Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington
Woodstock, New York, usa
January 31
Writer, Musician, Dog-Lover
1) Author of critically-acclaimed memoir: REX AND THE CITY: A WOMAN, A MAN, AND A DYSFUNCTIONAL DOG (Random House: 2007) -- which is about a rescuing an abused dog from a shelter in NYC). 2) Author of the forthcoming novel: NOTHING KEEPS A FRENCHMAN FROM HIS LUNCH (2013) - a modern take on the mythical "Feminine Journey" (kind of chick lit Plato); 3) kirtan walli (when I am feeling spiritual, which is daily); 4) lead singer in an all-female Who tribute band (when I am feeling adolescent, which is daily); 5) Editor at "The Bark" magazine (when I feel like musing on the cuteness of dogs, which is daily)

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FEBRUARY 11, 2011 8:52AM

When Your Dog Gets to Kiss Viggo Mortensen and You Do Not

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When Your Dog Gets to Kiss Viggo Mortensen and You Don’t

There’s only one day a year on which I mind being single: and that is, of course, Valentine’s Day. It’s the only day I question whether it might be more fun to be with someone than without. And can there be such a thing as “more fun” if you’re already having more than enough fun as it is as a single person? It’s a thought I ponder for one day only.

          Plus, one could argue that Valentine’s Day is just like any other day, but with chocolate. Heart-shaped chocolate. Perhaps that’s what I mind most – no one is sending me chocolate.  That and the fact that Viggo Mortensen does not know I exist.

          Ah, here’s the heart of the matter, you say. The matter of the heart. Yes, I know that this is just a fantasy, a celebrity crush, ad that I am yet another not-twenty year old woman who has a crush on Viggo, who fantasizes about being swept away by Aragon. SO sue me.

          But there is one thing that sets me apart from all the other “Oh Viggo won’t you rip my bodice” hoard: Viggo Mortensen knows my dog exists. He kissed her. And she kissed him back. And then he kissed her again. On the mouth. I kid you not.

          Before I explain how their First Kiss came to be, let me first say that I’ve never had a serious celebrity crush before. I’m not the type. I don’t have the time have a crush on a real person, let alone someone unattainable and two-dimensional (referring to their photographs, not their personalities). Secondly, I don’t even know who most celebrities are. I don’t watch TV or read gossip magazines or even see all that many movies (Yes, I live in a bubble and that bubble is called Woodstock). And I certainly have never followed celebrity gossip. My sister fills me in on all the crucial details (who has been outed and who remains closeted) but other than that I stick to my fictional world of novels. I am a typical Aquarian: head in the clouds, not grounded to reality, preferring to linger in the safer fictional worlds of my own creation. Except for the New Yorker magazine. And the New York Times. But for eight years I refused to read the Times because I couldn’t stand to see the words “President” and “Bush” strung together. That's eight years without reading movie reviews.

  So how is it that I managed to hear of Viggo during that eight year drought? I discovered his poetry.

  It was the summer of 2003, and I was visiting the apartment of a semi-famous writer whom I was interviewing for Poets and Writers magazine. (He was associated with the Beat poets of the 50s). As I waited for this writer to put on his leather jacket and beret so that we could go out for coffee, I browsed through his bookshelves.  (This is something all writers do, and we often judge our fellows based by what books they display on their shelves. They’re as much a part of our images as the berets. )

Anyway, I happened to pull down a slim, interesting-looking volume of poetry from the shelves by one “Viggo Mortensen.” The name rang a bell, so I thumbed through the pages, prepared to read only the first stanza, and I am wont to do, but by the first page I was hooked. And astonished. The book is entitled “I Forget You Forever” and I don’t have the room to quote any of his poetry here, but let’s just say they are honest and soulful and tender. The prose is delicate but the force of emotion behind them is huge. I could imagine them being whispered in a quiet room.

           I found myself being moved to tears. And the only poet, to date, who has moved me to tears is Rumi.  So that’s saying a lot.

           I have a heart of stone, you see. But Viggo cracked it open.

           “Remind me who this poet Viggo Mortensen is?” I called out to my Beat poet friend.

