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Leonde Delmare

Leonde Delmare
Location
Sticks, Maine, US
Birthday
February 22
Title
Lifter
Company
Iron Works
Bio
I was born in Philadelphia but not sure where I will die. Everything that has happened in between is history.

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JULY 10, 2010 8:23PM

Are these my mom's last words to me?

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My mother has been in hospitals (yes, plural) for months. I visited once but my parents live in Florida. My mother has been close to death but seems to miraculously rally repeatedly. She is not ready to die.

In the last week, I only got to talk to my mom once before today and that time was yesterday morning. Yesterday, she was trying to call my father but dialed me instead. I had the chance to tell her I loved her before I called my father and told him to call her. My mother has trouble making a phone call because her hands are extremely gnarled and crippled by rheumatoid arthritis.

This week, the medical staff weaned her off the morphine and switched her pain medication to percocet. When my mother answered the phone tonight I asked her how she was doing and she told me, "I'm sitting on my backside and putting on my socks. That's what I'm doing."

My mother has most of her left leg amputated along with many other serious ailments that prevent her from putting on her socks. She hasn't been able to put on her socks for years because she has severe rheumatoid arthritis. Now she only has one leg and that leg's foot has a horrible bed sore.

I didn't have a chance to tell my mother that I loved her because the nurse whisked the phone away from her and handed the phone to my father. I didn't even get to say goodbye to her. Everytime I get off the phone with my mother, I wonder if that time will be the last time I'll ever talk with her.

How strangely sad yet laughable will life be if the last words from my mother to me are, "I'm sitting on my backside and putting on my socks. That's what I'm doing."

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Just know she loves you, socks or not! My mom used to see cats in trouble ....where there were no cats.
I really hope you both get to talk soon.
Best wishes to you and your family - it sounds like quite a load!
i'm right there with you. the other day at the re-hab facility, she introduced me to her nurse four times in then minutes.
Well, yes, that would be strangely sad yet laughable...but I will chose to believe that the next time you talk, which I just know will be soon, there will be more. Something you need.
Hang in there...this must be devastating, hun.
perfect last words, if they are...
Leonde, it looks like many of us are going a similar period in our lives regarding our parents. Sometimes it's impossible what to think. Sharing and offering support to each other, I've found, is one way of dealing with this unavoidable passage through our own journeys. Good thoughts and wish you strength. ~R
*"I'm sitting on my backside and putting on my socks. That's what I'm doing."*

Circumstance aside, look at what she's said. It's wonderful. It can't be anymore everyday than that, and everyday is a really good thing when life is anything but - there are certainly worse exit lines ;).

But I too have hope that you will be at her side when she does leave.

Rated for life's (sometimes oddball) sense of humor.
I'm with Seer. Even if it's not possible, she thinks it is, which means she's feeling feisty and unafraid. Not such a bad state to be in. So very hard on you and your father, but still, maybe you can take some comfort that it doesn't seem to be so hard on her. And somehow I believe she knows you love her, because you do.
I so relate to this post. I hope that you will ultimately be able to have a more rewarding conversation with your mother.
Thank you to everyone who stopped by here...so kind...I'm working 2 jobs right now and am not here as much as I would enjoy to read and respond. I am in a financial situation that is hampering me from being in Florida with my mother and I feel like I am in a losing race against death...my father seems to think it is more important that I make money than be with my mother...my family has always been sad like this - all of you who have been so kind to read and comment touch me with love and when I can, I will respond more and visit your words - thank you and wishing love and the best to all of you.
Oh Leonde. I know this. There is much life in the minutiae. From a distance, sock talk is the love.
Finding humor throughout these times is a good thing. Best to you and yours.
I got a PM from someone today. PLEASE NO ONE! worry about my financial situation. I have a roof over my head and I am digging myself out of this financial wreck. I know so many of us are paddling frantically in the same boat. I appreciate the kindness but I will be fine. The thoughts written here are enough to keep me feeling not so alone. Thank you everyone who stops by here with their kind words. 5:30 am - going to go walk up the hill and down the hill and go for a swim for mental and physical well being. Please be careful who you offer money to...there are those who make a career playing the victim so that kind and loving people open more than their hearts. Love is all I have ever wanted and am so grateful for the hearts that have gone out to me here. Bless you all and may your love come back to you many times over.
It reminds me of my grandmother, who, while trying to operate a tape recorder was asked, "What are you doing?" Her reply was, "Dancing with the elephants! What does it LOOK like?" Maybe your mom is being sassy like my grandmother was.