Lea Lane

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“I’ve discovered the secret of life,” Kay Thompson, the eccentric entertainer and “Eloise” author, once said. “A lot of hard work, a lot of sense of humor, a lot of joy and a lot of tra-la-la!” And that's been my life: As a travel writer for over 30 years, I've been around the block (more like around the world), and I write true stories about interesting people and places. I've lived an unconventional life in conventional trappings. Been a corporate VP, worked with foster kids, acted in an Indie ("Nurse 1"), was on Jeopardy!. I've been managing editor of a travel publication, written for the Times, and authored books. OS is my home, but I also blog on The Huffington Post, and I've contributed (mostly anonymously) to everything from encyclopedias to guidebooks. Married young, divorced late; married late, widowed early, I dated lots in-between -- and survived a scary illness. After being happily, peacefully solo for many years, I'm now happily married again. I founded and still edit www.sololady.com, a lifestyle Website for single women. I'm truly grateful for each precious day, each well-earned wrinkle, my family, my cat. Truth, laughter, friendship, late love. And this blog -- on this wonderful site!

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JULY 2, 2010 8:57AM

Let's Have "Independents" Day!-- July 3

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Our great country honors just about everybody: couples on Valentine's Day, mothers, fathers, grandparents, secretaries. presidents, laborers. Even groundhogs.

How about a tribute to singles who live independently and who bear the burden of higher per-capita taxes, single supplements, tables by the toilet, awful blind dates, pitiful looks by passersby as they walk alone in the evening, and endless questions about their happiness? 

Ignored by many couples and diminished by right-wing evangelicals, singles need to be recognized, and yes, even honored.

Herewith some suggestions to create a new American holiday, finally acknowledging the sacrifices and accomplishments of about half of our adult citizens. I would call it:

independents

 

Proposed date

July Third, the day before the other Independence Day. The two would be symbiotic. People could celebrate with independents the first day and larger groups the next.

Ways to celebrate

Parades in urban areas where singles live could feature floats with animatronics honoring iconic independents throughout history, such as President James Buchanan (unfortunately rated the worst in history, not counting Dubya), and alone-time appreciators Henry David Thoreau (who went to the woods), Henry James (who went to England), and Emily Dickenson (who pretty much stayed in her room).

The parade would climax with in-person solo notables such as Ralph Nader, Gloria Steinem, Derek Jeter and Supreme Court Justice Sonya Sotomeyer.

And a bunch of single young things, of course, would wave happily for eye-candy.

Music could be programmed on individual iPods, so that everyone could march to their own drummer, so to speak. TV marathons that day and night could focus on past and present shows featuring singles, such as That Girl, The Mary Tyler Moore Show, Sex and the City, and The Bachelor/ Bachelorette. 

Happy Hour would be extended to Happy Day at bars and restaurants, in gratitude for loyal single patrons, who would be given choicest seating, for a change.

A poem with a theme glorifying solitude would be written and read by the poet laureate (Who is the poet laureate? Do we still have one? Maybe we should skip this one.)

Food for The Fourth usually includes fried chicken, burgers, watermelon and strawberry shortcake are traditions.

But there's plenty of choice left.

Distinctive fare for Independents Day might include Appletinis, pomegranate margaritas, screw-topped mini wines, Stella Artois beer chugged from the bottle, cosmos, mojitos, Boca protein burgers, Chinese take-out, microwave-warmed pizza, and Ben and Jerry's spooned from the carton.

With so many family events over the years, solos usually give more gifts than they receive. Some ideas gifting solos include a subscription for match.com, a cat, a full- body massage, a small George Forman grill, a complete set of china, silver and crystal for one, video games, sex toys, a book of crossword puzzles, handyman services for a year.

And the best bling for a single gal, a solitaire right-hand diamond ring.

Branding

Logo: That solo lady in the harbor, The Statue of Liberty, holding a sparkler instead of a torch, symbolizing the sparkling personas we often present when we wish we were somewhere else.

Bumper sticker slogan: "I vant to be alone," actress Greta Garbo's supposed wish, or "Put a ring on it," Beyonce's comment.

Theme song: "Miss Independent" by Kelly Clarkson or "Single Ladies" by Beyonce.

Colors: Puce, ecru, chartreuse and heliotrope (representing independent taste). Besides, red, white and blue are taken.

Possible Independents Day spokespersons: George Clooney and Joan Walsh (or George Clooney and any single female).

So that's it. I've thought of just about everything to celebrate the independent adults among us. I've been single much of my adult life, and may be again. Why not get some official respect on Independents Day right before Independence Day?

I declare it a new holiday!

 

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I was a "solo" for a long time before I got remarried. It's time for a holiday honoring that proud group!
I bow down to you. I want my own holiday!
This is a wonderfully funny post that has very practical ideas. ther should be a nice "Singles Logo" that can be universal.
Great idea. Single is great, although now I live with someone. I think we should have a holiday, though, just for Ralph Nader. He has done so much for this country.
Nikki, you and other solos deserve one!

Gary, you could design the logo!