           “He’s that cat from Lord of the Rings, man,” my friend answered. “He’s everywhere, man. Haven’t you heard of him?”

           “Oh, right,” I said. It was then I had to confess that I had never seen the Lord of the Rings trilogy. It was then I had to confess that I hadn’t even read Tolkein’s book series, because I have always been far too serious and deludely intolerant of “unserious” books, and had therefore declared, at an early age, that had no use for elves and dwarves and Hobbits. As a child I read Jane Austen and Herman Hesse, and could not be bothered with furry-footed midgets.

           Thus I missed out on such hotties as Sean Bean, Carl Urban, and Orlando Bloom. And Viggo, of course.

           “What else has he been in?” I asked.

My friend named yet more movies I had not seen. I actually see more French films than American ones. But I made a mental note to rent Lord of the Rings. I had to see the man behind the poems.

           “You can have that book, if you’d like,” my friend said. “I read it twice. It’s good. That cat’s got it all. Talent and looks. Fuck him.”

           Would that I could.

           Over the next few days, I read his poems over and over again, and fell more and more in love with the writer of these words. Then I began to Google him. And my crush quickly began to border on obsession. My heart of stone had melted and my life has never been the same.

           First there were his pictures. Need I saw I was astonished—absolutely astonished—at how good-looking this man was? (And still is, I’m sure...eyes as blue as the sea!). Then there was the fact that our VIggo not only was a magnificent physical specimen, but also a talented painter, photographer, and musician. And he's a Democrat. Perfect for an Aquarian artist like me.

           I passed the next few months in a Viggo-obsession haze. I won’t bore you with the web-trolling, image down-loading, fan-site drooling details. We all know what it’s like to have internet obsessions.  There I was, near 40, with writing deadlines and a life, and I was spending my nights googling him, or googling “Viggo” + “girlfriend” to see who was blessed with his presence; I joined chat rooms and fan sites, where thousands of middle-aged women would discuss the colors of Viggo’s ties, and his favorite flavor of yogurt. Once, I even tried to see a picture of him naked, because some seedy website promised this, but it was a trap, of course. I was lead to some insidious porn sight and got infected with some computer virus, which caused non-stop images of threesomes and blow jobs to pop up on my computer screen. I was certain even sensitive, feminist Viggo would have been embarrassed.

 Moving forward in the story a bit, I am aware that he now appears naked in the movie Eastern Promises, but I don’t like to see violent movies, so unless someone can send me freeze-frame of that nudie scene, I am afraid I’ll have to forsake the pleasure.

  Anyway, in my obsessive googlings of Viggo, I found out he was a lover of dogs. Perfect! I am a lover of dogs and a writer of dogs and part of my job is to write about lovers of dogs.  I am an Editor at Large at Bark magazine, (known as “The New Yorker of dog magazines.”). So, long story short, I contacted Viggo’s office and asked if he would like to contribute any poems to our magazine, and the answer—Halleluiah—was yes, and thus I acquired an essay of his for Bark quite easily. It is easy to connect with fellow dog lovers, That kind of love transcends the usual loopholes.

           So I now had Viggo’s email address in my personal contact list—how cool was that? And no, I didn’t stalk him. 

 I only stalked him in my mind.  I created an elaborate scenario regarding our meeting and eventual marriage. It was love at first sight – he caught my eye at some film premiere— (my movie of course, because in this fantasy I wrote an Oscar-winning screenplay in which he starred). Then we dated. Then we traveled the world and he proposed to me at some sacred site—say, the Mayan ruins. Then we had a small, intimate wedding ceremony (you know, just close friends like Orlando Bloom and Sean Bean) which included a Native American sweat lodge purification ceremony followed by a barefoot reception on the beach. Oh, what fun we had together! We would grow old together, and remain lovers and soul mates ‘til the end of this lifetime and beyond.

  Then, in March, I received a press release from Viggo’s office stating that his latest volume of poetry and illustrations, "Coincidence of Memory," was being published by his own Perceval Press, and that a book signing party would be taking place at such-and-such gallery in New York City. Right around Valentine's Day! I was going to meet him in the flesh. 

