the living room. I'm pretty sure if I did, we'd often "have words."
and my Province is banning them, as distractions...
me and my American Jill are BFFs! Oh, she's a bossy beotch and almost went went curbside with her snotty "recalculating" ... but without her, opportunities missed this past weekend alone ... I'm dependent, as I lack an internal compass. So well put Lea!!
Silkstone, it is liberating.

Yes, a trusted friend is one way to look at it. You can get them male or female voices, and different languages and accents.

m.a.h, yes I have virtual friends here and with me in my car. Real friends seem a but strange and indulgent nowadays.

Brian, is that true? Or are you kidding?

Cindy, yes my compass is off too. My BFF Heather helps me there.
Lea, that will come in handy when we're collaborating on "Gone with the Winnebago"...
Lea, I bought my wife a GPS to use for her business. American Jill seem to get more and more upset. My wife left me a cell phone voicemail message one day, and before she could say anything Jill's irritated "Recalculating" preempted her.

Have you used any of the male voices?
Frankly my dear cat, I think we should collaborate on something more contemporary. A series, maybe.
I just had a multi-million dollar idea. Why don't they offer different voices on these GPS systems, and use celebrities to do them, a la books on tape? I personally would be happy to have Alan Rickman telling me where to turn.
Your GPS deserves a big hug.
You wrote so well.I feel that I'm on first
name terms with it.
No OEsheepdog, there's something a bit too much having a male voice directing me around. Women's voices seem to be far more popular.

Hmm, Silkstone. Reminds me of the NYC cabs where celebs like Joan Rivers told you to fasten your seat belt. Good idea.

Hi Peter. Do many people have GPSs down under?
Oooooh. I love my little GPS on my Prius, although the voice isn't as wonderful as your "Heather!"
Lea,
Almost all car owners who can admit that they lack a sense of direction.
Of course some men hate them,and are still driving around in
circles.
I feel as though I've met one of your friends. And I like her.
Hi, Lea. I know that everything you say is absolutely right about GPS. You and Heather have a good thing going.

Little by little the GPS mania has been taking over motorcycle riding as well. Now I think that there are at least as many long distance touring riders who use GPS as do not.

Guess who the last troglodyte who refuses to even consider adding a GPS to his bike is? Yep. Moi. "Over my dead body" was I think the last original thought I had on the tidal wave toward GPS in motorcycling. Truth is that I would rather be LOST than use a GPS. Touring motorcyclists are SUPPOSED to get lost.

That is half the fun of taking off down a road that is not even on a map but looks like it might go where you think you want to go, if, of course, there is a bridge somewhere down the road to cross that river.

Anyway, good post. I know you are right. But in the motorcycling world I intend to fight to my last breath for the right to get lost whenever I feel like it, and often when I don't. ;-)

Monte
Ha! (The ‘recalculating’ comments).

Seriously, though, if you don’t adjust to the given directions and it has to go through 3 recalculations, that ding gets obnoxiously loud and the voice actually becomes exasperated. Really. I’m not kidding. (Okay, maybe it’s just me).

Fun post, Lea. Reminds me, I have to get the newest issue DVD for the latest updated maps. (It’s always something).
My friends think I'm nuts for taking "Lori" everywhere I go. I bought my first GPS over ten years ago. Lori is my fifth and I love her dearly. She is the least expensive and user friendliest of them all.
Yo already know where you're going, why do you need a GPS? Because she keeps me company! No, it is NOT a sickness!

For Silkstone,
Celebrity voices ARE available for down load from the home site, but who could be better than my sweet Lori?!
GPS's become part of your virtual life, like this site. Heather is demure. Others I've heard are not so.

Monte, I understand the thrill of getting lost and find your way back. I used to do that. Not so much fun anymore.

David, I too sometimes I worry that she is getting mad, but then I worry about myself.

Carol, Sally and Michael, yes GPSs are like friends. You start to get a little nuts when more of your friends are virtual than real, but I guess if we're here on OS we're liking it.
Great idea, Lea, and wonderfully written. I too love my GPS. It's given me a new-found freedom to explore without getting lost (and believe me, I am so bad that I couldn't find my way out of a paper bag.) When I get near home, and I know the way, I often choose a different route from the one that "Gladys" does. Her terse "Recalculating!" sounds a bit more clipped each time she has to say it, as if what she really means is, "Why did you even buy me, you dumb bitch, if you're not going to listen to me?"

Congrats on the contest!
Yeah Lisa, sometimes I feel she is passive-aggressive.
I think there are enough voices in my head already. When I'm driving, I prefer the sound of silence except for my occasional outburst of "augjourfuckingdhui" to the slowpokes around here. Rated.
Hmm, that sounds like something we should add to GPSs and just punch in when we need to. Saves our voices.
Very cute. Heather sounds like great company in the car. I don't have a car right now, and don't know if I'll get one when I do get a car. I pretty much know where I want to go, but you never can tell. Great post.
Sorry, Lea, took me awhile to get over here. My "Heather" has been acting up. Actually, my navigator isn't named Heather, it's Lorelei, and she doesn't seem to be nearly as dependable...she's always sending me into bakeries and shoe stores when I'm supposed to be out on legitimate business.

Anyway, glad to hear you've discovered a new companion, even if she doesn't compare to that guy on the cruise.
latethink and laurel, yes there virtual friends are more useful than most real ones.

and as for the cruise guy, I'm not goin' there ....