Oh Sheba, Ralph is a life-long single -- deserving special praise on Independents Day (he's also independent in every other way).
I'll go for everything but the colors. Chartreuse is not a good look. On anyone.
CrazeCzar, Independents of all kinds can join. There can be branches.

sixtycandles, I agree with you on that one. How about puce?
Personally, I like aqua...thank you to an ex-independent who hasn't forgotten all of us she has left behind in her coupled bliss...I think I'm turning into a cross between Thoreau and Dickenson. That could be scary...this was a nice morning smile and laugh.
I like aqua too Leonde. Even more, teal.
I LOVE this idea! And I couldn't help but notice that the "parade would climax. Intentional, missy? Naughty, naughty girl....
I wanna be on the Kevin Spacey float.
This is great and belongs on the front page. Also, how about actually do this??? FB it and make a page for it. Maybe you will actually see this come to fruition. I am sure singles of all ages would find it fun. Great, great idea! You could hook it to some kind of charity and it would be a little bit of a fund raiser.. I will take my fund development hat off now and sit on it. R
What a great idea, Lea. I have one for spokespersons: George Clooney and Me! :)
I am all for it. May I be a Parade Float?? R. for Inventive and Nice!
If you get the handyman for a year, do you still need the sex toys?
R
It would get this married ladies vote.. (according to marriage statistics I would be making a wise vote investment ;)

Happy Independent's Day, Lea Lane!
Do you have an affiliation with Hallmark?


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Great idea, Lea! Might I suggest, instead of the multitude of small cluttering gifts, plane tickets to anywhere we want to go on a moment's notice?
Lea,
I agree. While it's nice to be part of a couple, I spent years single, and I liked that too (for the most part). It's not a disability and we should acknowledge how much single people do to support the rest of us. (That is, if they're good citizens and vote for school taxes and the like.) What I don't like is single people who forget that they went to school and thus, owe their share of school taxes. They're paying for someone else's kids, yes, but that kid may one day save their life as their future doctor. And in the meantime, they went to school on the public dime.
Sorry, just had to throw that in there.
But yes! here's to independents day.
Bril Lea! I'm celebrating already, I had Chinese for breakfast.

(didn't Gloria get hitched? I know for sure she's wearing her bra again...you just can't get away with certain freedoms later in life.)
Hear, hear for Independents Day.

p.s. hopefully there is still a poet laureate but if not, maybe a comedian is in order.
I refer to this post by Stella. The 1st post I read written by Stella.


http://open.salon.com/blog/stellaa/2010/01/21/i_blame_the_independents
I was solo for a long time before marrying and can relate. Good idea, Lea.
Count me in! Twice!
Done!

As a former single father, for 7 years, I get this.

One is NOT the loneliest number. Another bumper sticker idea: One-derful!

Also Spinoza as Independents Philosopher: he gave up the family business and endured excommunication by the Amsterdam Rabbis to assert that God was so beautiful and awesome he might not need to exist, plus he lived alone, grinding lenses, above a merry middle-class family. He embodied compassion, and despite his history-changing a-theist writing? was called "the most God-saturated man on earth" by two papal spies.

He made human only-ness un-lonely, and our singular sentience magnificent.
Cartouche, it was a Freudian slip. I think.

Thanks, Matt. Does it need votes?

Duane, no comment on Spacey, Except watch your back.

Sheila, thanks. I agree, but whatcha gonna do? Maybe you can make it happen.

Fay, you'd have to fight off lots of competitors for that position.

Jonathan. too funny.

Little Willie, I don't get it but nice seeing you here.

Amanda, ya never know. Good to have this day in any case.

Leepin, I wish!

greenheron, that is an always appropriate gift, especially for those solos who can travel on a whim.

Lorriane, I understand your concern on that. You are an activist true and true.

Gabby, Gloria got hitched and then he died. But it was a great short marriage I think.

Scarlett, do you want to be the comedian laureate?

Thanks, Jack. I'll look it up.

Kathy, those of us who have been solo a long time understand.

Rod, you could be a co-spokesperson for the over-50 set.

Greg, you get it. Thanks.
Love this idea! Beyonce's song, btw, is actually called "Single Ladies." I prefer lavender or even hot purple... better for swooning or canoodling. I like your logo, who better to represent independents than a hot, half naked French chick holding a sizzling sparkler.
Can't be spokesperson, Lea. Developing my own day for the *Over* crowd ... Over 60. Otherwise I would.

*In Depends Day* Our color will be yellow, our spokesperson, Flo (of Progressive Insurance fame) with help from Willard Scott. Our song, Old Man River ... modified, of course (we just keep flowing along). We will celebrate on a Wednesday ... because we can ... with an Early Bird special ... also because we can ... and we will do it at Sunset ... in January when sunset comes earliest.

But we will also participate in Independents day because most of us are ... or soon will be.
Sally, thanks for the correction. I only heard that phrase and figured it was the title.

Rod, love the idea. I would qualify!
Hi, Lea! We're all in it by ourselves one way or another, I figure.
Welcome back! Hope all is well, solo or duo.
I love coupledom, but also treasure my singleness. This is an awesome idea. I have often felt that singles deserve more respect.
Go singles, go singles, go singles!
Sign me up! Bravo!!
Consider yourself signed, RA.
Finally, some recognition. Thanks for inventing a new holiday.
You're welcome, Spud. My pleasure.
Yippee! As an independent (please don't tell Susan she's fictional), I'm on board with this. But let's stay away from heliotrope. We don't want to be confused with the dermatomyositis parade. (Oh, and thanks for bringing up the "table by the toilet," a sore point with me). Cheers, Lea! *raises pomegranate margarita*
Count me in.
Btw. I was once asked to sing solo... so low no one could hear me.
Ba-dum-Bum! (snare drum & rim shot)