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“I’ve discovered the secret of life,” Kay Thompson, the eccentric entertainer and “Eloise” author, once said. “A lot of hard work, a lot of sense of humor, a lot of joy and a lot of tra-la-la!” And that's been my life: As a travel writer for over 30 years, I've been around the block (more like around the world), and I write true stories about interesting people and places. I've lived an unconventional life in conventional trappings. Been a corporate VP, worked with foster kids, acted in an Indie ("Nurse 1"), was on Jeopardy!. I've been managing editor of a travel publication, written for the Times, and authored books. OS is my home, but I also blog on The Huffington Post, and I've contributed (mostly anonymously) to everything from encyclopedias to guidebooks. Married young, divorced late; married late, widowed early, I dated lots in-between -- and survived a scary illness. After being happily, peacefully solo for many years, I'm now happily married again. I founded and still edit www.sololady.com, a lifestyle Website for single women. I'm truly grateful for each precious day, each well-earned wrinkle, my family, my cat. Truth, laughter, friendship, late love. And this blog -- on this wonderful site!

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SEPTEMBER 8, 2011 10:40AM

I was in a Hospital. Where Were You Then?

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That morning is one none of us will, or should forget. So here is one remembrance:

On September 11, 2001 at 8 am I was in a clinic waiting room in the Sylvester Cancer Center of Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami. My husband Chaim had recently been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, and we wanted to see the doctor, first thing.

The TV was tuned to the Today show while we waited to see the oncologist, and I watched the coverage in real time, including seeing the second plane hit the second tower.

The mood in the hospital room was strange, as many of the patients watching the attack were terminally ill and did not seem shocked by it all. There was a strange tamping down of feelings, perhaps because there was already such sadness in the room.

As my husband moved throughout the clinic taking blood and being checked, the tvs were on in all the waiting rooms. In one room as we sat, the first bulding fell. In the next room, the second building fell. We watched the Pentagon burn and saw that smoldering field in Shanksville, Pa. The coverage implied that the entire country was about to be hit in some physical way by still unknown terrorists.

Many of us sitting in those clinics felt a strange kinship with those who lost their loved ones in this horrific, unfair, random way. We knew that in a few months we would lose our loved ones sitting next to us. The mood was somber and empathic even more than frightening. Darkness visible.

Both of my sons lived in downtown New York, and while I sat there in the hospital so far away I could not get through to them. It was an altogether dreadful feeling.

That’s my story. But each of us has a different one, a mosaic of the awful morning that changed America.

We have become a family on this site. Most of us didn't know each other then: Where were you on that fateful morning, what did you feel, and what was happening around you?

If we can remember and act on our own feelings as Americans that day perhaps we can move forward to a better decade. 

 

 

 

 

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I cannot help but think of our Nikki Stern and hope that these remembrance posts do not in any way cause her any more sadness. She is so exceptional in her attitude and understanding. This major anniversary must be difficult beyond words.
Boy oh LL that was some day...Your strong and oh so good. I adore you..
Thank you so much for this deeply felt, yet entirely reasonable piece.
Touching piece, Lea.
I was sound asleep in a medical chair for a procedure. There was a TV suspended above me. When I woke up to see the Towers ablaze, I first thought it was a rerun of the movie, "The Towering Inferno."
I've written about this, being at work . . . the stillness . . . the fear. It was a very defining moment, on every level.
Lea, as with a number of other major national and world tragedies we can remember so many details of those particular days. I can imagine on top of the very serious medical situation your husband was facing and the terrible story unfolding in New York, Washington and Pennsylvania, how very stressful it was to be taking this all in and to not be able to reach your sons in the city by phone.

I happened to be in a meeting at my sons' elementary school when the first word of the breaking news story was announced by a secretary who walked into the meeting and everyone in the school office knew several students had parents who worked at the World Trade Center. Fortunately, for those students their parents came home that day.
Read and appreciated.
Beautifully put, Lea.
Lea, at our school, students and professors were gathered around the televisions near the campus book store. Usually, that location is busy and noisy. On that day, I remember the eerie lack of sound, except for the announcers on the screen and a few people crying. There were several hundred people gathered. We knew the world had changed.
Lea, I had just turned on CNN in the kitchen on a whim at 8:45 our time. I rarely turned on the TV, but this day, I did, just in time to see the live coverage, and the second plane hit the second tower. I felt a palpable scream through the ether as thousands of lives were taken. I watched for a short time before I had to leave for the first session of a new course I was taking through St. Lukes hospital, The Solution. We sat in class with twelve people in shock, finished class and went home to figure out what else had happened.