 I went on a diet (speaking of flesh) and bought some new clothing. I spent two weeks sleeping with a tray of teeth-whitener between my teeth, which caused a lot of pain but was worth the effort. Two days before the event I had my legs waxed. One day before I got a manicure and pedicure (something one never does in Woodstock) and splurged on a bottle of mysterious organic perfume which claimed to contain pheromones that would prove irresistible to eligible mating men.  On the day of the book party, I had my hair cut, colored, glossed and straight-ironed. Then I recited some positive love affirmations and Wiccan incantations regarding the love-at-first-sight that was bound to occur; and I prayed to Lakshmi, Saraswati, Tara, Durga, Mary, Athena, Venus, and all the other female goddesses whom I sure were on my side. Thus armored, I prepared my onslaught.

           And decided, at the last minute, to bring my dog. My cute, sweet, attention grabbing, man-loving dog. What was I thinking?

  Once, on a first date, I invited a man to a party in Tribeca that I knew Uma Thurman would be attending. Imagine being in the same room with such a shining beacon beauty. I felt like a flashlight whose batteries were half-dead.  You’d think I would have learned my lesson after that, but no. I had no idea my dog Chloe was going to steal the Viggo show. 

           Neither did the other 800 women in attendance at the book signing. This was a small space, mind you: A contemporary, steel-and-glass gallery with polished white floors, and Viggo’s excellent paintings lining the walls. Viggo was at the far end of the room, sitting behind a long table piled with books. The table served as a kind of barrier between him and the throng of women. He looked a bit dazed and uncomfortable. It’s possible he was hungover, too. 

           In fact, everyone looked dazed. All the women had hungry, pleading, somewhat desperate looks on their faces, as if they felt this would be their one, only, and final chance at the happiness they knew they deserved. They had brought copies of his older books to be signed, and photographs of him, and even new copies of Lord of the Rings. And everyone had a camera, and the room was full of the sounds of flashes and clicks.

  I hadn’t brought a camera, but I had brought a dog, so the crowds parted for me.  They had to, because Chloe would have shimmied past them and knocked them aside if not. I don't know what had gotten into her, but she was bee-lining, it seemed, toward Viggo. Perhaps if she too could not resist his magnetic pull.  Let yourself be slowly drawn by the silent pull of what you really love. (Rumi)

           Chloe pulled me all the way to Viggo, and when he saw her his tired face lit up. Hey, I thought, that look was supposed to be saved for me.

           But Chloe? Viggo smiled broadly when Chloe reached his table, and he invited her around to his side of the table. He began to make smoochy noises, and he invited her to place her paws his lap, and I watched as Chloe kissed him and kissed him and he said “aw” and kissed her back. He stroked her fur. He told her she was so sweet, so pretty. She wagged her tail; she wagged her body. Viggo called over to an assistant to see if someone might bring over a few squares of cheese. “The good cheese,” he said. “The Spanish goats’ milk.”

  I was both tickled and crestfallen. Not once did Viggo look at me, or admire my tall Italian boots or my frilly French blouse. Not once did we lock eyes (his eyes were as blue as the sea!) or fall in love.  No, it seemed my fantasy man had fallen in love with Chloe. I’m surprised he didn’t slip her a key to his hotel room, which is something groupies apparently do.

  The caterers brought over some cheese—on a tray!—and Chloe took the treats from Viggo’s hand, and kissed him again. Then, to show her pleasure, she rolled around on the floor a bit, sashaying upside down like a fish and splaying her legs in the air.

  Just what I would like to have done.

  I was surprised at how crushed I felt! I felt ugly, undesirable, foolish, invisible.  My months of fantasy-hopes, dashed in an instant. Wiped away. I know it was silly to be upset, but why can’t we dream? And if we’re going to dream of a Perfect Man then why not dream about a real-live perfect man? I dreamed, I came, I saw, I was not seen.

  Eventually Viggo told Chloe, in a sweet baby voice, that it was time to say goodbye, because he had to sign some books. Viggo’s attention was drawn elsewhere, and I was left with my hand on Chloe’s leash, smiling dumbly at no one, staring into a void. My fifteen minutes of fame had ended after about sixty seconds.

