~Hurts that are intentional or not intentional seem to run deep and cut like a knife so to speak. But is there is such a thing as too many to get past and move on from? We all have our stories, our hurts, my hurts that I will not go into and then there are those hurts that I have done to others. Some sadly intentional in my younger, stupid years and some totally unintentional yet here I am reeling still from one that happened awhile back. One that I hurt a person to the point I am avoided so to speak, wow that woke me up! It would wake anyone up would it not? I live for my family, my friends, and I do my BEST at all I do, be it work, cleaning, cooking you name it, I try my best. But yet here I sit knowing I hurt someone beyond repair it would seem, beyond fixing, beyond any of that...Then there are hurts I am "attempting" to get over that have been done to me. Personal hurts that sting to the very core, years later so why do I feel compelled to put these feelings out there you ask? Because it sat with me for the better part of the night last night, going over past things, past hurts...Is there ever a time where a person cannot simply move forward, where too much damage has been done? That is the question I have for you all my fellow OS'ers. May this New Year bring wonderful and beautiful things in everyone's lives and as always thank you for reading my ramblings!
Blessings~
Sarah
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I don't think you need to define "too many" really. But maybe if you rethink that phrase "a time where a person cannot simply move forward, where too much damage has been done"... what is the definition of not moving forward?
And of course, may you move forward with surprising ease in 2012.
Forgiveness is vital, but I do believe in learning and not forgetting is key to moving on as well.
A very happy new year to you as well!
Recently I was at the same event as a woman with whom some years ago we felt each wronged by the other. I still maintain she did Bad Things and my Bad Things were mainly in not handling it well. Whatever. She said hello and gave me a kiss on the cheek. No follow-up...and as far as I'm concerned there never will be. I bear no ill-will...but no goodwill either. I hang out with other people now.
Ditto a couple of other people. I have no interest now or in the future in ever going beyond hi-how-are-you. They feel the same.
There are other hurts. I still sometimes, a quarter of a century since he died, have spells of raging at my first husband.
Getting past hurts, for me, is seeing what there is to learn about how to deal with people in future - tho every new situation is, well, new - and then going to one side (avoidance) and forward.
Hey, and some of it is existential. We cannot totally avoid hurting and being hurt.
You appear very bright.
Sarah's Husband bumps.
Sarah etc., rambles great.
Your face shines glorious.
Tend that little child well.
Never stomp on a shoot.
Shoot is tender growth.
You reminded me this:
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Married thirty years
Still wondering what?
What he saw in her
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