My mother was in KU Medical Center with my father who was on the table getting a pacemaker. The doctor had to call the staff back in and tell them to turn the TV off and pay attention to the current patient.

My then-husband had the same problem with his nursing staff. He had to repremand them, telling them that we have a REAL patient on the table that we could lose right now. Turn it off and get back to the task.
Mine was nothing like that traumatic. I was making breakfast and tea, listening to the radio--my regular breakfast routine. The first inkling that this wasn't just the second Tuesday in September was the entirely unexpected announcement "The World Trade Center is gone" between pieces played on my classical music station.

The day was definitely tense, everything felt ominous, but being on the West Coast, a continent away from the most immediate tragedies, it also felt like "hurry up and wait." We were wondering if the next shoe was going to drop on us, next.

I suppose I feel worse about the way 9/11 gave George Bush far too much causus belli, licence and what have you to wage war and curtail civil liberties and torture prisoners in our name than I do about the day itself.

rate.
Interesting how many of us were up and about and in medical situations.
Your sons were in NYC at the time? Your husband had terminal brain cancer? Oh, how frightening, how terrible, Lea. I'm sorry to hear. Were your sons okay?

I haven't talked or written about my day, that day, since it happened...maybe it's time, but I just am not sure I want to go back to the details necessary to re-tell.

The one person I knew then personally affected by a family member's death was Edie Lutnick, whose brother died that day, but I didn't know her very well, we met at a gathering here in Oregon years before 2001. After that gathering she sent me a postcard of the NYC skyline with those towers front and center, I found it years later and that's when I looked her up online and learned her brother had died. I keep that postcard on my frig to this day.

I do appreciate hearing about your experience though.....what a tough one for you, I appreciate your being willing to share with us.
I also think daily of Nikki and how her personal grief is by nature on public view, must be a terrible thing. She is a person full of grace and I wish her the best. I also am sorry for your loss, all of this must bring it back for you. Grief is a funny thing, we don't know what will cause us to remember. From my vantage point with no personal connections to the tragedy, I view it more from a historical perspective as one would view Pearl Harbor. Yet I understand the reverance one must feel visiting the site in Pearl Harbor above the USS Arizona.
My optometrist had called first thing that morning so I had left work to pick up my new glasses. While I was finishing up, a tech's mother called to share the news of the first plane hitting the WTC tower. During the ride back to the office I tried to find news on the radio but no one had picked up the story. I rushed back to work where I would be able to find out more info. I told the folks in the office what I'd heard and we pulled out a TV set that had very little reception, but it was enough for us and everyone in the area to get information. One woman was particularly upset when the first building collapsed and broke down in tears. She searched for someone who would be open for a hug in our work environment and I was the only one who offered what she needed. After a morning spent in front of our TV, we were eventually released and told to remove our government badges before leaving the buildings. The thing that sticks out for me most was the absence of planes in the sky that week.
It must have been an eerie feeling to watch what was happening, knowing that very soon you would be mourning as the victims' families were mourning the loss of a loved one. My deepenst condolences.
Yes, it was surreal to be around so much death,