  I wish I’d had the courage to at least talk to him. I wanted to tell him how much I admired his writings, and his paintings and photographs. I wanted to tell him that I wasn’t there because he was a gorgeous and hot actor. In fact, I even wanted to say, “I haven’t even seen all your films.” But that would be offensive. Mostly I wanted to tell him I loved him for what was inside of him: a poet’s soul. I’m a writer, after all. So I know how nice it can feel to be told someone likes your work.

  But instead, I stepped away, to give other women their chance at happiness. I went to get myself some cheese, and a huge honking glass of wine.

  I wonder if people like Viggo have any idea how epic our encounters are with them can feel to us. I wonder if they realize we go through these high highs and these low lows, and question our self-worths, based on how they react to us. It’s really quite silly – I fully admit this. But it does not take away the sting.

  While I sipped my wine, I watched the other women. Chloe stood at my side, drooling as she stared unblinkingly at the cheese buffet. And she wasn't the only being in the room drooling. Every woman there was staring at Viggo with increduous, nervous, giddy smiles. A bunch of middle aged women, fidgeting like teenagers. We straightened our skirts; pulled down our blouses to reveal more cleavage (mine was fantastic that night, by the way).

In fact, we were all acting as if we were in the presence of Apollo. Or Adonis. Or an enlightened master. But I don’t think Viggo would like being compared to a god or a guru. He just wants to be a regular guy. I mean, it must be hard to be bombarded with all that adulation. 

  At times, I sensed Viggo's discomfort. I saw how he tried to deflect the attention away from himself and steer it toward a fellow writer, whose book Perceval had also published. This was a book signing party, after all, not a Bacchanalian rite. At times the vibe was that of a feeding frenzy a few moments before someone ladles the chum into the water. As the hours wore on and the crowd grew larger and the bodies pressed in, his smile seemed pinched and somewhat pained. The poor dear had reached his limit.

  Then I thought of how his face had lit up when he saw Chloe.  I realized that she was the only being who loved him not because he was the celebrity Viggo Mortensen, but because he was a simple, kind, genuine and dog-loving human. 

  I realized that even my loving Viggo for his poetry was shallow and grasping.  It was shallow, in part, because I wanted him to love me back. And marry me and all that...

  But Chloe, she just kissed him without expecting anything in return. She gave him love him in a direct and genuine way, without disproportionate worship. She gave him the brief moment of happiness he deserved. That we all deserve. 

  I wish I could learn to love like that.

   A few years have passed and I still get embarrassed when I talk about my all-consuming crush and its devastating come-down. But then I had a conversation with one of my friends, who had had a similar obsession on Orlando Bloom. “It’s nothing to be ashamed of,” I remember her telling me. “This crush has awakened something in you. Since your divorce you’ve been kind of shut down toward men. You should be thankful that this person has brought back in you your capacity to love.”

      “And lust,” I said.

      “Oh yes, that too.”

I haven’t googled Viggo in years, but sometimes I remember that it can just be so much fun to love someone.  Now, any time I remember Chloe flirting happily and unabashedly with my fake-boyfriend, I remember all the happy times Viggo and I had together (in my head). 

Love is something you give, after all. It doesn’t matter if he does not love you back.



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I thought I was the only one with the Viggo appreciation. I am now going to have to look up his poetry. This was wonderful. I do think our dogs come to us to learn how to love openly fully unconditionally. I enjoyed and could relate to every line of this. And good for Chloe!
before or after The Hobbit?
This is fantastic. I've had a Viggo crush for years. What an excellent article about the Viggo of your fantasies, and the actual man. Excellent writing. And good on you, Chloe!
"You lucky dog" takes on a whole new meaning after reading this. If you love Viggo like I love Viggo (and I've never googled Viggo + girlfriend so you win) it's worth watching Eastern Promises and fastforwarding through any violent scenes to see him in the sauna, covered in tattoos. This is too funny.
I was initally attracted to him on looks alone from the first time I saw him in A Walk on the Moon, though I had forgotten about him until he starred in the LOTR trilogy (amongst my very favorite books and films). When a friend told me about his other art I became obsessed as well. Such an all-around artist and humanitarian. *sigh* makes me feel like I'm 14 again!

