I have had the unfortunate experience of dealing with a mother with dementia and a brother that is utterly cruel and dishonest. Adding insult to injury I have just dealt with a court system that is only geared to take money from the ward (victim) for themselves and the state.… Read full post »

     Well I haven't posted in over a month because I haven't had anything on my mind I wanted to share. I did kind of "get into it" over politics last night with a young, gay, Orange County republican. I am not anywhere near the expert analyst of politics so many on… Read full post »

     Hanging at the pool over the 4th weekend with a straight buddy of mine (one of many) I was talking about how men are largely the same regardless of sexual preferences. John and his wife Alex are good friends and we love to talk about anything and everything. John challenged… Read full post »

      I haven't felt like a real, intimate, bonafide community member since childhood. Living in a neighborhood that is an actual kind of brother-sisterhood of people who live together, play together and do that lovely thing of just relaxing and being in each others home… Read full post »

     I felt the lure of LA as far back as my teens in my little hometown in the south. I remember driving around town as a teenager playing the Beach Boys in the car on beautiful summer days and pretending the ocean was just on the other side of the… Read full post »

      Not long, a couple of weeks, after I posted Texting: The Perfect Man Tool, as fate did have it, there was a breakdown in commnication via texting regarding a date. I had met someone who wanted to arrange to meet out for drinks and get to know each other better.… Read full post »

     As the saying goes "Getting old is not for sissies" and neither is dating when in ones forties, fifties and perhaps beyond if one still has the courage and desire. Personally, I know more now about how to deal with relationships than I did when in my youth, even&nbs… Read full post »

     One would think after a lifetime (so far) of crashing and burning in the relationship/dating arena that it would be easier, and even seemingly wiser, to just forget about the whole thing and dedicate one's life only to the service of mankind, become an honorary Tibetian monk,… Read full post »

     The possibility of creating a good relationship is next to nil when we haven't figured out our mistakes in previous ones. It is so easy to say "I have bad taste in partners, or I only meet jerks, or last but not least, it was their fault." "If only they… Read full post »

     So I was at the gym yesterday. I have been having a relapse of a onery, nasty chest cold for which I am having to do a second round of antibiotics, so I wanted to hit the sauna and try to get some poisons out. I have been having… Read full post »

     I was dating a guy around my age about a year or so ago, and my first clue that it wouldn't work out should have been his propensity for texting. That someone who is supposed to be mature finds texting preferable to talking was definitely unsettling. We were in a… Read full post »

     Is network TV finally answering cable's call to arms? Am I going to be too distracted now to get any writing done? Can I stop asking questions and say something? I hope so. There are so many good shows on network TV right now that it could be seriously distracting.… Read full post »

     So what happens when those precious years of emotional development are lost? What happens is we have an adult with the emotional development of a preadolecent or somewhere in adolescence trying to suddenly cope as an adult in an adult world. Do they understand that they have… Read full post »

     I remember when I was a kid, probably thirteen or fourteen, reading a nationally syndicated columnist's article about gays. Now this was the early 70's, just prior to homosexuality being taken of the list of mental illnesses by the psychiatric association. He was pontificatin… Read full post »