I found that different people have different definitions of honesty. Even dictionaries do. One states the act of being honest - basic enough. Others I’ve found - truthfulness, frankness, freedom from deceit or fraud – I really like that one. From my friends I heard just the facts, realism, nothing more nothing less and not lying or telling selective truths. Now that one I really, really like. Also honesty is synonymous with honor.
I want honesty. I need honesty. What do you do when someone isn’t honest? And at what degree? If someone asks if their new orange hair looks good, you can still be honest, just with a little tact, maybe saying that it’s very different for her. No harm, no foul. But when someone is dishonest by omission – forget about it.
I find more and more people say they are honest, but cannot look you in your eyes. Look me in my eyes, if you don’t agree with me then tell me. I can take it. That’s what all of us are all about. We are all different and have different opinions and points of view. My priorities may not be yours. I may not agree with yours, but I accept them.
I have lost friends due to being honest and have more friends for most of my lifetime because we all appreciate honesty. The friends I’ve lost I don’t think were much of friends. The ones I have – both old and new – I treasure. If you have one friend that you can be honest with you are truly blessed. I am blessed multiple times.
I think I’ve found my definition of honesty – Freedom of deceit, not telling only selective truths. I think that covers it.