For that scene you were looking for check out The Indian Runner, a very good film written & directed by Sean Penn. There is some violence in it but it is not a violent movie like Eastern Promises was. Enjoy!
My favorite Viggo story... he is well known for getting into a character and living it for weeks or months before and during a film shoot. (During Lord of the Rings filming, he carried his sword everywhere so he could get used to what it felt like to wear one.)

When he filmed Eastern Promises, he was dressed (and tattooed) as a Russian mobster. He went into a cafe in a Russian neighborhood in London in costume, and half the people in the cafe left because they were afraid of him.
I rise up and scream "VIGGO!" whenever he shows up on screen the first time. No I don't, but I'm thinking it. Thank you for this very revealing and entertaining read. It is difficult to admit these weaknesses in us.

I tried to find one of his books before, but failed. I'll have to see if anything is posted online. I don't think google would judge me for that. I'll keep 'girlfriend' out of the search terms.
P.S. You're dog's a lucky bitch.
Sweet story but all that prep and you didn't think of one of those really short leashes? Like a handle, less than 18" long? So he couldn't possibly miss you?

I've heard his name but always confuse him with that bald guy who makes fast car movies, I think ... the one whose name I can never remember ... Sometimes it's good to be old.
Must add: Went to check out his books on Amazon - see what I found -

I Forget You Forever
6 used from $77.89 1 collectible from $86.25

Coincidence of Memory [Hardcover]
2 new from $139.20 9 used from $91.01 1 collectible from $400.00

The collectible one is signed. I hope you got yours signed.

This guy must be one helluva writer and/or you are not alone in your mad crush!
Nerd Cred and others - go to Viggo's own website www.percevalpress.com and buy his books there. I bought one of his earlier books a couple of years ago - the very same one that others were paying ridiculous amounts for on ebay. He also posts interesting articles/essay/poems there from those he admires.
You can also order books directly from Perceval Press. Direct link to the man himself....
I thought he was married, with kids and everything.
And sigh.
I interviewed Viggo Mortenson way back when I was a film critic and while he's not my type, I was impressed with his intelligence. It's not all that common in actors. The fact that he's an animal lover seals the deal. And I'm a cat person.
just saying the name viggo mortensen sends chill down my spine..oh lala :)
Does anyone know where he is these days or what he is doing? I haven't cyber-stalked him in years!
God this was a good article. I loved every single thing about it.

The sole reason I fell for Viggo was the way he interacted with his horse in the LOTR trilogy. Before I watched those movies, I had seen him, and of course thought he was handsome but that was it; I don't generally get crushes on actors. What did it for me was that you could tell he we was really trying to connect with the horse.

What sealed the deal was when I read that a) he slept in the stall with the horse that played Brego during filming to bond with him b) bought him and kept him after filming was completed and c) bought one of the more valuable horses from the production for one of the horse trainers on set who loved this particular animal but did not have the means to buy him.
I am a fan of The Viggo, through his poetry first and foremost! Then I saw one or two films, then Hidalgo - which made me go back and Love this extraordinay man beyond all sanity! His paintings are totally intriguing, the photographs are so very thought-making, and I can only bear to read his poetry when I am totally alone for two or three days, he slices me to pieces with his depth of meaning in such few words - I DIE!! The books are poetry in themselves, to hell with the expense - I want mine buried with me! I'm still not sure I want his body , its his mind I worship . but your admission of Fantasy Love is beautiful - hang on to it - We are humans, and that is all that keeps us going , the dreams of Something Big and Beautiful and Beyond our grasp, although some,( Viggo?) seem to be close to that Dream Person ! Poor man, adulation must be so STICKY, yucky for him.
What a fun read!
I opened this because of your Viggo obsession. My wife had/has that to this day, and she met him in 1990 on a film shoot. She talked about him shortly after she and I began dating in 2000, and will still speak of him to this day.
But the real joy in this piece is the simplicity of canine love. Wonderful writing.