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Every now and then, I get together with a bunch of college buddies. It usually happens for no particular reason. One of us decides that it’s been too long since we’ve gathered to drink, laugh, boast and lie. So we meet. We eat and imbibe.  We flirt with waitresse… Read full post »



Sometimes, the office gets a little stifling. I find myself drawn into details, immersed in minutiae, heading down a slippery slope toward micro-managing my staff. Which I hate, and I strongly suspect makes my people mutter darkly about me. And nobody needs darkly-muttering emplo… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 11, 2011 3:37PM

Now Just Be, Together


Now, don’t look

Don’t see at all

Don’t hear glass shatter

Don’t feel gray dust

Don’t smell the awful

Don’t taste harsh grit


Just don’t look

Don’t see things fall

Don’t hear the voices

Don’t feel sweat trickle

Don’t smell r… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 4, 2011 2:36PM

I Shrank Again Last Night

Multi Grain Cheerios  


It always happens during the night, and I don’t actually feel any different when I wake up. When I open my eyes, the ceiling looks the same, with the same morning blurriness. The sheets feel the same, and whisper the same entreaties to just reset the alarm and enjoy… Read full post »

WTF Albino 

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As a New Yorker, and as a man, of course I’m excited about the new fall fashions for women. It’s nearly autumn, and I want to know about the things in which the gals will soon be wreathed, wrapped, button… Read full post »

AUGUST 31, 2011 5:14PM

The Woman who Made Me Bleed



I like Valentina a lot, in spite of the fact that she’s a little too much like me. And by that, I suppose I mean that she’s very focused on her work and career. And that she’s not averse to an occasional noisy evening of nocturnal gymnastics, on a… Read full post »

AUGUST 28, 2011 6:03PM

A Head in a Lake



Dawn peeking fades stars

At lake’s mid, gentle moves hand and foot

In still water treading soft

Buoy a head just, just



Strange place to greet the day

Silent private cool

Far from shore

Head back, eyes



A loss, and not the first

Sad, not bitter… Read full post »

No taxes 


I am a capitalist exploiter. I benefit from the labor of my employees. They are nice people, smart people who work hard. I pay them a salary every month, but they generate more revenue for my company than I pay them. That revenue is large enough to cover all… Read full post »

My car 


Part 3 of 3. 

Please read Part 1 "Teaching a Girl to Drive" and Part 2 "A Girl in my Driver's Seat". 

I could tell Beth was close to erupting. She had a scary look on her face, and I’d seen it before. It was a look that spoke of… Read full post »

AUGUST 8, 2011 9:55AM

A Girl in my Driver's Seat

Hair blowing  


Part 2 of 3.

Please read Part 1.  


Kayla was examining the exterior of my car, an exquisite beast that proves Detroit can match its German counterparts at every turn. “Looks kind of like a stealth fighter jet,” she said.


“I know,&rd… Read full post »

AUGUST 7, 2011 5:14PM

Teaching a Girl to Drive

Intersection Double X 


Part 1 of 3. 


There are lots of things I’m not good at, of course. But I don’t worry too much about those things. Where possible, I try to surround myself with people who are strong where I’m weak. I’ve found this to be a winning life strategy,… Read full post »

JULY 2, 2011 1:37AM

Sometimes the Wind Worries Me


If you sat down beside me, we would talk. About lots of things. It would be interesting, because it always is. I’ve never met a person – not a single one – whom I didn’t find fascinating in some way or other. Because every life and every way is singular.


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Flip Face MTN 


It’s very nice to be a handsome man. People treat you well, and assume you possess virtues that you don’t. You get to enjoy that subtle once-over appraisal (and sometimes twice-over) from women young and old. You get away with things you shouldn’t. And there&rsq… Read full post »

Unhappy is sexy 

Photo from University of British Columbia, via CBC News


Everyone who knows me is well aware that I keep a close eye on the latest in research about men and women.


What you may not know is that I also adapt my approaches to women, according to what the… Read full post »


What happened between me and Tracy happened only once, and we never spoke of it after. But I thought about it. I sure did. With a mix of longing and maybe-love and bright shame. The ingredient emotions never melded together, each retaining its own distinct tang and sting down the years.


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MAY 17, 2011 11:13AM

The Woman Who Just Smelled Wrong



I don’t know how to put it any better: the lady just didn’t smell right.


She was central European, my age, multilingual, very well-read, smarter than I, and an all-round woman with whom to be reckoned.


I first spotted her at a dry, boring business recepti… Read full post »

Westminster Red 


Nigel and Simon were drinking Scotch and grinning at me when I arrived at the mahogany panelled London hotel bar. That didn’t bode well.


I watched them carefully as I removed my trench coat, signalled the waiter for three more drinks, and dropped into a chair.


&… Read full post »

Chocolate cake 


I’m irritated with David Sirota, because he compelled me to write another blog post. I’ve been trying assiduously to devote my time to more productive pursuits. Such as landing new work contracts, picking out this season’s swimwear purchases, and persuading cert… Read full post »

MARCH 23, 2011 1:29AM

I'll Stroke You to Sleep


Because you have skin

And I like your skin

And your skin is soft

And your skin is electric

And it makes you shiver that way

And it makes you close your eyes

I’ll stroke your skin


Because you have lips

And I like your lips

And your lips are… Read full post »

MARCH 21, 2011 1:38PM

World Goes Nuts Over Libya War


Scandinavians on warpath to Libya (Scandinavians may not look exactly as depicted)



Am I the only one who finds the international positioning on Libya very confusing?


I’m not denying fo… Read full post »

Orgasm Inc Poster 


The issue, and the attending controversy, have been building for years. The 1998 FDA approval of Viagra for male erectile dysfunction stoked the fire. In 1999 the Journal of the American Medical Association published results of a survey that produced the oft-quoted datum that 43%… Read full post »

Highschool hallway  


Okay, so my English teacher wants me to start writing a “journal”. Which is kind of like a diary, I guess, but less… you know, personal. Because she’s going to be reading it, and all.


I haven’t totally figured out how to do it yet. I mea… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
MARCH 3, 2011 1:17PM

Shameful Secret: I'm a Man Who Dances


Loosen your hips, keep your arms down... and go 


I know men like music. And music logically leads to dancing. And dancing logically leads to sex. So what’s the problem here? Why don’t men dance?


I’m not talking about ballroom dancing, though it’… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 28, 2011 5:04PM

I Like Your Face

Face 1 Face 2


In my neighborhood, there’s a lady I flirt with regularly. I always look forward to seeing her. And whenever I do see her, it gives a little lift to my day. She’s not beautiful, she’s not young, and I have no improper designs on her. I’m sure that w… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
FEBRUARY 23, 2011 9:42AM

NY Times' Hyperactive Hyperlinking Must End!

New York Times


Look, I adore you, New York Times. Absolutely love you. I read every page, including about things that I’m completely uninterested in, such as opera, or gay bathhouses, or… Read full post »