
The suddenness of the swine flu epidemic, and the talk of the very old and the very young, made me think of something I saw a few years ago. I watched a video at the Tate Modern in London, that massive, former electric plant on the Thames. It was Nantes Tryptych by Bill Viola (you can see a still, but the artist has not released the whole work -- I've looked). Anyway, a split screen showed a dying old woman on one side, and a woman giving birth on the other, and the two were synchronized so that the moment of birth and death would be simultaneous.
The video took 20 minutes and I didn’t have 20 minutes to stay at one installation, but I couldn’t stop watching, standing alone in the dark little space.
The old lady on the right screen, lay barely breathing. And the young woman giving birth on the left screen writhed and called out and pushed and strained.
And finally at the same moment the baby was born, wailing, pouring air into his lungs, and the old lady died silently, her small, silent breaths fading into stillness.
I remembered the births I had experienced, of my sons and one of my granddaughters. And the two times I had been at a dying person's bedside as they slipped peacefully away.
I stood in silence for a minute after the screen went dark, and I thought about the parallels of the newborn and almost gone: no hair, diapers, no teeth, inability to walk, weak immunity, dependency. And the miracle and the natural progression of the circle of life.
And I thought of Shakespeare’s "Seven Ages of Man," from As You Like It. At first, “the infant, Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms.” And the last phase, “second childishness and mere oblivion, Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.”
And I went out of the Tate and into the swirling crowds, filled with people at every stage. Children running with their backpacks. Toddlers pushed in strollers by young mums, balding barrister-types hurrying along with their briefcases and brollies. And I pondered life and age. And then I just let it go. I had to meet someone.
Time was short. And I realized that, more than I had going into the Tate.
The Seven Ages of Man
All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players,
They have their exits and entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts,
His acts being seven ages. At first the infant,
Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms.
Then, the whining schoolboy with his satchel
And shining morning face, creeping like snail
Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,
Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad
Made to his mistress' eyebrow. Then a soldier,
Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard,
Jealous in honour, sudden, and quick in quarrel,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon's mouth. And then the justice
In fair round belly, with good capon lin'd,
With eyes severe, and beard of formal cut,
Full of wise saws, and modern instances,
And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts
Into the lean and slipper'd pantaloon,
With spectacles on nose, and pouch on side,
His youthful hose well sav'd, a world too wide,
For his shrunk shank, and his big manly voice,
Turning again towards childish treble, pipes
And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,
That ends this strange eventful history,
Is second childishness and mere oblivion,
Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.
Don’t go for the long version? Shakespeare's words were compressed into a limerick by the historian Robert Conquest:
Seven ages: first puking and mewling,
Then very pissed off with your schooling,
Then fucks and then fights,
Then judging chaps' rights,
Then sitting in slippers, then drooling.


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Thank you so much for this Shakespeare, the realities of life and death become sadly profound from his pen.
Amazing that one man, hundreds of years ago could produce and articulate such thought.
Thanks Lea, and I echo sheepdog with the thanks for the lighter hearted ending.
I agree, ending with the limerick was a nice way to tie it up.
Thank you so much for this wonderful post!
Might I add a line or two from the (much-missed) Laura Nyro:
"And when I die, and when I'm gone,
There'll be one child born in the world to carry on
To carry on."
Rated from someone in his slippers. (No drool -- yet)
Steve, I'm impressed that you'd memorize the limerick. I'm not sure I can so easily anymore.
OR, you've got the real one memorized? Most impressive.
Ablonde, Shakespeare gets more incredible the older you get. Too bad we learn about him before we can fully appreciate the wisdom and insight.
Mr. (no longer mean) M, my pleasure.
Buffy, yes I was alone and wanted to share that profound experience, and now I have.
Steve, I too have seen the play and when an actor can say those heart-rending lines really well, there are few moments more moving.
Fabflamingo, so many times birth and death come at the same time in families. This was just art--exqusitely timed, and extremely moving and profound.
Boa, another great comment. You add so much to the thread with your additional songs and quotes. I do remember that song well.
The thing that bothers me when I think about dying, and now again with the films you watched, is the thought of the party going on without me. It's like when I would be sick and stay home from school. There was something very lonely and humbling about the idea that everyone was going on with their day and their lives and would eventually stop missing me (if they ever did).
Interesting and thought-provoking post. Thanks.
My mother says that on the farm, when someone died they used to say, "and here she comes!"
denese
Rated
phm, sometimes the tags are better than the posts.
David, I wish I remembered the videographer's name. I guess I will google if you don't and see if I can find it.
mary, it was strangely beautiful and strangely comforting, in a sad way. A real work of art.
noahvose, yes the wolf is a good metaphor. I always think that much when on before I was alive and much will go on after. The way of life. That's why I'm trying to live each day in the fullest way I can, flat out.
Annimal, thanks for giving this a shot. I'm glad you felt it was worth the visit. The Tate is something else.
Hells Bells, back at you.
Oh denese, what an interesting comment. Your father was no doubt comforted knowing that there would be a grandchild, even though it is so very sad they he never met him.
And that farm statement is fascinating.
My comment didn't make me cry but your empathy did. Painful but beautiful to watch someone you love so much take flight while another loved one is finished on this earth. Our son is expecting another child, this time a girl. We have been waiting so long for a girl child in this family. There really hasn't been one since me (and I'm 51). It's unspoken that we're all worried that my 88 mother won't survive this, even though she would gladly give up her place for Daniel's daughter.