Thanks again, all, for your input.
I feel very still, reading this. Respectful and sorrowful for what you went through, while we all went through what we went through, in our own ways, and that you have the generosity to share it.
I've already written about it here on OS, in the past, but I was in bed, asleep, that morning. My son called from his work, a few blocks away, to tell me "They've hit the World Trade Center and the Pentagon." He was disoriented but said it was all over the news, so I turned on the TV across from me and watched and puzzled as I woke up. The second plane hit. I knew what would happen next, and by then also realized something surreal was going on. I saw the towers fall before I called my girlfriend in California to wake her and let her know so she wouldn't go walking into the day unguarded. Then I was called to the National Naval Medical Center and wound up at the Pentagon. My youngest was at Georgetown at the time, in her dorm, directly across the river from the Pentagon. The entire interlude was for me like having been rear-ended by a tractor trailer. Nikki has been an inspiration to me as well as a wonderful friend. She goes on. Somehow we all need to learn how to do that.
I've already written about it here on OS, in the past, but I was in bed, asleep, that morning. My son called from his work, a few blocks away, to tell me "They've hit the World Trade Center and the Pentagon." He was disoriented but said it was all over the news, so I turned on the TV across from me and watched and puzzled as I woke up. The second plane hit. I knew what would happen next, and by then also realized something surreal was going on. I saw the towers fall before I called my girlfriend in California to wake her and let her know so she wouldn't go walking into the day unguarded. Then I was called to the National Naval Medical Center and wound up at the Pentagon. My youngest was at Georgetown at the time, in her dorm, directly across the river from the Pentagon. The entire interlude was for me like having been rear-ended by a tractor trailer. Nikki has been an inspiration to me as well as a wonderful friend. She goes on. Somehow we all need to learn how to do that.
A moving slice of life on a momentous day that you wrote here, Lea. Maybe I will write something, too.
I cannot even begin to imagine the double tragedy of being where you were during the attacks. Your account of the things going on in the hospital as the Towers fell is heartbreaking beyond belief.

I was in my house that morning with my 2-year-old son. My older son had just started kindergarten. My sister, who lives in NYCity, called, yelling into the phone that a little plane had just hit the World Trade Center. I put the TV on and watched in horror, thinking a private plane had crashed and how horrible that was. On my way to bring my car in for my service appt., I learned that they thought it was terrorists. When I overheard a man at the service station say, "They got the Pentagon too," I remember thinking, "Who could make a sick joke like that at a time like this."

Once back at my house, I realized the true horror. As I watched the traumatic news coverage, my mother-in-law called in a panic, asking about my husband, who worked next to the Twin Towers. I reassured her, telling her that he left late and he was most likely not downtown yet. Then I tried to get in touch with him and was unable to for several hours. I was numb with fear until he finally called from a friend's office. He had been in the subway under the World Trade Center when the plane hit. He had to exit and run through the streets, watching the buildings fall and fleeing for his life through the ash. He recently told me that he ran by a huge piece of the plane's engine.

Sorry this is so long! Once I started it all came pouring out of me. My thoughts are with all the people who lost loved ones that horrible day.
Sitting at the computer reading and responding to several elists, with the local radio station playing - they use the piped in stuff most of the 24 hours. The dj blasted the news of the first tower and I remember thinking (like others may have) that it must be some kind of radio program akin to War of the Worlds.. only then came news of the second tower's fall. Shortly after that I was in the living room with the folks and my brother and his family who happened to be visiting from Maine. Later that morning I went on in to work at a local state park and of course every radio and television was tuned to the ongoing news. And the news was on the lips of every employee and park visitor ; I remember the reactions of some coming in throughout the day from having been on the lake, they hadn't heard. And coming home that evening to sit and listen to more news, to my brother's still raw reaction (he who had served four tours in 'Nam in the Navy). To the discussion between him, his wife and the parents, knowing that going back home through New York was the way they had to travel back. It was very late to bed that night.

The above para is how that whole day felt, altogether, undirected, and definitely surreal.

Rated for a memory still sobering.
I so appreciate your additions here. Sobering, all. Karin, your's especially was so harrowing.
You were in the midst of having your very own significant event that is surreal to begin with. The layering upon of the towers falling must've just seemed like a dream.
Yes, you hit it, L. A surreal feeling that many in that clinic felt, and that seemed to numb them to the awfulness. Such grief for everyone. All of it, awful and brutal.
Thanks for sharing this well written piece. It sounds like it would have been a very difficult week for you even without all the trauma of 9/11 terrorism.

I was on a train, on my way into downtown Chicago for work. I was over halfway downtown when many cell phones on the train started ringing. People were getting the news about the plane hitting the first tower in New York. A few minutes later, we plunged into the subway. People were nervously talking about the news they've just gotten and waiting, since we had no cell service in the tunnel.

When I got into the office a little while later, everything seemed off. I walked down the hall and saw a TV on in the conference room, very unusual first thing in the morning. One by one, co-workers gathered in the conference room, and stood around the TV watching as the second plan hit, mostly silent. It did not seem like it could possibly be real.