When I used to ask my mom why people died, she said, "to make room for the babies, of course!"
Thanks for writing this and understanding.
denese
Love the limerick.
Thank God for Dentists,hair salons,and orthopaedic surgeons.
denese, I hope the tears were ones of recognition that it did make your dad happy. Congratulations on your upcoming grandaughter. I have two sons, and two granddaughters, and I have to say that girls are a hoot.
George Sand, yes it was both life affirming and sad.
Peter, a new avatar! No more gray. Yeah! And yes, we can use cosmetics at least.
Astoundingly profound! How well you interweave Shakespeare and universal human themes (of which he WAS the Master) into the tapestry of current events.
Lovely post.
--rated--
"Of course!" said in the accent of my NY mother -in-law.
xox
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Denese, the NY accent can vary--Brooklyn? Long Island? The Bronx? Upstate? Subtle shades that many can pick out in a couple of seconds.
Born in Manhattan, raised in Ossining, moved back to Manhattan during her teen years (went to Hunter), lived in Pearl River (Rockland, County) for all of her married years, and lives there still.
Oh, went to Bellevue for her nursing degree.
And it is pronounced, "Of Coarse!"
:-)
She's got Alzheimer's and isn't really with us now. She has been an incredible mother-in-law.
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The circle. Not to be feared or dreaded...just to be completed. And when we finish here, to begin again.
You always bring up interesting thoughts with compassion. Wonderful wonderful.
carol, maybe I can get to thinking like you. I'm not there.
sandra, lots of us had to memorize those words, but how many of us remember them? Well, maybe you do.
Phaedo, I don't quite get it ....
Brenda, I think when we are in troubled times we turn to words to comfort us and make sense of things. And no one is better than Shakespeare.
One of the privileges of being a pastor was to be able to see both the alpha and the omega of life on this mortal coil within many families, often within hours of each other. One of the things that I noticed about there being a birth in the family fairly soon before or after an expected death was how the birth gave the family something to cling to, and the transition of the dying into " the closer presence of the Lord", as we Moravians call it, was made more natural and understandable as that cycle of life of which you speak manifested itself.
I remember that there were times when I would have three or four funerals in a two week period and I used to tell the congregation that if anyone had a child to be baptized this would be a good time to do it because we could all USE a baptism about then. Again, it was the cycle of life being experienced by the wider family of faith. And they always understood exactly what I meant.
Monte
Monte, as you may know I was married to a rabbi for a short while, and I too saw the many ceremonies of life and death that he performed. It gives you a real perspective of both joy and sorrow.
Faith, thank you for adding that Spencerian quote. The threads are so wonderful here.
Donna, you always put things exactly the way I would like to.
DM, yes it got me thinking too, years later. Great art can do that.
lightning crashes, a new mother cries
her placenta falls to the floor
the angel opens her eyes
the confusion sets in
before the doctor can even close the door
lightning crashes, an old mother dies
her intentions fall to the floor
the angel closes her eyes
the confusion that was hers
belongs now, to the baby down the hall
I would have liked to see that video.
Always loved Bill S. He knew everything we know today.
Your limerick reminded me of the 60-second Hamlet. There are many versions; a good one lives here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/drama/shakespeare/60secondshakespeare/themes_hamlet.shtml
Rated. Loved.
I know Shakespeare by heart, but I'd never heard of Robert Conquest; priceless!!!! Rated
M B, I guess 99.9999 % of us are somewhere in the middle.
Helen, yes I've been at both births and deaths and the deaths were more peaceful and less violent, just like in this art work.
Ralph, art likes this makes us all conjure up different things.
cartouche, both David Decker and I looked for a video link, but I can't find one. Probably because it is an artwork Viola wants to keep for museums. I will look even more. But it is the meaning that lingers.
Thanks for the comment.
Friends may come and friends may go
But I am always here.
A little smile, a little frown,
And one gigantic tear.
To Shakespeare, all the world's a stage
And we are merely players;
But if beauty is truly only skin deep,
Why are there so many layers?
I think I would have a hard time sitting through that video - I've been on the "life" side a couple of times already (witness to childbirth), so I imagine I'd spend the whole twenty minutes watching that poor woman expire, and wondering what I was doing sitting there watching it.
Thumbed. A wonderful interweaving of past and present.
dustbowldiva, yes, because I wrote about travel for over 30 years I did get around. That was one of the joys of my life, and I have had ups and downs galore.
Thanks, ktm. I guess travels is one of the operative words, but lessons like these are usually close to home.
Jimmy, if your shank is all that shrinks you're in good shape, whatever the phase.
I never saw that piece but I've seen several others. I like his views on the subconscious and creativity. He feels that his camera picks up things that he consciously didn't and this same rule can be applied to writing, I'm sure. When we give up this tight, cognitive approach to our writing, some things naturally stream out - very powerful things. That's why free writing is important.
As for the stages of life, I don't plan on drooling. I'm gonna skip that one somehow. Though slippers are nice.
Beth, I've seen other works by Viola as well and find him profound. And no drooling except when sleeping.
"And I pondered life and age. And then I just let it go. "
Perfect Lea.
Of course, none of us knows what happens after we draw our last breath, but maybe we are merely sucked back into the cycle as some religions suggest. I can't imagine the infinite, but I can conceive of a model, the undulant rhythm as a sine curve pulled back upon itself in three dimensions -- the very symbol we use for infinity.