The bosses decided by 10:30 a.m. that the best thing was to send everyone home, because Chicago was under a security alert. I walked through the Loop on my way to the train. The streets were nearly empty and eerily quiet for a weekday morning. People on the train were subdued and unusually quiet.

I tried to reach a few friends on New York, but the calls would not go through. At the time, my sister-in-law's sister was a flight attendant for United. I wondered if she was on a flight at that moment and if it had been hijacked. We did not hear from her for two days, then we learned that she had been on a London-bound flight when the hijackings were happening. Her flight reached London without incident, but she had no way to get home until the suspension of flights was lifted.

One of the things I remember noticing in those days immediately after 9/11 was the quiet of the skies. We get used to seeing all those planes overhead going to and from O'Hare and Midway. When there were no flights, we became acutely aware of how eerily quiet it was in their absence.

A few days after 9/11, I went to a concert I'd been looking forward to for weeks - David Byrne. He'd driven in from New York, and he talked a little bit between songs about the shock of the week's events. He and the band played an excellent show, both passionate and subdued. A few people called out requests for "Psycho Killer." He ignored those requests. One guy kept calling out for it. David Byrne said, "No, I will not play that song tonight."
The view from the midwest is interesting. You were in a big city and had a connection that way, and your sister-in-law, of course. But I wonder how people in small towns felt. Sadness? Fear?
It had never occurred to me what it must have been like on that horrible day to be with someone who had had a fatal diagnosis, making the news even more intense.

The sister who woke me up to tell me to turn on the TV is now dead of brain cancer, but we had no foreshadowing on 9/11.

Like you, I greatly like and admire Nikki.
Hawley, so sorry about your sister.

We seem to have much in common in our roller coaster lives.
I think of Nikki too. I know she's strong enough to navigate this anniversary.

On that day I had delivered my children to school, returned home -- for some reason; it wasn't a customary practice -- I turned on the television sometime early that morning. Then I sat frozen on the foot of my bed, with my hand over my mouth in horror for the rest of the morning. Sometimes that afternoon I walked outside and it was like we were on hurricane alert because all of the neighbors were outside as if searching for proof that the world wasn't ending and that there were other people still alive, and, really, the only other time that happens is when a hurricane is coming and we're all on high alert.

I saw my neighbor, a dear friend, across the street and I ran from my porch to hers and we hugged tightly and cried together.
hey Lea.

we had been living with friends on long island for a few months. my husband and I had moved back to New York and that month he had found a job in CT. because he was starting his job the next day we were packing him up and he was supposed to move into a hotel room up in Hartford that night. so there were already some tears being shed. we hadn't been seperated like this before.

we had the news on, on the radio in the kitchen plus the tv is always on in their house, always silent but on, in the livingroom. we: my husband and I and my best friends john and mickie heard the report of a plane hitting the tower. we rushed into the livingroom where the tv was on abc news, to see the tower with a huge hole and smoke trailing out.

my exhusband slash best friend john said, "it's a terrorist attack!" but he would have said that if a bicycle hit the trade center. he's kind of like that.

still, I think we knew something serious was up. there was a great deal of black smoke. and too many unanswered immediate questions. peter jennings looked worried.

we kept watching intently. then we watched as the second plane banked around and hit. then we knew.
I felt it was a terrorist act when I watched the second plane hit. Before then I was hoping, like most of us, that it was an accident.
I agree with you about the terrorism aspect sinking in when the 2nd plane hit. The news about the Pentagon and Shanksville just twisted the knife deeper.

There was a lot of fear here in Chicago. My office was within 1/2 mile of the federal office buildings, the Sears Tower and Chase Bank's Chicago headquarters, all of which were considered potential targets at the time.

I'd be curious to hear more about small town perspectives from that day.
I remember there were several excellent posts last year Lea. On the actual day i was working for an elected representative who I've called Lindsay. Lindsay was in Asia and the office staff watched TV all day. hardly anyone called. I blogged about it last year,.
Yes, the small town aspect fascinates me. Were you worried in Kansas?
My husband and I were aboard a cruise ship in port in Kusadasi, Turkey, and watched the events unfold live a continent away on CNN, disbelieving. The next few days we were stranded in Istanbul, unable to get home until we were airlifted out. We will never forget. It was life-changing.
No matter where we were in the world, it was a moment of change-- the new normal had begun.